Hello friends,
how are you, missed me over the weekend?
I missed you too, I don’t know… the pace has been picking up and have you ever felt like sometimes one can be everywhere but nowhere?
You know, I had this topic down on my list. Why? Maybe for some very important reasons, I didn’t write my bullet points down to remember why, but there is certainly no coincidence why I have picked this topic.
I had one titled already opened to write about, I thought I’ll check on my list and this one stood out, I then filed the article I wanted to write about initially because this one just seems so interesting. Now, anyone can reach the place everywhere but nowhere in all kinds of situations and it can happen to anyone.
The everywhere but nowhere dilemma can be damaging if one is in a toxic or negative place in life and then the everywhere but nowhere dilemma can be an interesting place when one is very uncertain or in an uncertain phase of life. I often hear that parenting can put a person in this situation, and I can’t even imagine what’s it like for single parents, saying this, the everywhere but nowhere dilemma can last temporarily for 5, 10, 1 hour, 2 hours or an entire day even.
Now let me think of an example, yes, I have one… In my book The South African: Roamer, I describe an experience. This was interesting, it was my first time where I became a Manager of a business and for roughly two years, I was 21 when I became a Manager by the official title (professionally). Now, to me it was like, okay I work hard, I know I have to, I had many ambitions in life, you know that young spirit that dreams, dreamt and visualised herself without even knowing it’s going to come true? I was that spirit, and so when I took on the responsibility, I guess it was the desires that made everything happen for me and sure earning money was for sure an adrenaline thing, especially when you’re like, “Now, I can go do this, now I can go buy that for me, he, she and it…” While going on living life and taking on more responsibilities there just came a level of capacity that I’ve taken which I didn’t know how to go beyond, maybe a block, almost like not experienced with life enough, or not old enough to know better, and so I began entering a zone of being everywhere but nowhere. Trying very hard, working very hard, and being all over the place, like not a strong force at delegating and this phase soon reached a moment of burnout because I didn’t know concepts such as trust and let go, delegate, prioritise, and this one was the biggest, you can’t please everyone like you used to before you got promoted, here’s another one, you can’t be everyone’s peer when you are their manager.
Yes, now do you see me, what happens, in the end, it’s either time for a break, some education for the next level meaning stepping back a few notches, and when it comes to get rich quick schemes or get there quick without much preparation is when one can get everywhere but nowhere (in many negative ways).
Have you ever heard this quote, I’m everywhere and nowhere and I own nothing and everything – Yann Girard
Travellers will also resonate from this article, remember living out of your bag? Remember that feeling? Me, a travelling suitcase, I was living from that for say 1 year, but you, you could have been living from your backpack, maybe some really lucky people will live off a briefcase. :b, I don’t know them though. That experience was an interesting place to be, to look at two worlds, one from the world of having just the moment in your hands and in one moment you can feel like you have everything, living from moment to moment felt like I was rich to live what I was living, but the truth is, the law of attraction really does exist. If you don’t know how to have fun with the universe, you can be living moment to moment from a place of lack and negativity too, this is another way I would describe being everywhere but nowhere. During this time, I saw the world by being detached/excluded, excluded/detached from need or desire, coming out of Manager mode; dressing up every day in formal clothes, and so watching and observing that world by living from a suitcase was pretty refreshing. The feeling of being everywhere but nowhere sometimes felt great and sometimes felt not so great which is why thanks and grateful that particular journey eventually came to an end. I felt like I was a time traveller in that year, being everywhere but nowhere.
The truth is that when one is here; in the everywhere but nowhere phase, it’s easy to lose sense of self because this phase is the place or stage where the mind is like a sponge and depending on what one’s surroundings are, whether one is generally positive or negative or even the influence the person may have in their immediate surroundings can make them their worst enemy or their best friend.
The best way to find balance in the everywhere but nowhere phase is to meditate, to centre back to self in order to get the full experience of it, this is the only way the intuition can best become attuned moment to moment so that the highs and lows meet at the same frequency without getting to the “crazy” state where it can feel overwhelming at times. This way with awareness and intuition one can trust that they are guided to the right decisions, priorities, knowledge and choices so that they don’t feel scattered or even more chose the petty or irrelevant things to focus on. This is how best to enjoy everywhere but nowhere moments.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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