Hello friends,
it’s Tuesday already! Time is flying, maybe because you’re having too much fun hanging around my website. ?
You know the title of this article came to me while I was washing dishes. I was just thinking of you… you know… about the dishwashing liquid, smell and bubbles… haha hhahha! Ya! Right! Okay, so there I was washing dishes and this thought came. I thought about the moving houses, moving jobs, the leaving people behind and so many times I really didn’t want to leave people behind but for some reason the thoughts were headstrong or maybe I wasn’t supposed to be there building my life at that moment at that place and space in time, but I really think it’s got mostly to do with the mind, heart and bigger calling.
Let’s take a look at it a bit more intensely, now I’m not saying that some friend circles don’t stay together for years but when I look at girl bands, boy bands, normal friends, even Destiny’s child’s destination ended … at least they still remain strong survivors… I mean all kinds of moments where people were best friends in school but are no longer besties ten years (more or less sometimes way too short or long) later. It’s because the direction/winds of change are slowly drifting you to where your higher intelligence already knows to go.
When you see celebrity friend splits or even with normal people it’s tied to, “I can’t believe after so many years…bla, bla, bla,” or the feeling of being betrayed, and we tie all these things around what we’ve done, invested, time, sentimental feelings etc and then feel resentment, bitterness when it actually had to break apart for something better to come together. I mean maybe you were in a bad crowd and something just needed to happen that if it didn’t you could just have ended up in something totally messy. Some might call this pattern interrupters. Apart from that your brief time together and eternity together has something to do with your growth and connection on a soul level.
Now the reason how it happens and why?
The reason why we pay so much attention to how it happens is because of the investment we’ve made and attached to the relationship, but if we think about it from school days and how emotionally invested we get we’re actually coming from a certain place in our childhood. The pain, betrayal and the reason why we don’t trust, feel insecure, build walls, shields comes from childhood to what we have processed and been through even when we’re teenagers. The reason why is the investment of loving so hard at times.
The reason why, apart from a change in the sails, winds and direction is so that when relationships that return on a stronger soul level, i.e. the meeting of each other for various soul causes in the right timing, it’s because it can be there to stay, if we recognise this, if we recognise enough now, it’s time to notch up things to a very real and meaningful life/level otherwise, until the lesson hasn’t been learnt you just go round and round in circles before those significant meetings can take place.
We all do this in the real world and it’s harder for people who are seen and recognised in public because they’re having a human experience practically in front of millions and billions of people. Criticism, forced opinions and ideas, you really become forced to take a lot because of the vulnerability and unseen wounds that are bleeding out in public, and people know it and some people have really hacked this, really swept their side of the street by recovering and healing at home.
Let me tell you, this is not just a celeb thing, it happens to you and I especially when you have been living in a small town all your life, especially if you are expected to remain with the traits that people put on you but deep down inside you know you’ve changed and want to live the life of the person who is wanting to come out deep down inside of you. The pressure is truly strong because people will say “Whose this person?” When really they should be saying, “Alright, that old person is now outdated, I trust that he/she is making the right decisions and therefore I trust that he/she is not coming from some sort of trauma,” and I myself will put my hand up at that. I returned after being away for so many years to my culture and family and would you believe it, I had a culture shock and when you read The South African: Roamer you’ll see that I had a culture shock of the western world, so returning home there are some really really deeply rooted things (comes with culture) that I found I buried rather than being a carefree soul which I guess who I was when the moment I realised I was free from the limiting beliefs and that I was literally on my own overseas, so I had to be responsible and own my life but there was always that tiny bit of fear. A lot of South Africans live in fear in general.
Like I just realised recently that there are pieces of shame lurking about here and there, but trust me I’m glad that most of all past issues have now been successfully dealt with and so I write this article for those who haven’t dealt with it, who have been doing jobs where they go from city to city to city to city to country to god knows where because of the biggest judgement in person, i.e. their nearest and dearest and their friend circle and then they come back not having nothing in common with them. Understandable, that spiritually evolved beings can’t be spending a lot of their time teaching those left behind to reach their level but what if they’ve made that investment? You don’t really know this when you’re young you only know this later in life.
By the way, Coronavirus has really taken care of people “running away.”
For those that feel they’ve been left behind
You haven’t really been left behind like I can say for sure no matter what it was like living in the town I was raised in, I kept those people’s lives alive in my books, the negative parts were necessary to make the world understand where the limitations and fear come from, where that energy holding each other back came from and what their children and other children around the world could face if they are sending them abroad for studies, having an arranged marriage where both people chose each other and either one of them live overseas, or working holiday trips including everything that comes with independence or culture. Recently, whatever action I’ve taken was taken because of a purpose, and if I am the architecture of my life, I understand why it’s essential to control certain elements. It doesn’t necessarily mean that people of your past who are no longer in your life have been left behind, I believe there is a bigger plan in the works and one will never know how it comes together. For those who feel like they’ve been left behind, there is much soul work necessary so that you can understand your worth and value and when you do that work you will realise that it is ultimately your choice to either feel or not feel as if you were left behind in so many ways, but don’t sweat, there’s always chances out there, you just got to be limitless (I know, easier said than done).
Please don’t’ take this article in the wrong context. It doesn’t mean you should carelessly use pieces of this article to dismiss people from your life, if I could provide some advice it’s this. Elevate and educate people as you elevate so that you don’t have to leave anyone behind and if you do for some god knows how many reasons, at least they’re not cut off forever, it’s only a chess move to the left not forever. T. Dench Patel, 22 September 2020, 21:33
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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