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hope you are well today.
With this being the last article until I go rogue for a couple of days, it’s nice to say that what I have written down on my list of topics has reached its final one, i.e. this one.
While T. Dench Patel is going to go through some transformations stay tuned and hang tight, we would be going on rollercoasters together, fun times to come. ?
Now being unapologetically you – no regrets and nothing to take back in my eyes is not for the faint-hearted and the same time I’d say if you’re not doing any self-improvement work whatsoever then don’t expect people to just lay down, roll over, play dead when it comes to being unapologetically you – no regrets and nothing to take back and expect to go through life on the dark side of karma. When I write about being unapologetically you- no regrets and nothing to take back I am talking about living life on the “light” side of the karmic spectrum. We all have to consistently work on ourselves but if you haven’t even begun looking at yourself, quite frankly, stop saying others should change. Change begins with you otherwise you just find the mirror closest to you that people will keep reflecting when they’re in contact with you, you’re either going to repel or expel awesomeness or you’re either going to attract it from yourself while it’s attracting itself to you.
The question is can you carry all your flaws, vulnerabilities and all your awesomeness on the same frequency, i.e. authenticity? – T. Dench Patel, 21 October 2020, 16:17
If you’re a young adolescent reading this then I will tell you to choose this path before you learn any other feel-good path. The thing is that we (over the age of thirty and forty) didn’t learn this as young adolescents in first world countries but more so living in third world countries, there are so many people trying to control what they want happening to them rather than what they don’t want happening to them and by the way, if you’re focusing on what you don’t want coming at you, be ready cause it’s coming. This stress that comes with high alertness because of the violence and rape culture, the envy and jealousy, the poverty and unemployment and the lack of empowering education is that many people don’t recognise their sense of worth. They’re looking outwards to get acknowledgement. The same with the wealthy who have always known wealth and have always been in the feel-good zone feeling the acknowledgement, love, popularity but is that what you’re creating more of to be liked or are you going with your north star? The north star no matter what input the external world has on/in it. Are you brave enough to reject that input if that is really not you?
When you are unapologetically you – no regrets and nothing to take back you stir your entire world, all those who know you or at least they thought they knew you. Let me tell you what people who enter freshly into entrepreneurial communities say.
“I realised I don’t have any genuine friends.”
“I can’t understand why the people closest to me can’t understand this or support me, yet they say they love me and want to see me happy and successful!”
“People don’t really know who I am. I’ve just become a product of their likes and dislikes because it makes me feel accepted, it makes me feel good, it makes me feel popular.”
“I thought I knew myself, well actually, I don’t. I thought they knew me, actually, they don’t.”
“People around me don’t know this side of me and think that I am trying to be someone I am not when effectively deep inside this is the person who I always was but felt locked up by the circle I just happen to be in.”
Have you noticed when you are amongst people who never ever met you, you feel easier at conversations, you feel less stressed at having to play the unauthentic game to hold up how those who know you perceive you to be, it lets you off the hook, you can be who you want to be?
When one person in the pack decides to follow their north star, you find a whole lot of people feeling threatened.
What happens when you choose the unapologetically you – no regrets and nothing to take back path
You will be asking why everything is now working against you? People no longer see eye to eye with you, you almost feel like nothing is aligning yet you are taking the right path. People will start acting different, while others won’t relate to you anymore. It’s no longer interesting going to that local hangout, passions no longer feel great, the same old same is now outdated. I am simply just putting into a nutshell what this article is saying. Please have a read especially at the term that Hindus and Buddhists use which is called Samskara and how humans can live deep from that comfort zone.
https://daveursillo.com/being-unapologetically-you/
When you apologise for who you are, these mistakes you’ve made (it’s worse when this is on someone else’s expense), i.e. an employer or you holding yourself accountable and someone that is holding you accountable. You cannot really live your full worth. This is one of the reasons why I really appreciated having started my life on £1300 all by myself even though I wished for a stronger foundation. At least this way I knew I wouldn’t be cursed massively for my mistakes. You can read about that in my books based on the true story here and here. It’s really an irony how the father in heaven/higher being is more forgiving than some fathers or lady bosses of this earth whether they run companies, their families or their children’s lives.
Really apologising when you’re learning like everyone else just takes away your self-worth, I have my fair share of stories on this. When you are unapologetically you – no regrets and nothing to take back you learn continuously to rely on your own self-worth than that which many people, many people in this world rely on externally.
Instead of apologising for the why replace it with the best intention and love during the time you can actually do your best, even if that is for ten minutes. I read somewhere, “Don’t take pushy people’s agenda on. They are acting from a wounded place, so don’t personalise their behaviour. Send them love instead.”
Meditation, prayer, affirmations, self-reflections and self-awareness helps a lot to remain centred and at your core so that you can operate 100% from your authentic self. It’s truly knowing and learning about yourself that will keep you at the centre of being okay with what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. While you are learning from your own mistakes at least you can be assured that you are healing your own wounds. We all get knocked off or lost sometimes but if you know the recipe to come back, you will be okay, it’s alright, you can trust yourself.
I have to say that this is one of the best articles I’ve read so far on being unapologetically you.
Things you come to realise when you are unapologetically yourself
I truly like the explanations into each point i.e.,
- People can label you easier
- People will make assumptions about you
- People will call you stubborn or hard-headed
- People will not like your confidence
- The good news and the bad news
To end I also want to leave you with this article How I learned to be unapologetically me.
“I particularly like this paragraph.
I’m constantly present in interactions and I check myself. One thing I realized is that taking things personally is a trigger because suddenly, my ego’s in the game. And it’s no longer about something not working out, it’s about me not working out. And when I’m not working out, I start questioning if I should be different to then fit whatever situation I want to happen.”
And OMG!
This article, I can’t pull out anything from it, the whole thing is brilliant. Please have a read.
This woman’s story reminds me of me before I became submissive to the world. It’s not personal at all when you are unapologetically you.
Alright, it’s my pleasure with this article.
Now, stay tuned, and see you back here in a couple of days.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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