Hello friends,
hope you are well on this Tuesday be it whatever day or time you are reading this.
It’s strange from several topics that I have written down weeks ago this very recent one is the one that stood out.
Let’s go on a trip, all you have to do is bring with you your imagination. We’re going on a trip of contrasts in your life i.e. one when you were just getting started, getting momentum and then a very joyous part of your life to reflect on.
Ready?
Okay, before we dive in, take your time to read the following sentences then take five minutes to practise them and then continue.
- Close your eyes
- Breathe in deep slowly, breathe out slowly x 3
- Open your eyes
Take your time to remember the following and go back to what comes to you the minute you read the following sentences.
- Do you remember a time when you were struggling with confidence?
- Do you remember a time when you found it difficult to trust in yourself and others?
- Do you remember a time when you found it hard deciding whether the direction you’re taking in terms of your education or anything was right for you or not?
- Do you remember a time when you didn’t know all the answers or how things will turn out?
- Do you remember a time where you found it hard believing in yourself, in what you were engaging in or about to engage with/in?
- Do you remember a time when you were shy around people?
- Do you remember a time when you allowed things to get to your heart?
- Do you remember a time when you were frustrated with yourself?
- Do you remember a time when your self-expression suffered?
You know what? ? I can go on and on, but this article here will become a book of just questions.
The time when I can remember and say, “yes” to all of these questions was when I was in high school. I thought these feelings are going to remain like this and that nothing better was ever going to happen. I even lost patience with myself.
The good news
Whatever you feel with whatever decision you’ve made, remember it will not stay the same, it’s bound to elevate because you’re still living and life moves on, even the rock in the jungle, when still, is changing be it slowly or rapidly, it changes because of the changes and movement around it. – T. Dench Patel, 15 September 2020, 16:31
The good thing is that you and I can choose the change to a certain extent and surrendering even to a certain extent. This concept can serve you well when you are mindful of not taking some things lightly in your life that costed you. The thing is as humans we forget how costly certain experiences have been, that becoming ungrateful and out of alignment assists you in the downward spiral.
Now you remember
- The first time you got a promotion.
- What you did with your first paycheck.
- The day you got your first full-time job.
- The day you made it through your first interview to your first full-time job.
- The first time you pulled out the car like a nervous wreck ready to drive to work.
- More and more independence after the above.
- When you spoke about how you feel?
- Going on a date the first time?
- When did you admit you’re in love and faced it?
Then what happens? You keep going forward and growing i.e., for example, you now run a company, you’re married with or without kids, you’re on your tenth anniversary, from a Datsun to a Porsche, from a bicycle to a Harley Davidson, from broke to rich, broke to billion, broke to famous, rags to riches (I remember how much I liked this tv series when I was young). Then, what happens when we get all too familiar with what was once difficult for us to something that is our new norm? We can take many many parts of our life for granted.
The thing is, there are millions if not billions who will agree here. If you don’t stop and take a self-check, stop and slow down to get more speed, you wouldn’t know what should be taken lightly and what shouldn’t be taken for granted.
This article will really help you with staying firm and grounded and maybe even beginning the self-evaluation.
I mean I bet you have heard stories or even been in it yourself i.e. working so much thinking that the money will keep the family together and by the time you’re making a home run with the money the family has left the home. The house is no longer a home, it’s just filled with one person who tried having it all in a way that they did not know better.
This is life, it’s not easy to hold it all together. It takes a lot of practice within you to know when the brakes need to be applied and when to accelerate as one, not as one acting for all.
It’s only when we’ve been knocked off the rails that we see how much of the wrong stuff we’ve fallen into that if we just added/add some alignment, authenticity, gratitude and practises that ground us in the mix of our desires, temptations, or dreams we can actually hold ourselves back from the wrong choices and circumstances that one doesn’t wish to relive again. We’re getting signs of the road to go on and stay on all the time if we just listen and if we don’t, the universe will keep making the thumps louder and louder until we have no choice but to stop and listen.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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Note: Do keep referring back to this site as much as possible, as I grow, a more profound perspective may form and so I will always come back to each of these articles to re-evaluate them.
