Hello friends,
hope you are well on this beautiful Wednesday. These days in South Africa there are many butterflies of all shapes, colours and sizes flying around, but there are mostly white butterflies around. It makes me think about Narnia. Today I spotted a nice, bright yellow butterfly. They look so happy, some of them look like they’re playing ringa ringa roses in twos and threes.
Truth be told, I’d rather be seeing this and be around this many people than to be in lockdown all alone (who knows, knowing me, I would have ended up writing tons of books). The amount of time I’ve spent around loved ones in these two years (without being alone not even for one single day) has been the most by far since the year two thousand and ten, it’s been a bag of bonbons.
You know my friend who has been in the military background for don’t quote me on this but somewhere around twenty-seven years told me this, she went somewhere along the lines of “What you put in is what you receive at the end of the day.” It makes a lot of sense. If I were to look back on the last forty-one-years I can say that for me reciprocating to others, and others reciprocating back to me or maybe not puts this subject into perspective. I will be one hundred percent honest with you, immigrant life really did (hoping I can use the past tense here) take this away from a human being (it’s part of breaking down lives which the system has in place when it came – using past tense with a lot of hope – to immigration).
You know that is why this article How little things tell a big tale is making sense to so many people (it has been receiving record-breaking comments less than a month since publishing it. I still have many comments left to reply to). I mean, you must be thinking, “Hey, Dench Patel, the subject title says everything, self-explanatory.” Personally, I felt that just one line doesn’t make the statement stick, hence why writing about it is better.
Right, let’s take a self-check now. Be very honest with yourself when answering these questions.
1) How is your business doing?
2) How is your relationship with your significant other going? If this is not good, what is/are the main issue/s that keeps coming up? If there’s a list put the issues down in priority order giving it the title Significant other.
3) What does your genuine circle of friends look like? If this part of your life is fragmenting the question to ask is “Why?”.
4) How is the relationship going with your family? Your children and you, maybe one of the kids with your significant other is the challenge, maybe you haven’t sorted out your brother, sister, mama or daddy issues?
5) The most important question of all – Perhaps I should have put this down as number 1 – How is the relationship going with yourself? Are you putting yourself first before anyone else? Are you taking care of yourself, giving yourself first and foremost the first thirty minutes that you get for you, the morning start you need… beginning with you?
Question five is the beginning, it’s the root place and it is likely the root cause, why? Look out for my next article, “Have you given away your power slowly without knowing only to realise that the external world is dominating your value and not you?”
What I’ve done there is used the article in the above link and its theory to help you evaluate your investments. I bet you, you got some answers there. What are you going to do now? This will now help you see what you need to do and what you’d need to leverage in order to bring your life back, not only to a state of flow but to make long term investments in all these areas. This is one of the greatest life policies you can have … being alive and leveraging this policy alive. Why wait until you’re dead to leverage this policy? – T. Dench Patel, 16 December 2020, 15:47
Wouldn’t the best return on investment be one where you have taken care of “Self” in such a wonderful way, i.e., your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual being that you have energy, so much energy to then pass over to other areas, fill that cup of yours first, first and foremost because when the cup is drained, and there’s nothing to even put in, not even energy to put into yourself then all investments suffer, that’s when life becomes dim and unfulfilled. That is probably when sickness also creeps up on you. This self-check will tell you if you’re likely going very far away from what matters, what makes you feel alive instead of going in a solitary direction where nothing really grows, nothing from being challenged by opinions, nothing from faced with struggles and pain, nothing from sharing … nothing.
We need the return on investment on self, health, friends, family, the significant other, and business in order to use effectively the monetary investments and gains wisely. It’s funny how cheap a funeral is compared to the “cost of the fulfilled” in the books of the living. You can have as much money as possible but it’s worthless if you’re feeling dead. – T. Dench Patel, 16 December 2020, 16:09
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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