Ahoy friends,
hope you are doing well on this wonderful Wednesday. I can’t complain since I am not hanging over my computer today with my tongue sticking out and my chin dangling on my laptop. Hooray, I am pretty lively today, it rained, it’s cooler, it feels like spring all over again and my fingers are acting like they’ve drunk some kind of booster drink.
Okies, do you remember the time when you were a kid? Maybe we were doing the same thing when we saw Karate Kid for the first time, you know what I mean. That dreaming sensation of your future self, imagining fighting like that, or Bruce Lee, do you remember how you felt when you were a kid when you watched Bruce Lee go “Pakaw”? I used to watch Brue Lee and the way he’d do the footwork and hop around until he’d strike like a snake. Geez! I just felt like a superhero when I watched those movies, I wanted to, Man! I wanted to be able to fight like that even though I had no idea some movies were made just for entertainment; it sparked the inner vigilante in me. It made everything in life seem soooo impossible even though I could not even do one push up the movies made everything look so surreal.
Omg!!! Do you remember what you felt when you saw Indiana Jones? I pretended I was him for some time in my garden excavating stones, oh when you see Tom Cruise in a jet, the famous Ray-Ban at the time and the black leather jacket or wait was it a Bomber Jacket that made my town go crazy? So many people wanted one of those. Now I’m sure looking at one of those movies where a lawyer just looks so cool at handling some of the most world-class cases in something you saw is what you just kept dreaming about until you become one, then what? Hey, what about the first woman helicopter pilot in India? Lieutenant Gunjan Saxena (born 1975), she wanted to become a pilot according to her true-life story on Netflix when she was travelling in an aeroplane on a commercial flight. She was arguing with her brother if she could see the scenery from where he was sitting. Unsuccessful the air hostess took her to the Cockpit.
It can happen where you are so intrigued in becoming someone, this someone from just one experience from a very young age, and then you have several people who fuel it to keep that dream of yours alive, the fire of your desire alive, or you could just end up letting go because the desire burnt out, the challenges insurmountable, someone (so many people will tell you this) tells you to stop dreaming. To become this dream that has been sitting with you since God knows how long, to become successful when you just keep learning about it more and more, keep liking it more and more, pursuing the idea more and more, and just nothing, nothing can put you off, whether it’s not having the money, you still try for it, whether it’s having the money for it and you’re not the right height, size, shape etc … all the rules yet you still get through… nothing, nothing can stop you because you chose it the moment it chose you and you got to see a glimpse of your future self.
So why would it fail until you make it? Speaking from experience… when you see the coolness of it before even feeling how much work it would take to get there because you see your future self in the uniform and not the duty, or you’re seeing the illusion rather than the real reason why. – T. Dench Patel, 17 February 2021, 16:50 You know in this film Gunjan Saxena, it starts with the idea of seeing the scenery while on a commercial flight, then by destiny she got taken to the cockpit, then she saw how cool the pilot looked (not many people will admit this, it’s true though), then she saw what her future self would look like, then to be faced with the idea that you can’t fly planes not just yet but you have a chance to fly a helicopter, it’s still a chance and to take it, that you’d even become a soldier just to fly, anything, anything just to fly… and then boom… she saves so many lives. I certainly say, it starts with one iconic moment that sets up your destiny, which eventually leads you to your purpose. – T. Dench Patel, 17 February 2021, 16:50
So why are there so many of us who are so scattered or even unfulfilled? We haven’t tuned in, we haven’t trusted, we haven’t had self-belief, the confidence to trust and follow the signs. We want to control destiny… T. Dench Patel, 17 February 2021, 16:50 Why I say this is because I’ve missed it in the past, my iconic moment was when I was getting 4/10 sometimes 3/10 for my compositions, I was asked to stand up in front of the whole class, age 13. How would you even see that as destiny, right? Sometimes the freaken hardest of all situations, circumstances, events are that which is destiny until you reach your destination, synchronicity, selective events chosen by the universe or what you’ve asked for? I can tell you for sure that at 13 I didn’t even dream of being a writer (maybe I asked for it when I was angry or something, who knows), or to think I’d be one ever… is just beyond me.
You will automatically get to it, and what a lot of us have done is we’ve forced it, sabotaged it because the schooling system is telling us to pick, then many pressures on us to pick and then we pressure ourselves. We maybe couldn’t see our iconic moment, too young to have understood it, missed it, lost belief in it and most of all no fuel to fire it so that we’ll be motivated to keep learning for what we’re ultimately getting ourselves into and so we reach moments of indecision, moments of scattering, and then the moment that we realise we’re doing this for so many years and feeling unfulfilled, feeling a lack of purpose, feeling empty.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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