Instant gratification has created a generation of envious, self-entitled and ungrateful people

Hello friends,

how’s today? Better?

Why and how have I come to this topic?

Roll with me!

Where do narcissists come from? (most of them not all of them)

Being self-entitled.

Where does the self-entitlement come from?

Their childhood.

What exactly happens in childhood?

Their mummies (possibly both parents) have given and done everything for them.

Did they come from backgrounds where there were family issues or even violence?

Quite likely

Are they from sexist communities or male-dominated families?

Very likely

Why do narcissists do what they do?

Because of being self-entitled and getting almost everything they want they are frustrated with what they can’t have and when they can’t have what they want they draw fuel from envy, jealousy and other demons within them to continuously take a swipe at someone or something.

The bottom line is that they are insecure because of the self-entitlement. The word “No” was hardly ever served to them when they were being raised which lead them having no belief in earning something one hundred percent themselves i.e. doing the necessary efforts to get somewhere, so they feel entitled to take it and have it. The insecurity of someone who lives self-entitled is very high and by controlling others they feel in control.

Roll with me!

From the year two thousand and three, the world began to experience more and more shifts and advancements with technology. In the last ten years even more with more and more people travelling. When the internet started becoming a place to make money (at the beginning of the twenty-first century) I believe we had experienced some great times. There were a lot of businesses booming and there were a lot of jobs out there. Generation X was a generation with so much of choice that they changed jobs like nappies, (I saw this for myself in England), I was basically being fished off the street for jobs in England with good salaries even in Spain in the year two thousand and five by the English even when I was visiting Marbella. It was too good to be true that I didn’t even trust the offers (being a young South African), I was also fished off the street in the year two thousand and three on the streets of London, with an offer to become a model. Again, I didn’t believe it but went for the shoot anyway. The guy who was taking in the piles of applications from so many people there (I was like, wow! So many pictures, so many people, his desk is so full, things everywhere, but he still found what he was looking for) told me, I could really make it and then turned to the queue of people waiting. They didn’t ask for any money of me either. Don’t know, again, the limiting belief (being a young South African), I asked myself, “How can it be this easy?” As if every great thing in life had a price on its head and couldn’t come to you because you were deserving of it, just, like, that. Another limiting belief, “Who becomes a model at twenty-three years old don’t they catch them young?” Here’s another limiting belief, “It’s a scam.” These were the reasons why I declined to go any further and took what I felt was deserving to me through very low self-worth and self-value for me. I set the bar so low for me because I was still catching jobs like I was catching fish or something. The thing is I learnt here how to tell the difference between someone who is catching you out with non-sense talk and someone genuine. I leant here how to read their body language and really tuned into the energy of certain words they used, “Na, this guy is trying his luck, scam, smells scam!” They sounded like what’s that film, aah ya! The Woolfie on Wall Street guy. There were loads of these guys in Marbella, Spain at that time.

While Generation X was in the middle of opportunity the opportunity also hit for so many other generations.

This is where instant gratification was born but we all never saw it coming and we all didn’t know how this was going to affect us in the future. We all lived the moments where shiny objects came flying at us and we either waited for the shiniest one to pick or through low self-worth like me and so many others who did not know about the self, back then, picked what seemed to be the shiniest one at the first instance that we missed the best that was still to come if we just waited a bit more patiently and wisely. (How much I bet that right now if we were to do a survey about the number of people into spirituality, self-help and self-improvement compared to all other generations, Generation X will be the highest percentage?)

How long did we think the good times were going to last?

Then, boom all our adversities came to us, two-thousand and eight, June three months from what we had no idea was going to be a massive economic crisis, one by one at my workplace was beginning to get fired.

I have lived at the bottom line three times through two different crises the two thousand and eight one, in Spain two thousand and thirteen when the United Kingdom was recovering from the two thousand and eight crisis, I actually had one of those zero-hour contracts, and now, this crisis. I can say that the crisis makes people humble at first instance and when things slowly recover those that learnt become better and those that didn’t stay either envious, self-entitled or ungrateful.

This attitude splashes onto people who paid the price because when people think that other people’s lives from the outside look great they can’t have the instant gratification, they can’t have what they think the person’s got with what they made up in their heads, and a generation that was born in such that they don’t think that actually a price has been paid to be deserving of the moment you are at in your life even if it’s not all that great, but you’re carrying it elegantly, everyone has a right to their personal power. So, what are narcissists really after? They’re after your personal power. Self-worth not nett worth and so that generation of stabbing people in the back to have their job isn’t about the money, it’s about stabbing the personal power, and then replacing it with the money to feel powerful. T. Dench Patel, 11 August 2020, 22:17 That is what instant gratification has caused. We want things too quickly that we don’t want to work for it, understand it properly, and feel another person’s pain of what it took to get to where they have come to in their lives.

The idea that she doesn’t need that, she’s single, she’s young, she’s got no problems, and besides her family is overseas, why should she get that salary? Is all the bullshit that people make up in their heads because of instant gratification. It’s the bullshit I had to live with since the day I became an immigrant in the year two thousand. If I’m not this I am that or I’m not that … and the story just goes in circles of why we need to take and give, take and give to and from someone, why someone buys that story to give to the one who is after instant gratification. What I have come to see is that instant gratification has always put someone at a loss when it comes to the corporate world, which is why some companies have had such a high employee turnover rate leaving instant gratifiers in the company of each other.

What are your thoughts?

Yours sincerely,

T. Dench Patel

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