Hello friends,
what! It’s Wednesday already! I can’t believe it. We’ve already arrived at the last article of the week. We’ve just sorted out some more website issues, which will make your visit pleasant than what you have been experiencing lately.
Again, I had a few topics on the list, and it was like, “BOOM,” when this topic came to me. It often happens when I just hit the word document that all the content appears like a flash trailer in my head. I heard this sentence while I was on a webinar last week and more thoughts came up. In my book, The South African: Roamer the topic of suicide comes up and the reasons why people try to take their life ranges down to so many things.
I remember the time when it was more amongst teens and young adults who didn’t or don’t know where this comes from. I remember and I mention in the book that there were at least ten suicides from the number of cases that were on the rise that I knew of and some of these people were in class with me. The reasons why in the Hindu community usually was around arranged marriages, broken engagements and suicides around this were quite high, break-ups between high school sweethearts, someone not allowed to date someone they’ve fallen in love with, another person committed suicide after his girlfriend died in a car accident and bullying wasn’t usually the cause of suicide.
Today, after travelling around the world I’ve found that we have people who commit suicide for reasons that are shocking, and rejection is such a massive game player in how people feel. To be caught up in an accident that ruins your life (this is what most think) but if you stick in the process long enough and not let the deep down spiral swallow you, you come to find out you’ve been saved, but this is life, some are not made that resilient and tolerant from a young age while some are. Remember that movie, Soul surfer, yes, that young girl who got bitten by a shark i.e. the shark had her entire left arm in the year two thousand and three, she learnt how to surf all over again on a custom made board and entered the surfing championships.
In The South African: Roamer I mention the story of Dev, without a clear outline on why he committed suicide. There are tons of guys/men and girls/women who are blamed for leaving the relationship and causing the suicide, but the truth is there’s only one person sitting there holding the pills in their hands, only one person sitting in the car with the carbon monoxide released from the exhaust coming through their car window, only one person usually who orchestrates this because the thoughts chosen aren’t exactly the most empowering ones at that moment, the negative story that someone has left you because you’re not good enough, or this or that has happened to you and now you can’t do this and that or have this and that etc. What if I told you that what’s happened or is happening to you is because the pattern interrupter you’ve had is a possible spiritual awakening and what is leaving you at that moment isn’t because you’re not worth it, worthy, it’s because it has to fall apart so that you truly can find yourself in the “Matrix,” you’re no longer fit for the “ordinary world,” you are entering the world beyond the ordinary, one which you will design so well when you look back years after, you will find truth, reality, around you which is and will be far better than the fake you that you never really knew you attracted. You’re raising the vibration of this world. That just the life you thought you deserved not the amazing destiny that is reserved for you is coming your way.
Of course, you’re not going to see it that way while the volcano and earthquake come all at once and with time you finally start seeing the gems when all has been cooled off and stabilised, you pick all your gems out and that’s where it gets interesting, way better than what you cried and lost years ago. You’ll even say, “Really! Is that the worth I gave myself back then? Boy! Thank God! I know better.” Your gems will be your morals, values, resistance, tolerance, your story, your superpower and the new life you create which doesn’t look anything like the past.
Rejection is merely showing you all the time that this isn’t what you’re deserving of, it’s best to let what rejects you leave because it would be living a lie and settling for something you’re saying you deserve when really that’s not the case.
If you read the day before yesterday’s article, there’s a documentary linked to Paris Hilton’s story around the abuse at the boarding school she was at, also when she was pressured into sex with her then-boyfriend who released the sex tape publicly, the pressure came through her insecurities of herself and then she fell into manipulation through that. She even says it feels like she was electronically raped by the after-effects of being manipulated and pressured into getting videoed. So, rejection and people who use it for their own gains on especially young people is a very sensitive thing, you’re either highly skilled at being a manipulator or you’re highly streetwise or you’re highly just you and boy oh boy when you’re highly just you with a good heart, trusting flair and you meet a highly-skilled manipulator (I give a sigh), it’s a devastating lesson. It either makes you hard or it breaks you. This part reminds me of baby tortoises heading straight to the sea after hatching, it’s the survival of the fittest. The rejection of, “I don’t love you no more, I’m sorry,” “You don’t fit in here,” pretty harsh in the way things are said, “I deserve better,” through action or words makes everyone, with no exception of the very rich feel rejected the same like everyone else. While some learn to handle it through emotional maturity or handle the feeling of its numbness, others call it quits, but if you hang in there long enough I’m sure you’ll find diamonds after you process the past.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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