Hello dear friends,
hope you are doing great and had a lovely weekend. Here in South Africa, it’s lovely, feels like English springtime so it does get a bit nippy in the mornings and evenings.
I have been thinking about this article all weekend and had to find a way to keep the ideas fresh. Sunday, I had to force myself to stop thinking of work. I also forced myself to not look at my phone for at least two hours. Oh! Boy! I missed my work even if I was away from it for two hours. So here we are, finally. You really want to read this one. It would be great to get your thoughts. Please leave a comment about your perspective and how you see things. This will help us to perhaps reach a more enlightened perspective to what is being written here.
You know, for a long time I asked this question. Traditionally and for years before women became independent unless there were exceptional circumstances and from being raised in the Hindu culture there was always (the majority of the time) a mother, a father, and a child and if you’re lucky (some might even see this as unlucky but trust me it’s a lucky thing) to have siblings. Either way, it’s often mother, father and a child and this has been going on forever unless maybe a father or a mother has decided/not decided and had to leave/left their responsibilities. There are cases where some kids are born under exceptional circumstances. When I look at the cases of adoption it’s the same, mother, father and child (again there are exceptions). So, this question that I kept asking for a long time was this, “Why did God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) send us to earth like the way a wolf pack is formed? I asked for years this question, okay only the last few years. In my twenties, my head was somewhere else. ;0)
Over the last few years, I have been practising spirituality in many forms which has made a massive impact on my life for the better, I’ve also been saying my prayers daily, this makes me feel full and free. Many years ago, after leaving home at the age of twenty-one I tried to stay consistent with prayer but wasn’t (I did pray a lot but not as much as I should have or not for the right reasons either. Don’t think I understood it entirely) but then I reached out to God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) as consistently as I possibly could in the last year of the relationship where I endured heavy emotional abuse. Praying made me feel safe, made me feel guarded and guided amid internal and external turmoil. When I reached out to God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) I basically relied on God to be my eyes, ears, mouth and actions. There was just too much to dismantle from sabotage be it my own self-sabotage and that of someone else’s. It gave me hope and faith then but now it feels like a whole lot more than that, so much more that I can’t explain in words (or at least I am trying to), in this spiritual growth I believe I have the answer now about my Father; God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God), mother and child question.
How
Before the Coronavirus came about, one year before that I was sent “home” (it was morbid for me this word “home”, whatever and wherever home really was to these politicians after moving house over forty times, dealing with immigration issues, changing jobs so many times and still trying to stay off the grid so that my stalker ex would just leave me alone and more) from the UK after living in five countries in eighteen years where most of my life was in Spain (eight years) and United Kingdom (eight years) I was basically destroyed with the feeling of injustice in me, I believe this feeling of injustice already consumed me in five years while I transitioned back to the United Kingdom.
Home
Home today has a massive meaning for me, to feel home there are millions, zillions of contributing factors and more that I am still to learn. Coming back to my wolf pack and continuing my spiritual practices really took me and still takes me to a new level of enlightenment on the word “home”.
As I sit outside and meditate, say my prayers outside on most days, I feel the combination of mother earth meeting my father (God) (Higher power for those who do not use the word God) and this is why I can write this article now. It’s only in the last year that I can say that I meditate outside otherwise I always meditated in my flat as I predicted the English weather almost ninety percent of the time correctly. This meeting of mother earth meeting my father (God) and then coming back to the table to have my breakfast, lunches, and dinner on most occasions with my parents, siblings and even meditating with them and chatting with them has given a lot more meaning to things. It has also brought meaning into what a narcissist lacks, the relationship with themselves, their family both on earth and in the spiritual world, the whole domestic violence situation and the term unconditional love.
