Hello friends,
Happy Tuesday, I’m going to a concert today that costs forty-five cents, would you believe that? Can you guess which famous bands I am going to see?
… Nope, not Get Cape. Wear Cape. Fly
… Nope, not I Am The World Trade Center
… Nope, not Kajagoogoo
… Nope, not Scary kids scaring kids
Gee whiz… I had no idea the above are real bands, anyways do you give up? 🙂
I paid forty-five cents to go and see Fifty cent and Nickelback. It’s unfortunate, Jonny Paycheck cannot come because he pasta way.
;0) Gotcha.
Alright, how much do you want to bet that the most positive leaders or successful people out there have been in some deep trenches before they’ve harnessed those learnings to get to where they are today? How much you want to bet that the person taking the most abuse in a relationship where there is domestic violence is the most positive person? How much do you want to bet that the most positive person until they see it for themselves are the ones who will stay in the most unfortunate of circumstances without leaving? Why? And why do some of these people never end up harnessing their full potential?
See, I can just go back to the time when I actually entered a toxic relationship, I felt my goals just slid through my fingers, “Maybe I was made for less, maybe I would need to follow the mediocre world for once.” This was the stupidest decision ever coming from that point of view. Only arrange marriages, people wanting to hook up for helping me with papers and maybe even potential true interests seem to present themselves (it was so confusing trying to identify this) this was more than the opportunities that I could harness independently meaning, the world made it seem one can’t be independent there’s just no way. These opportunities were drying up like a lake over time in highest temperatures without any rain (the crisis went on for months) … if we know not better… If we fall for fear… If we have a dying faith… we’d settle for mediocre and so, “Let’s just give this relationship a shot,” is what I did in the end. Who knows maybe going with a tough dog that barks loud was better than going with a dog who planned the traps silently in series hiding important information about who he/she really is? (If my sister was writing this article, she’d call these people Silent killers). Perhaps one day I should write an article about, Better the devil you know…
How much do you want to bet that an optimist that doesn’t set intentions, practises, check-in with themselves… the most important of all, keep raising their standards so they can truly see their worth in a relationship where they are being drained, fragmented into pieces is someone who really needs a reset, he or she needs this reset the most or they might end up spending the rest of their life looking at the positive and surviving on the minimum positive states even in the most toxic of situations. The optimist will see only the good that they’re looking at, but not the angle of worth, or raising their standards, or that it’s possible to make their dreams come true. The optimist only sees that which has taken the most part of their life and see that part as what they need to be successful at unless something pulls them off their course, i.e., seeing the true reality with no sabotage, manipulation, basically nil negativity…
This is why it can take years, forever or never to convince someone to leave what has become comfortable even in the unhealthiest of situations. For an optimist to thrive on their full potential they require positive people, places, things, creativity, no limits so that they can (when they know their strength and weakness) grow to their best version, but for an optimist to be ingrained with doing the right thing, finding their value, their thing … takes some or many losses… including losing themselves. They are so optimistic that they even believe in the return of the Mack (sorry went on lyrics mode there).
You know there are many articles out there that talk about over-optimism and optimism. Yes, I will leave a few links for you below, but I have over and over again come back to the same thing, why living as an optimist is better, for me (my opinion) is because I believe in miracles. Wouldn’t you agree…?
If you’re told by a doctor that you have three weeks to live, you have cancer, or if you are told your three-year-old son/daughter has three weeks to live, you, I, he, she… most parents will give anything to not have to face that truth, there is but two things, keep going or give up. Sounds crazy, right… I used the word give up, and that’s because no one ever wants to give up on themselves deep deep down inside even if you have a bit of a mental condition, but most of all no one will want to give up on their child, it’s better to stay on the side of hope (optimism) than on the side of quitting.
And so, whenever I think of myself in situations that seem so difficult I think of cancer patients who have been given the ultimate news, man I think of the story of Stephen Hawking and believe me, I know of some stories out there that makes me believe in God, the universe, higher being, whatever you want to call it (not only with cancer victims, I know an ex-soldier that said that the aids thought he was dead) and choosing optimism is far greater than wasting time thinking you are going to fall into something dangerous, the chances of saying yes to life and yes to most things (I learnt this in the “Si” scenario on this link) https://tdenchpatel.com/how-being-an-extra-in-the-arts-and-culture-industry-influenced-my-reasons-to-continue-writing/ is better to go with rather than giving nothing a shot.
Look, sure things are going to go wrong in life, right? We can’t keep looking over or be control freaks at everything, but the truth is, when a pitfall comes, we can’t plan for it, by all means, follow the intuition, and the results that come from self-improvement, but not everything is in our control, to learn we got to let the universe intervene, and then having optimism is the gift that we all have to navigate past challenges, otherwise, a life with no pattern interrupters isn’t called living life.
Additional articles
https://www.thoughtfulleader.com/too-optimistic/ – An example of optimism in the workplace.
Forbes – 5 ways an overly optimistic outlook can hold you back from success – An article about constructive optimism.
https://www.hongkiat.com/blog/optimism-positive-thinking/ – This article is about the importance of negative emotions and how optimism can backfire.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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