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How meditation saved my life

How meditation saved my life

After leaving my ex-partner in the year 2013 I’ve faced challenges which quite frankly I had no idea existed. When you read my book The South African: True Colours the challenges there compared to the challenges with this particular experience is something I still wonder about. If there was ever a time where I thought…

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The power of affirmations

The power of affirmations

I’ve discovered affirmations in the year 2014 after coming out of a relationship with domestic violence. I didn’t know how much I struggled on an emotional and mental level. I knew I wouldn’t take a physical beating or a slap but one thing I was oblivious to, was the mental and emotional blackmail I was…

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The only way you can bring your children up equally is if society breaks the gender gap

The only way you can bring your children up equally is if society breaks the gender gap

I had a privilege to see some of these changes and read the following articles which you might not have got to read. Check out these links below. http://theconversation.com/beyond-pink-and-blue-the-quiet-rise-of-gender-neutral-toys-95147 https://www.standard.co.uk/shopping/esbest/kids/toys-games/best-gender-neutral-toys-a3980866.html https://www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/46530419 https://www.independent.co.uk/news/campaign-for-gender-neutral-toys-wins-scientific-research-award-a6861851.html I’ve taken this from my book The South African: True Colours (Book based on a true story) This was from the chapter “Now…

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The relationship that you have with your mother or sisters or father and brothers while growing up plays a big part in your romantic relationships in the future

The relationship that you have with your mother or sisters or father and brothers while growing up plays a big part in your romantic relationships in the future

Over time I have met women whose fathers or men whose mothers were either alcoholic, abusive (physically or mentally), lost their employment, had a marital breakdown, depression, ill health and loss of custody (I’m sure there must have been other cases too) from all over the world. I also know tons of women and read…

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Are you an educated woman? Does that mean you’re educated in your romantic relationships?

Are you an educated woman? Does that mean you’re educated in your romantic relationships?

Over the last forty years, there has been an uprise in the number of educated women in Britain. Take a look at the statistics on this link https://www.cnbc.com/2017/11/21/women-are-better-educated-than-their-husbands-but-men-still-earn-more.html Here is another link https://www.ifs.org.uk/publications/12951 Over the last eighteen years or so there has been an uprise in the number of educated women in third world countries…

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Mother Nature

Mother nature

Mother nature is a powerful force that can get a country, nation, even the world to stop. Today she’s laid the white blanket flat on the trees, roads, houses and rooftop.   Trees, leaves, and branches are weighed down, but now and then she’ll be the breeze to ruffle them off. She’s arrived so elegantly…

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Victim to Victory

Victim to Victory

There are so many people living in victim mode that they have no idea how much they are cheating themselves of for the small benefits they get from choosing to live as a victim. Playing the victim allows you to get away with bigger responsibilities, makes you feel that you know better and that you’re…

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The power of vulnerability

The Power of Vulnerability

Isn’t it hard to bear it all? Isn’t it harder to bear it all when you know the personality of certain people around you and the level that they are at in their spiritual lives compared to yours? You damn right this is a risk i.e. to show yourself at your weakest point. Some of…

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Taking risks

Taking risks

For a second imagine yourself coming out of an egg and finding yourself amongst a lot of movement. You follow who is in front of you, next to you, on top of you and everyone is rushing to go somewhere. You have no idea, but your instinct is driving you towards the water. You try…

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What story are you telling yourself?

What story are you telling yourself?

It is ultimately the stories that one tells themselves that gives them the life they got and walk through life elegantly. Living in five countries, travelling to over a dozen, immersing into a new life which was different from the culture I was brought up in has allowed me to observe both the world outside…

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Tango Teezer

Tango Teezers

Original Version (A mix of five languages)Check out the news page for the 6th of January 2019 for the artistic version of this poem.Below the original version is the English version.A day where I felt like painting words with poetry“En un día abondonada” Tango TeezersThey are envuelto like eine chocolate, noir draped in rouge, ils…

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Is your family codependent? What is your role?

Is your family codependent? What is your role? Who does it affect?

What is codependency? (According to Wikipedia) Codependency is a controversial concept for a dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency, the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity. I have seen a…

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The Red Kites

The Red Kites

The first time I heard the calling, was when I looked up at the sky that morning. How many times I looked up and saw the birds leaving, and sometimes I’d just look out the window and start daydreaming…   I’d catch myself when they both made eights or circles, and then wondered if they…

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If someone only told you...

If someone only told you…

My book The South African: True Colours was written for many reasons and one of those reasons is the title of this article and everything I write on this blog. Throughout my life and even now I still say, “If only someone told me…” See most people think you already know what they know and…

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What if my child is LGBTQ?

What if my child is LGBTQ?

Just in case you are unfamiliar with the term LGBTQ it means lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer or questioning. Yesterday I was sitting with a group of girls whom I practised French with. We decided to meet at the local coffee shop which they classed as “good enough” being French (saying this with a…

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Change

Change

You know it is hard to often break away from patterns, but it is even harder to break away from the patterns your family know you to have. It is almost as if these patterns give you an identity, a uniqueness, and a personality. When you’re in a culture that expects you to do things…

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Authentic Power

Authentic Power

So here you are… you’re coming out of high school and heading towards college, maybe university, maybe straight into a job or you’re becoming an apprentice. Your school might have provided you with lunch or your parents packed lunch for you. Perhaps you got pocket money or not. The average child would usually get what…

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Messing around with words

Messing around with words

25th November 2018 20:34 I was always a big dreamer. So many said, “You will never…”   In 1997 I started writing poetry. I didn’t tell anybody.   I had a pen and paper under my pillow, and I’d think about the world, my dreams… at that place, we called Willow.   Mobile phones were…

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Jealousy and Class

Jealousy and Class

This topic popped up this morning for me and I said, “Yes, I have a lot to say about it.” Oh boy! Where should I start? Personally, I can tell you how scared I’ve become of people when I realised that jealousy had and has fingers… Oh, yes … you know what I mean. I…

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Your purpose are not your children

Your children are not your purpose

Recently someone told me this, “I am giving all the opportunities to my son, it’s his time now. I don’t need to think about doing what I like.” Many parents feel this way. I’ve wondered a lot about single parents, as well as kids who have both their parents. I’ve also observed families where the…

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Are you feeling stuck?

Are you feeling stuck?

I have seen so many people give up on themselves i.e. the old and the young. Personally, I’ve been in many situations in the past where I too felt like giving up. It is not that you aren’t capable. It is the stories you are telling yourself vs what you decide to expel before letting…

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Living your best life without regret

Living your best life without regret

After living in 5 countries I had and have the opportunity to live and experience life on a level beyond belief with very little regret. Ask yourself how much of your current thinking patterns come from the way your parents and grandparents live or lived. Perhaps how your community is doing things. One day I…

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Worthiness

What is estimating your worthiness?

There are a number of contributing factors to how unworthy you may feel and how exposed you have been to these contributing factors day in and day out. So, I am going to give you some real situations which I have witnessed which created these feelings. Please feel free to amplify your experience and what…

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The patriarchal society and Apartheid

Patriarchal societies and Apartheid

Do you really get to leave the patriarchal society behind if it has been passed on from one generation to the next even if your family are modern? Women in patriarchal societies made sacrifices during the Apartheid era in South Africa and many of them were forced to accept and/or couldn’t escape domestic violence. Let’s…

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