Now pay attention
Mother earth and mother on earth
In meditation it’s years since I’ve been sending light, healing to the earth and every living and dead thing in her. It’s been years of having a connection with my father (God) through prayer and then one day after eighteen years I returned to South Africa (the land where my parents and God raised me) and began a new relationship with my parents. The unconditional love of a mother still everlasting and existing from near and far, and my father, this relationship is interesting, if you are a father you should read this article. My mother represents mother earth literally because in meditation I acknowledge mother earth through the healthy food I eat, the amazing nature that I just love so much, what she teaches me, her breeze, giving me a space on earth, and thankfully what she allows to grow and reach my plate through my mother on earth. My health comes from both of them and their unconditional love, no conditions, not ever. I was her child then I am still her child now. Then when I pray, I thank God for being my father and thank God for my father on earth (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) and Mother earth for my mother on earth and I am always grateful that they are still here with me in good health. I have also gathered a lot from watching my mother and her relationship with her children, our beloved dog and her grandson.
Father (God) and father on earth
This is by far the most healing I have had in the last year in terms of my relationship with my dad and by healing this relationship, understanding from my father what his relationship with God is (there’s a lot of non-verbal cues), he also plays a lot of “Guru” knowledge on his radio. His relationship with his children, me, our beloved dog and his grandson has put a lot of weight on the concept of unconditional love, the new relationship we have of no conditions, and he has helped me understand more about the domestic violence incidents and qualities I should be seeking in a partner. Both parents have taught me now finally, the importance of personal power, and then last God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) has taught me the importance of personal power and having faith in my ultimate father and spiritual family in having all my needs and ultimate dreams met.
No one comes first and foremost in your relationship on earth before God and Mother Earth. Why? Your gratitude, prayers, faith should lie in the source not abuse the kindness etc. of your man, your woman or abuse that of your family, friends, parents etc. God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God) God will give you your full value, make up for all injustice, teach you your lessons like a father does and give you the abundance you need and mother earth will give you a space/place on her earth and take care of your physical needs.
It almost seems like heaven and earth together make a good couple. Far or near the relationship is magnetic. To me it seems like they have both earned their place in the universe – T. Dench Patel, 11 May 2020, 22:37
Watching my parents then, made me see this. They have been bestowed (how lucky are we as children) with all the qualities of God and Mother earth especially when they have been tapping into source every single day to guide them, but it didn’t happen just like that. Growing up from a child to a teenager and now to a woman I have also seen their transitions. We all were on the journey and it’s so true that if you keep checking in with source you will become more like mother earth and God (Higher power for those who don’t use the word God). A reflection of them.
A realisation
So, now I am here with the realisation that it’s interesting between a couple how personal power is so essential, yet at the same time a father and mother will have unconditional love to their children and provide like mother earth provides for us and like how our father (God) provides for us yet the relationship with mother earth and God is about their personal power so that they can give their kids the best of both worlds.
So, the relationship where I endured emotional abuse teaches me about wisdom and how personal power is essential to do good and for you to have the relationship with yourself and God (Higher power for those who do not use the word God), he is your father and he is the father of your partner, husband, lover, boyfriend, girlfriend etc. and you both as his children are trying to navigate. Your father (God or Higher Power for those who don’t use the word God) knows ultimately what is best for you, so put all your faith and trust in the energies both feminine and masculine, the spiritual world, prayer, belief, which will bring you self-belief in all you do, and trust that they (your spiritual family) is guiding you on your path along with your family/partner etc.. Even if it’s a separate journey of two it’s happening together.
This is why we’re having so many divorces, domestic violence, narcissists, and lost souls. There is a lack of self-belief in yourself and no consistent relationship with the source which makes people blind to their value and allow others to give them a sense of value. – T. Dench Patel, 11 May 2020, 21:31
I heard this last week and I’ve seen this a lot in the immigrant world (it still happens to a lot of people purely because there is a lack of self-value) If you give men the power to feed you, you give them the power to starve you. So, the minute you do something that they don’t like they can take their cheque away from you, they can take food from your mouth, from your family’s mouth. Don’t do that. Focus on where all abundance comes from and that is from the source, the divine. – Abany, Minxdiva
Please, dear friends, become steel through spiritual practises so that people can see the reflection of themselves in you and become inspired again to all that they seem to lose faith in becoming. – T. Dench Patel, 11 May 2020, 21:49
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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