Are you in prison?

Hello friends,

how is everything going?

You must be wondering where I’m taking you to now. I’m taking you to prison ;D.

Come on, it’s going to be fun because after you read this article you might just end up telling me that you have already been or are in prison.

Okay, while I gather the points together get yourself something to drink. I’m sure by the time you return I will be finalising my points.

Alright, let’s begin with this article, have you been to prison? Or rather let me ask you Are you in prison? Sure, you are, we’re all indoors because of Coronavirus ?. Let me put it in better context.

What I’ve uncovered through journaling, talking to other women and having conversations with people who have been through some traumatic experiences or just some bad experiences was the way people have been dealing with their healing and most of the time there is a withdrawal period which is probably called for but processed differently. Healing requires a safe space and did you know that almost everyone who is trying to heal their internal wounds puts themselves in a prison so that they don’t feel more pain, hurt, disappointment, and all the negative feelings that come with traumatic experiences or plain old bad experiences? This is not bad at all and with guidance from a consultant you can be guided at healing, but the truth is you only know how to heal and focus on the areas that you’re being intuitively called to focus on. You can heal yourself, you really can.

The thing is now that you have healed, are you ready, are you aware and do you know how to break the shackles you’ve put on yourself even if the prison doors are and was always open for you to leave? The massive fear that most women who come out of traumatic experiences face is, “Can I really trust myself now after everything that happened in the past?” If you’ve done the spiritual work can you trust enough to pull yourself out of the most tempting experiences of your life from the best life that is still coming to you and can you remain grounded through it all so that you don’t lose yourself again? It’s hard to do the work, get to the top of the mountain and very easy to then get lost in the unknown. I understand the greatest fear is rolling back down again. Sometimes we don’t know we’re rolling down and we don’t know how to stop it. T. Dench Patel, 14 May 2020, 20:45. The question is and the answer lies in how spiritually evolved are you now compared to back then, and are you committed to keep on evolving so that you can ensure you only find yourself in empowering experiences and navigate through all kinds of weather to live your true calling? That word again, trust isn’t? You just got to go out and live and trust that everything is in divine order as long as you do your part. Trust that the choices you make are right as long as you keep doing the work, accept that it’s okay to slip here and there, that is being human. There will always, always be another chance to make up for it and do better.

We all have created some sort of “prison” and small “cells” in it at some point in our lives and you could still be stuck in that cell on a certain aspect of your life. T. Dench Patel, 14 May 2020, 20:50 Can you determine where you have created one? When I speak about my life in general to some people it could come across as bragging but those who know my history understand that I will have a story or an account that will always relate to a home, city, country, place of work, which is never the same, especially if something just happens to trigger a memory or an anecdote that I could have forgotten or a song that plays and I have a certain memory of doing something stupid at a certain part of the lyrics.

Another way people create prisons for themselves is by creating a very structured routine, as much as you can fit in a day. The best things in life happens spontaneously. Being a bit flexible at least allows you to live experiences outside of the prison you’ve created. To me, it’s stating that these people are too focused, goal-orientated and are choosing their experiences. They’re not opening up to new experiences that choose them. Rejecting these experiences means rejecting to build a muscle for trust in the unknown. I can’t help to ask, is the structure based on fear, fear of what could happen if you just wander into the unknown? – T. Dench Patel, 14 May 2020, 20:59

I’ve just recently realised that I am guilty of this, I was on a call with a consultant who was helping me breakdown the old tracks and replace those tracks with a different meaning and that’s how we stumbled upon this.

It’s time to leave the prison, what say you? It’s had its purpose in its time and place. Let’s move on to better and greater things. Are you coming with me?

Yours sincerely,

T. Dench Patel

Thank you for the comments and support. Thank you for offering to donate if there was a donate button on here. I prefer not to take donations. You can support by either purchasing one of my books (Paperback or Kindle), The South African: True Colours, The South African: Roamer or my children’s book Light. These books can be found on Amazon mainly and other sites in your country.

The audiobook for The South African: True Colours is available on iTunes, Apple and Audible. The South African: Roamer and Light will be released soon.

Note: Do keep referring back to this site as much as possible, as I grow, a more profound perspective may form and so I will always come back to each of these articles to re-evaluate them.