Hello friends,
how are you feeling today?
I really think this article is going to change your life, in fact, I promise it will. This is what we really need, oh! Yeah!
Right, come on, go and get yourself a drink. I am waiting here, preparing this awesome article for you, cause when you are going to finish with it, you will most definitely feel the inspiration coming right out of you, I hope it’s going to be oozing out of you. Be careful, you might even end up playing Jennifer Lopez’s songs all evening or you might end up watching her movies.
I mean it… you are going feel so pumped up… I recommend getting yourself a mug of hot chocolate. Why? I don’t know, it feels like a hot chocolate kind of moment. ?
Alright, you know, one year ago when I returned from the United Kingdom to my land; South Africa, after my quite insane story (if you’ve been following my articles and videos on Instagram) you wouldn’t have known about things going on off scene. I wasn’t going to have you meet the untrue things, it’s so disempowering and so uninspiring, like when I posted the first few videos of me doing Zumba or dancing to some Hindi remix songs. You won’t believe what someone stated. Someone quite blatantly stated that I was old to dance or that I was pretending to be in my twenties, another person blatantly said to me that I was acting “white”. You must know by now, there will be some people who will knock you down further especially when “they think” you’re down. Both of the people who said that were males and one of them was standing with his wife when they said it to me. He also has a teenage daughter.
You know what, honestly screw the parts of the culture that dims your shine baby… patriarchy does that, that even today my own father would agree with me after hearing my adventures and the things I’ve been educated on through the majority part of my life away from home and the culture. Do you think that women don’t think about the examples they make of themselves to others? Why should a woman eat last, shower last, be the last one to get dressed?
You’re raised to think, oh, if I take care of everybody else, I’m a good person, put myself last, a lot of women in my family that’s how we were raised, especially Latinos. Everybody comes before you, I’m last, I’ll eat last, I’ll get dressed last, I didn’t even take a shower, it’s fine. That’s how you’re raised. You come to the realisation that it’s not that. I actually have to take care of myself so that I can take care of everybody else better. – Jennifer Lopez
The above is what Indian women are also raised to think and do.
That’s it guys and gals, see here in South Africa people are saying that getting a job in your forties is difficult, I say it’s just getting started. The world, as you and I know it, is waking up. People like you and I have tried for so long, some of us, almost all our lives to get somewhere and there’s a reason for this. There are a lot of opportunities for young people and not always do we/they know how to do things when we’re/they’re young but if you turn that part on its head, you’re better from your forties onwards. Raise the bar, change the game, because a lot of people have the conditioning that after forty or fifty there’s no hope. I just don’t agree, I just don’t agree. I’ve faced the most unimaginable trials and tribulations in my twenties and thirties and I’ve even had a point where I fell for the story, this conditioning. The suicidal thoughts of quitting, it’s not your story, it definitely ain’t mine anymore and you don’t have to accept it if you do not want to. You don’t have to think that this is it, you’ve lived, you might not like how the past went, it can change. You can choose that. Choose to change it. Choose it, choose it now!
Do you know what a killer that is, do you know how that thought is going to kill your kids when they reach forty and think they’ve lost all their chances? Nope, this is not why we’re alive, not all of us are meant to have babies and give away our dreams to them like the way my mother did. Even if you’re a mother, that isn’t what you should be doing. You are the sign of hope, you are the sign of force, you are the sign of inspiration otherwise how will your child even listen to you or take your advice?
Now take all these women who had no children, judgement says they’re doing everything for themselves, they’re selfish. Why when a mother begins to take care of herself you either call her selfish or support it? Shouldn’t that apply to all people, take care of yourself first then you can take care of everybody better. We in the world want to have a say on the quantity/limit someone should be given for living their life and dreams? Give yourself the permission, full permission to be limitless – T. Dench Patel, 28 April 2020, 17:19
You don’t know and will never know the dream of any woman or man and what that means to them and our world. Their message might reach you or your child, the fruits of their work might reach you or your child. That’s how one person can change this world. Now imagine if all of us open up to our own power what can happen? – T. Dench Patel, 28 April 2020, 17:21
We all have become and made a world that we’ve created in our minds and hearts. If we can shift this more towards the life we really see and dream of for ourselves and take small actions towards that our world will be redefined, our ideas will not remain stale and there will be more faith in what is possible. – T. Dench Patel, 28 April 2020 – 17:29
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
Thank you for the comments and support. Thank you for offering to donate if there was a donate button on here. I prefer not to take donations. You can support by either purchasing one of my books (Paperback or Kindle), The South African: True Colours, The South African: Roamer or my children’s book Light. These books can be found on Amazon mainly and other sites in your country.
The audiobook for The South African: True Colours is available on iTunes, Apple and Audible. The South African: Roamer and Light will be released soon.
Note: Do keep referring back to this site as much as possible, as I grow, a more profound perspective may form and so I will always come back to each of these articles to reevaluate them.
