Hello friends,
how are you today? Here we are, Tuesday it is.
I was enjoying “Zumba-ing” yesterday, that I have to admit I feel guilty for it. My head just keeps going la la la. It’s something I really must get over. You know, every one of us gets worried if we come across overly awesome or underly disempowering to others. This often happens the older you get, but when I just made my way into the world at the age of twenty-one, I was done with what the world thought of me. I’d say I cared less because no one was paying my bills. Not sure why when we get older, we hideaway. Hey, go and check out my Insta profile if you want to get some inspiration to Zumba, or dance… I luv dancing, yes, more than chocolate.
How about you? Are you wealthy, got everything in this world yet you’re feeling emotionally bankrupt? Maybe you’re not wealthy and right now you’re going through a downward spiral, are you emotionally bankrupt?
What do I mean?
Before you reach emotional bankruptcy, you’ll find that your body would have already been giving you signs, i.e., tiredness, irritation, lack of joy, being forgetful, anxious, depressed, lack of peace, easily offended, worried, gossiping, weak immunity, can’t sleep, lack of sleep or perhaps your mind’s racing … etc.
To reach emotional bankruptcy a person would slowly be debiting their “trust account”. This person will always have emotional conflicts i.e., cannot share with others, express themselves to others, or process their emotions and repress them to such an extent that it manifests as an illness. Basically your “emotional account” could be healthy, abundant or sitting at a minus. How this may come out in a person’s relationship could be in a form of dishonesty, disrespect, blaming, ghosting, petty or betraying, threatening, blackmailing… basically decreasing the “trust” fund.
The perfect article for this and the depth that it goes to which I describe in the two paragraphs above can be found on the first link at the end of this article.
Processing what is happening or has happened in your life is important more than just action, taking on one thing after the next and next whether it’s positive or negative requires downtime. Living in action mode, dragon slayer mode, survival mode without stopping and processing how you go about doing it creates a pattern, and before one thing can be put right, even if it means the smallest issue, the next thing you know is that you’re out there creating a full process without even taking downtime on whether those actions, thoughts, words, decisions come from a positive place. The ultimate question is, is it taking you in the right path or is it taking you away from the good that you want and desire for betterment? Maybe because it’s easy, or it’s just too tempting… later down the line one starts paying for the result of the unprocessed part of the whole stage, especially if there has/have been negative effects.
The negative effects come in as things take a downward spiral.
Article number two below discusses avoiding emotionally bankrupt people and how energy is affected when one is blocked, having to pull back or repress their expressions. How Chakra healing can solve it compared to doctors who cannot explain it.
I particularly like the concept of how the third article from Forbes put it, “You have a rigid thinking – sometimes called “stinkin-thinking” – patterns that feed your anxiety, reminding you how much you have undone.” The article talks about how we overextend ourselves in the workplace that it actually becomes like a drug, almost like one becomes an adrenaline junkie that the burning candle is nearing burnout. The similarity of looking at yourself like a bank account that is depleting and where overloading yourself is more than self-care.
You know so far in just looking and reading other articles out there most of them don’t fail to mention meditation as a practise because it seems to be a trusted treatment.
To me, it’s like this, you’re born with what you need. In most cases we’re all born normal, now can you imagine what someone with one leg less feels, or perhaps one arm or that is for life on a wheelchair? Would you not agree that when we’re young the majority of us are avoiding accidents or risks, we’re more vulnerable and so we are more defensive, and acute on survival. We are also on flight or fight mode. I mean think about the moment we’re told, “Don’t speak to strangers,” “don’t go near a car if it stops near you and do not approach it when the person from the car calls you.” The moment we’re taught the number of the police, and other emergency numbers.
To never being taught that our internal reserves will determine how we manage emotions, friendships, wealth, society, and self in balance, and this will keep emotional “balance” healthy from bankruptcy. Where alcohol gets abused and the people you trust become liabilities and how over time one can reach an overdrawn “trust” account.
The other way round
The emotionally bankrupt person can end up being the person who has been in the company of people who one can call “vampires or bloodsuckers,” i.e., the person who has been taken advantage of and has been left for dead or drained.
One article talks about this as, “I rather see myself as an investor who places his bids in good people, with good emotions hoping for ROI (return on investment). But it just doesn’t work that way. Never has. Things are being dire lately. People take and not give. They expect and don’t return. They forgot how to share. That would be emotional socialism and we won’t have that.” Actually, here is his article, I found it so helpful Invisible Illness – Emotional Bankruptcy.
So powerful when he said this, “I can no longer pay my emotional dues, but my soul is not for sale. Because it is a gift. Somehow, I know I’ll be ok.”
I read somewhere about the root causes of emotional bankruptcy and I liked a statement that went along the lines of, “To be a leader, you’d have to find success in serving other people and not status,”
That’s all that for today folks.
I have left a few more resources below for your perusal.
Emotional Income (Deposit) and Spending (Overdrawn)
How emotional bankruptcy ruins your relationships
How to prevent emotional bankruptcy when you are overdrawn in your career
Three signs that your marriage could be emotionally bankrupt
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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