Hello friends,
Oh no! Not again! It’s the last article of this week. Where did these last few days on planet earth go?
Let me make it good until we meet again.
Alright, let me dive into the tub but I hope it doesn’t land me into hot water (not sure whose line that is). ?
You know, we understand, those of us who get it. We all want to be liked, we all want to be respected, who doesn’t? I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, even my dog wants me to respect him. I mean look at social media, everywhere people ask you to like, share and follow them. It’s a social need and it has existed for a long, long time, hence why some people in the community have more respect than others. It’s still the truth, the more money you have the more mouth and action you have and so there’s power in putting your mouth where your money is. That is just the darn truth of it all. I can tell you, sitting with ninety francs to last me for three months while I sat and wrote The South African: True Colours didn’t get me any kind of respect. No one wants to know you when you’re at the bottom, no one believes in your advice either, but everyone wants to know you when you’re on top, a b****y rule of the thumb! I tell ya.
I mean whoever is reading this right now, even me while I write this, we know that it’s pain that usually propels a person through the rejection they’ve felt, through the thought of how it is to go back to that dark place in one’s life again. The idea of the shame that one lives with or has to face. Rock bottom is dark, punto (Spanish expression). I know how you feel if you’ve hit rock bottom, and now is the time to have that conversation. We’ve never foreseen Coronavirus, we’ve never foreseen the rug getting pulled right under us, right? This many people in the world’s population at almost one time and some have never hit a low like this one in their lives, ever. I mean with the social scene being paralysed many are sitting in the same boat and there is one thing for certain happening right this moment and that is the masses are turning to humility, i.e. being humble rather than the busy bumblebee (a world where stinging people was going on like it’s out of fashion or something).
Knowing ones worth even if they’re feeling down under, understanding that this is a temporary state and remembering this is just the world in one’s little head, i.e. when we get out of our heads by practising gratitude, working on ourselves, and really getting clear that others are in the same boat in one way, shape or form we understand that there’s really a bigger picture that we’re not seeing clearly. It really doesn’t matter right? Or does it? This isn’t even about others, whether they respect us, see our worth or even like us for that matter of fact, ultimately do we respect ourselves and do we see our worth? Do we feel whole? I am here to inform especially the young generation who don’t understand why they face rejection on their expectations, why they’re facing so much difficultly in pursuing something they believe is for them. Why some things right now seem so impossible for them?
See, let me now tell you something in The South African: Roamer (book based on a true story), Saesha faced rejection a lot where the root can be seen even in the first book in the series, i.e. The South African: True Colours. Saesha was almost instantly in every situation pulled out as unworthy in the society in which she was raised, it was the way her entire immediate family was seen, unworthy. That if any wealthy person’s son in the Hindu community was falling in love with her, then it was best to have him distance himself or ensure their son doesn’t get involved. When the stigma that lived with her and her immediate family was cut off the minute she stepped onto the plane with only one thousand three hundred pounds in her pocket she entered a world that didn’t taint her the way her entire family has been tainted or known to society, i.e. “unworthy”. Meaning, when we go out in the real world then the world that we know every single day, the people and the way their default mindset works become just like that tiny head of ours. We finally get out, out of our heads to start a brand-new story where no one knows anything about the past but the person standing right in front of us in the present, i.e, they see us for what we know, seen, lived, been, done, experienced etc.
So, what is worthiness? It means something different for every person on this planet, every person on this planet when they speak to us and hear our story, they’d find a couple of/an element of worthiness that others don’t see and if they’re looking for unworthiness, they certainly would find it but not where another person might have found it. Only we can determine our worth by what we put into our lives, our spirit and souls, i.e. what makes us feel full. It only matters if we like our life, better if we love our life a lot or if we love and accept ourselves first, there’s nothing that feels worse than not feeling that for ourselves first, because when the external world doesn’t show us love, respect or see our worth we place all our power in them. – T. Dench Patel, 25 November 2020, 16:42
No one knows your worth as well as you – T. Dench Patel, 25 November 2020, 16:43
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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Note: Do keep referring back to this site as much as possible, as I grow, a more profound perspective may form and so I will always come back to each of these articles to re-evaluate them.
