Hello friends,
happy Wednesday. How are you doing?
Now, I know many of you have returned to lockdown, while we here in South Africa are a bit light right now on lockdown since it’s a very boiling Spring, it’s not to say that some people should get a permanent lockdown or more like a lockup!
Yesterday afternoon, during lunch we entered the subject of war. I was just discussing the topic of trust with whoever turned up for lunch as a concern came up for us to make a decision and the decision was around safety because of the Coronavirus. Then the topic of trust came about, where I mentioned a friend of mine who was a soldier. She was assigned to enter a warzone and she made a decision when she had to leave her eight-month-old son. She decided that she was going to return to her eight-month-old son, and yes! She did. It’s sad because not everyone in the rest of her team had returned.
I wished for so many years that people would see a person for a person, not for their country’s ancestors and what they’ve done, or the history of the labels we put on people who taint others and give a representation of others which increases prejudice through judgement, racism, xenophobia, nationality, religion or culture even to this day sexism is still very present. So, when we make decisions in a split second through our demons because we got a bit carried away and that right there has created a pattern, you know that saying, in South Africa, it is by far the worst one that quite a lot of people adopt and that is, “If you can’t beat them, join them.” – Jim Henson
I mean have you been that one person once upon a time? You happened to be seen with a group of people and you’ve evidently been placed in that “category,” that same old concept, i.e. labels, boxed, or classification. “Oh, I’ve seen your daughter smoking two streets away. Again she’s with those bunch of losers,” might I add, in my book The South African: True Colours there’s a scene where Saesha’s aunty tells Saesha’s mother that she shouldn’t hang around with one of her school friends or she (Saesha) might also fall pregnant. There is by far enough things to put into context with the topic around being boxed, labelled, or categorised in The South African: True Colours.
There were several times, a lot of times where I was the one who did something completely out of the box first, or for some bulls**t reason I was the sacrifice (what an escape) so that “others could be saved” whether they were saved or not, I really was sick of being the b****y goat. So sick of the game and because I didn’t have much to lose I often went off to the stone table voluntarily to get sacrificed like Aslan, sorry I just entered the world of Narnia there for a brief second (rant alert). So now what’s happening in the world and now what’s going to happen after in this Coronavirus ends? I don’t believe it’s fair for South Africans to pay ten years for citizenship in many countries while other citizens of other countries get citizenship in shorter timescales because they are footballers etc. or because there’s some sort of agreement between countries because of their stupid past. In my experience, the South African passport has been seen as one of the most invaluable passports to have until Coronavirus struck, God knows what happens after that. Personally, what did the world really give me in terms of citizenship after seventeen years in Europe (at the time England was included) and one extra year in the USA? Taxes paid right to the T. Doesn’t that show you the value of life of the life of a South African born Indian or in fact any South African in this world let alone the passport they carry? If you still don’t understand feel free to follow T. Dench Patel YouTube Channel and please visit the first twenty videos from the day the YouTube channel started, read the description and you will completely understand what I mean.
So, if Britain can accept Indian born British as one why is Indians, whites and coloureds hardly getting any equality in the “New South Africa?” Now “tiramos la p**a toalla” (Spanish expression), Coronavirus came to take the whole world’s jobs! There you go! Something is definitely bigger than affirmative action and politicians, hey!
The thing is that when the world is Coronavirus free the thing to do is to do the right thing. Every person that comes your way has paid a price for something (life is hard on everyone) and I mention this in some other articles that hurt people hurt people.
Hurt people hurt people quotes
“Hurt people hurt people. Whole people heal people.” – Unknown
“If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” – Unknown
“The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.” – Unknown
“Hurt people hurt people. That’s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.” – Yehuda Berg
“If you’re cold, you hurt people, if they’re sensitive, you hurt them.” – Unknown
“I’m so sorry to all people I hurt while I was hurting.” – Unknown
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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