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I trust all is well at your end. I thought this topic was where we left it i.e. on the last article, but since then it seems like more came up. I just couldn’t leave you hanging without showing you how to operate and lead your life on a higher frequency. You see, I’ve had over forty jobs, while I tried my best to look after them, and some I couldn’t continue with (immigration issues), there’s something I want to bring to your awareness. Forgive me for my honesty, especially if it’s harsh on you. You don’t have to take that on but ask yourself how true is it, and once you have that awareness it’s up to you how you will live from now on.
You might say, hey, Dench Patel your standards are too high, or I might say, “Hey, you, why have you joined the ninety-nine percent of people? Maybe then the one percent’s direction and choices would not have led to a more fulfilled and purpose-driven life. Until it doesn’t happen to you in the right time, or you don’t educate yourself on it, you might just end up being stuck in the rat race until you catch up, and join the one percent.”
Why? What have I seen time and time again in all these jobs? People who operate from lack. Yes, let’s think about it for a moment. The envy of the promotion you got but the other person didn’t get, the envy around you won that contract and will get the commission for it but those working in operations won’t, that you are doing really well through your own dedication, persistence, hard work but the other one won’t/can’t do the hours of work you’re putting in and lastly self-entitlement. These are all signs of lack. I am sure there is more. Now not all jobs are like this especially when you’re not in sales or driving sales. Oof, salespeople in companies, I believe get a lot of heat (judgement) for the work they bring in. I guess the driving factors for me to leave jobs over recent years was that I just couldn’t operate with small mentality people, a place where you have to fight petty things instead of seeing the bigger picture made a reflection on the company owner. That existence was too small for me. By the way, I never really knew this, I just believe that there’s more and there’s more to life than living with a small mind. I can safely say and those who have worked with me and know me, might say I was a lone ranger, maybe snobbish, but all it was is, “I just made a deal with myself that I won’t join negative pity parties or the gossip gals.”
Now, wouldn’t it be something if you being part of a group walked up to someone who is a loner and said, “Hey, come hang out with us today, we’re not out on negative pity parties or gossiping, we just want to get to know you.” I think the reaction of most would be, “Cool, blunt, I’d like to get to know the group if one person from there shows up like this. This must mean that I could be wrong.” After that, you’re not allowed to judge each other and just leave the invitation open. You know how that office vibe goes, almost like school, once you’ve joined the gang it’s hard to be a blank label – T. Dench Patel, 25 August 2020, 22:05. So, I’ll tell you what, in all the jobs I had so far I was the loner (no not better just the loner) who made buddies with other loners or made the attempt at least or vice versa, but I tell you what (from years of observations), mostly people from groups don’t bravely stand up and come up to a person they see hanging out on their own. It straight away puts you out of the box, it straight away ends up with you getting a label or the person in the group getting one. This is all old school behaviours that show up in a person’s lifetime because of conditioning.
Getting to the meat and bone, it’s this, just imagine if you’re open, yes, vulnerable ooo very vulnerable to getting cut right, so what if you lived without lack? You need the job, you’re struggling at home and require a raise, you’re seeing injustice with a few employees, you’re not happy in your job, you’re even more unhappy at seeing someone else happy in their job, my friend, all this is lack. Why don’t you just cut yourself some slack and permit yourself to believe you’re enough? Not easy right? You’re scared that you’re the only one running the house, you’re scared who will now be the provider if things at home aren’t going well.
So, fear is the ultimate lack as to why employees are still where they are dreaming of why they should have gone for it a long time ago, they made it seem/make it seem like it’s too late even in the now. This is the reason why I just left some jobs if someone else wants to hold onto shit, I’m not going to play tug war, you want the shit, take it! You want my shit too (not you reading this of course ?, you know what I mean) take it! You want to get rid of me so you can have more shit! Go for it! Because I’m sure shit and pee won’t hit me as bad as it will hit you when you realise selling yourself short and not getting nothing from an employer in the end was/is all for? So, one job which I really liked, I told them the truth, all the immigration problems, the ex-partner, and wanted to give them the choice too. I learnt my lesson from then on, I can’t have this conversation when I enter or when I want to leave because something isn’t right at work or in my personal life. Why? I put it to the test, because I learnt the lesson of lack and coming from abundance very very well, and so, today it is and still remains to be the employers who are the ones who lost an excellent employee because, after those conversations (maybe even two conversations) around this with two different companies I enjoyed working with, their choice was, “I should go.” So, I understand very much your fear and understand even more when you see a single lady with choices it brings out a lot of demons. I’m sure if I had children, a husband, a house to pay off, school fees to pay, I’d understand but I don’t understand the part where the ones who pay the price internally are judged by external factors. So, what would it rather be, living your life another day wondering you should have done more from abundance or sitting with the regrets and resentment for all your decisions made from lack?
I’m not coming from a place of lack in telling you these stories, I come from a place of empowerment because so many people are hiding their truths because of lack as you have just read above.
When it’s the right time, IT ripens, cracks open and tastes very sweet! IT does not resist anything. The question is, will others be able to resist IT? Are you IT, the opposite or the opposition? – T. Dench Patel, 25 August 2020, 21:44 (updated at 15:04, 26 August 2020)
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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