Hey friends,
hope all is well at your end.
Here we are on a new slate.
You know my friends, I wrote all these topics; self-love, self-improvement, self-help, psychology, and topics for us to explore, but I can’t believe this, I didn’t write about feeling whole ever and how this final piece brings everything in a person’s life together almost like magic.
Coming to the place of feeling whole is a real journey, especially if a person never had the chance in their early years. It takes this life, you know, this experience we’re living that most of us from the beginning have no clue about, and would you believe it, it takes getting broken into pieces to come to the place of feeling whole. Why does it take getting broken into pieces? Money doesn’t make a person whole, to become whole everyone, everyone who wants to live their best and truest version of themselves has to face their demons before reaching the other side, bliss. It’s almost like, “God, it’s been in front of me the whole time, it, in fact, was up to me, I just had no way of knowing how to get to it.” Do you know how lucky you are if you reach the whole state? Many don’t even know about it, and many have reached this concept very late in their lives.
You know the biggest myth is believing that you need something to make you feel whole. This is very real, so many billions of people believe this one, “I need someone in my life to make me feel full or complete.” Wrong, absolutely wrong. If you cannot have fun in your own company, imagine? If you don’t like your own company, imagine?
You know the first article on the link right at the bottom states,
“But when you open to the whole of your experience, you have more information and can make better decisions. You perceive more fully, seeing the big picture, putting things in perspective. You free up energy that was spent pushing down your real feelings. You tune into your body, your heart. You’re less fixed or attached in your views. You recognize the good things in you and around you that you’d tune out. You feel more supported, more protected. You take things less personally.
You feel at home in yourself.”
I simply can say this, when we feel okay with being not okay, with a mistake, a decision, a choice, something we wrote, something we said, a moment where we have to tell someone asking disempowering questions, breathing in and out quietly, staying calm and eloquent that, “I don’t want to answer your questions,” and we know one hundred percent we’re in our power and right, maybe even stopping ourselves to just say, “Wait a moment, I was wrong,”…, you know… when we can stop, take stock, change the meaning, change the negative to positive, change it, caring nothing about what others think and only our truth… and sooo much more, then… then we are fully aligned with who we are, what others see wholly, no mask anymore, we have literally aligned ourselves fully to the source of all light, including that source which lies in every one of us. I tell you; this is magic! Magic!
We do nothing, work effortlessly, changing our family and their mindset, changing the lives of others, bringing in more unity, getting rid of negative thoughts and behaviours, just doing our magical mission with the Midas touch and see how it all comes together, how it all falls into place, how it brings us the people who want just that because, within us, we have broken down and fragmented that which once fragmented us, we know how to deal with it as soon as it reaches our doorstep, yes, that which once consumed our self-confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-value, patience, shame, dignity basically the love for ourselves in many areas of our lives even in being flawed. When we can continue loving ourselves, being kind and compassionate to ourselves, and still be grateful every single day, then yes, that is whole and so much more. T. Dench Patel, 11 January 2021, 17:18
Did you notice one thing? Feeling whole doesn’t need a second person, it consistently requires you to be whole for all things within and then things change effortlessly and magically around you. Everything that comes in magically after is what you attract, even the blessings.
I really like reading this one which is on the second link below.
“To become truly wholehearted in our loving, we have to look at when we have acted in a “half-hearted” manner and when have we been “closed-hearted.” Also, we have to examine when it is that we have responded in a “hard-hearted” way.
Our biggest challenge is to achieve the “whole” in wholehearted. In order to love anyone in a wholehearted way, we need to make ourselves whole first. We must integrate the two forces—the “me” and the “we.”
Let me be clear about the three things that are not wholeness:
- A constant state of happiness
- An ongoing state of acceptance, love, and balance
- A perpetual feeling of well-being
Wholeness truly means accepting “the whole enchilada.” The hard, the sad, the mad, the scared, and the glad are all parts of you. The gratitude and the resentment together make you whole.”
I really recommend the third article in the link if you have been calling yourself “things; mother, cook, gardener, cleaner, housekeeper, storyteller …”
Deepak Chopra’s link on how to become whole, the second last link is also brilliant. I resonated with, “We get ourselves back piece by piece.”
I guess we never know the value of the piece, until it’s lost, found, being born is one thing, then learning one’s value is another, and then becoming whole is something else. – T. Dench Patel, 11 January 2021. 18:26
The last article on the link is very good too and I received great insights from how the writer talks about how she thought she would feel whole when she got into her relationship with her significant other. How she was affected by the judgement of others, the comparing etc.
The links below are in the order mentioned in the article.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-wise-brain/201502/feel-whole
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-be-whole-on-your-own-how-strengthens-relationships/
https://thoughtcatalog.com/lauren-hall/2016/06/the-woman-who-wasnt-whole/
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/how-to-feel-whole-ask-deepak
https://berelateable.com/feel-complete/
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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