Hello friends,
Hope you are well.
All getting back to normal slowly, i.e., whatever normal is for you and this world currently? You know there has been some massive and shocking news out there over the last few months, in particular two very famous ones.
You know, I wondered about this topic a lot over the years. We see people’s idea of betrayal coming up on the news, we see examples of betrayal in stories, books, movies, we witness betrayal ourselves maybe in relationships such as love, family, friendships, or even work colleagues, but the most important thing to understand is that not everyone sees betrayal the same way as those who feel betrayed under an illusion.
What does feeling betrayal under the influence of illusion mean?
There can be many examples of this such as perhaps a moment has come for a couple to divorce, enough is enough and neither one can keep up with pretending anymore but this is a reality for the parents, and pretty much every shot has been given at making things right and kids don’t often get this. When things come to the point of divorce some kids begin to feel betrayed under an illusion. The grief can be that they’d be given less attention and having half of everything at one moment at a time.
Feeling betrayed leads to this reaction in this order and it also is the same when it comes to grief.
- Denial/Shock
- Anger
- Venting emotions
- Sadness
- Acceptance
To understand in-depth each of these reactions and what it involves take a look at this article.
https://www.excelatlife.com/articles/betrayed.htm
I can say one thing for sure, betrayal is when something is done with 100% selfishness resulting in someone’s pain. It is often done to a person that cares, has/had trust for someone or loves someone. The hurt comes with a swipe (on big one) at a time meaning one action at a time. Almost as if one action or deed has erased/wiped out what everything has been built on. The first thing that comes to mind if I have to give a definition of the word betrayal is this. It is when someone feels cheated, robbed, lied to, manipulated by, abused by someone who has put their self-interest first often for something less valued, superficial and off the righteous path.
Now, there is such a thing as a mistake through a selfish act, and this one act alone is still betrayal because ultimately trust is and has been put on the line (this last line will be argued by many).
Why?
Because those with strong core and moral values, purpose don’t betray, they help people grow, they create pattern interruptions for spiritual, emotional, mental growth and this is where betrayal can be misread. They help others become stronger through what they see that others do not and cannot see via unknown revelations that they’ve never known of before or could see before.
So, before any of one’s reflections of false beliefs takes over, or tries to convince others and themselves of what an illusion or misguided betrayal is the questions to ask is:
- Is it really in the person’s nature to do such a thing?
- Do I really know this person as well as I thought? Then ask, has this person grown away from my perspective seeking a change of some sort that I am not seeing or understanding?
- Maybe I am not being betrayed, I’m just being shown a new light on the subject that will help me to move away from what isn’t serving me.
- Most important: If this person is a leader, what are they trying to teach me? What are they trying to teach the world?
Betrayal usually comes from selfishness while mispresented betrayal comes from selflessness – T. Dench Patel, 6 April 2021, 17:01
Why am I telling you this?
I am an author of two books and many articles based on a true story. What do you think went through my mind when I began to believe that everything begins at home? What do you think went through my mind when I thought of charity? Charity begins at home. What do you think went through my mind when I wanted to make the world a better place and make people, especially the Indian community more open-minded? What do you think went through my mind when I had to speak my truth including my faults and failures? What do you think went through my mind when I had to teach the Indian community the concept of authenticity? What do you think went through my mind when I felt I had to show people courage? What do you think went through my mind when I had to come clean with myself to teach concepts, to show people what I’ve learnt in the world and to tell my experiences? Most important of all, what do you think went through my mind when I felt it was my duty to make people understand the background of what lead to my purpose, what paved the current path and where it all came from?
The thought that people could feel betrayed didn’t sit right with me, mostly, knowing that all the above questions had very good answers from me, but not from the world who sees an illusion in what I am trying to do. I know/knew damn right, I’m not betraying, I’m just the change that everyone else is so damn scared of making, trying to make and by challenging people’s ideas, old beliefs, traditions, cultural ways, the rich and elite because of the misrepresentation of the word betrayal.
Unconditional love doesn’t betray, and if your family members, other loved ones feel betrayed, or who you say you love feel betrayed, then something needs a reset, review and a new foundation in place. Why? Because betrayal usually comes from selfishness while mispresented betrayal comes from selflessness – T. Dench Patel, 6 April 2021, 17:01
But if we flip it on the head, the question to ask those that feel betrayed by mispresented betrayal is this? What are their values, morals and mission and how often do they comply with universal laws?
To answer all those questions, I asked myself above since 2009, today I can say look here https://www.instagram.com/tdenchpatel/, look at all my articles, social media posts to find out the answers for yourself.
I rest my case.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
P.S. Here are other resources that could help you.
Catastrophic betrayal and psychological disorders – There are many pdf files on this link on this topic.
Betrayal, the worst kind of pain
What people who have been betrayed want you to know – 12 Steps
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