The Brutal Truth or The Hard Truth

Hello friends,

what! Nay, Nay, Nay… Nein, Nein, Nein! This cant’ be the last article of this week…

Where did the time go? Oh! Yah I forgot I was with some neighbours whom I call my Quaranteam having some Quarantinis, while we were on a Corona Party during Virtual Happy Hour before I went off to watch a fantasy concert called “The Rona” live. I paid forty-five cents to watch fifty cent and Nickelback for nothing…

No Coronababies or Covidivorcers … so far…

Was that a shake or what? After the president’s speech on Monday life just went on Toyota Corona auto mode for all South Africans…

You know what? The brutal truth is the best thing you can get but ONLY if the person serving it is of example, … there’s more … you know what makes a person listen to that person? Connection and some sort of admiration. They must know each other, more than just a bit. That is really the key to taking the right advice from the right people, otherwise, can you imagine? Going off any advice, even if it’s wrong.

You must be able to receive it if you’re serving it! – T. Dench Patel, 14 January 2021, 15:55

How do you first get to know the person? Connection, and some sort of a link, i.e., a reason how come you’re connected and naturally they keep showing up in your life. The more they keep showing up, the more you will understand the type of person you are being connected to, their past, their success, their struggle, them overcoming obstacles, etc. This is why you got celebrities, role models with so many followers behind them, yes, connection. Something about them and their connection, their magical attraction to so many people following. Giving, demonstrating, without even knowing the answers themselves, just living true, then let what happens later reveal the revelation. This is a time thing, this is a brutal truth learnt the brutal way, and a human experience in front of so many people to take what they need to excel in whatever way they believe, this is true for both; the person watching and the person going through it. We just don’t know how the whole thing comes together later on.

Ever ended up getting bad advice? We end up getting people who never listen or want to be dished out unwanted opinions (yes us) because of so many bad examples out there dishing out advice to others. There is no one size fits all. My father gave a little person some advice two days ago, “You must do what you have to do, just get it done, know what needs to be done, the important things, so that no one can tell you anything.”

Think about why someone is being constantly nagged at. How come the nagging continues? Have you noticed the nag is actually about raising the standards, that’s why you got another nag just after one has been over and done with? “God! She’s never satisfied, they say,” “God, he’s never satisfied, they say,” but if we understand him/her, he/she is pushing us at our standards, more natural in a woman, i.e., maternal in a woman. When we understand where it comes from it is easier to accept than to deny (alright, there are exceptional cases).

So, what stops us from receiving the hard or brutal truth? Ego.

What stops us from receiving the hard or brutal experience necessary for our growth? Control (This is normal for everyone, because of our life experiences and fear unless we work on this. Not knowing what to control and when not to control it is the hardest call to make but knowing the root of why a person feels like they need to be in control is very important – experiences make people the way they are).

The brutal or the hard truth from leaders who provide constructive criticism is the best thing, this way ego cannot be deceived, the constructive truth is somewhat a truth from someone who believes in themselves and their truth. Often this kind of truth is given by people who continuously work on themselves. T. Dench Patel, 14 January 2021, 16:27

There are all sorts of people out there, sensitive, shy, arrogant, confrontational you name it … but to grow, let’s face it, the brutal or the hard truth is necessary it’s just that all these types of characters have their own people in their lives who are connected to them to allow them to be open to the brutal or hard truth.

Look we can’t grow without hearing brutal or hard truths whether they are relevant to us or not, we can’t stop the person who is dishing out their opinion to us … Not everything can be controlled but you can control whom and what you get your truth from, managing your obstacles i.e., ego, arrogance, attitude (behaviour) be it emotional, physical, mental or spiritual quietly by also taking information via books, YouTube, podcasts, etc.

Sometimes the people who know us the best often give us the hard or brutal truth because we need to hear it, we can’t see it, we perhaps have been ignoring it, we perhaps require that to help shift our current path so that we can be open to more possibilities.

Yours sincerely,

T Dench Patel

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