Hello friends,
☹ Is it true, it’s the last article of the week again? I think I got amnesia… one sec, let me rewind… eish! (Eish, is a South African expression 😊). The tape (Omg! which times have I been living in?) isn’t going back… Aaa well, I’ll keep you in suspense, besides there’s no point in going back.
Let’s move forward. Isn’t it true, the more one rises up in life the greater the target they become? The president, the King of rock, Meghan Markle joining the royal family being an American, princess Diana (the queen of hearts) and so forth. The greater the target the more a person becomes their own trusted guide. I mean let’s face it, a person that speaks the truth might be considered lucky if they have just one best friend, unfortunately, best friends don’t come in halves.
You know, my Philippino friend once said something along these lines, “Asian mentality is like crab mentality, the minute one crab climbs up another crab pulls it down.” I can certainly say when playing in international championships for anything, or in any sport, there can only be one winner in that category for that season, year or maybe even many years.
Any entrepreneur, anyone brave enough to leave the box, anyone brave enough to do and say the unspeakable, the more one rises up the greater the target gets on their back. However, I certainly can say that over recent years with many high-profile people who have had some difficulties in this arena either created awareness or started making this a topic where they can receive more protection, support and safety.
Why does the target become greater? Because just like anybody else, you get your haters and your followers, you get the givers and the takers, you get both the positive and the negative. This is true for anyone on this planet. If we think about it realistically, the higher one rises the less time they have on petty issues. Now because time is of the essence not many people can track the targeted person down or can really learn about their agenda because only they know what meetings, people, places, things and actions are important to them. Why? It’s only them that know the direction they are going in, so the chances to meet someone similar on that journey are pretty slim (not saying the chance isn’t there, it’s just slim). While this is the case a person on this path will really have to serve out “no” a lot. Now we all know what “no” does most of the time to the receiver of this word? Now can we imagine, over time it takes to say no from start to continual growth of one’s business and personal life, including having to say “no” to yourself? When there’s no alignment then the answer is clear.
However, this is not the only reason why the target is greater on you, everything you offer will either be scrutinised, or it will be of honest help to who uses it, reads it (if you’re a writer), the target audience and even to the audience that is just not aligned at all to your message, vision, product or you. This can either come and haunt you or it can either come to bless you. The truth is we’re all trying (or at least most) to end up having blessed outcomes, but even if the intention is there, it doesn’t always end up that way, and so the braver risk a lot avoiding people-pleasing mode and most work more in purpose-driven mode. T. Dench Patel, 10 March 2021, 16:57 That doesn’t make you people’s favourite, I must say.
You know I think of the higher one goes the temperature decreases; a science concept and one can look at this in many ways.
1) I believe this depends, but most focused people who rise up in their personal and professional life have a lot of noise around them as they begin a journey and as they go up the noise goes down. A less focused person who arrives at the top without strong foundations, systems, organised structures could come to a point of asphyxiation or controlled stress levels until they explode.
But the same with the scientific concept of the higher you go the temperatures decrease; I also think of it as how many people get the privilege to see the view from the top? How they pass the asphyxiation stage still having practises in place? How many others do they get to share these “views” with from the top? What’s the chance of them bumping into each other? No one can tell.
Zooming in more into the title of this topic The braver you get in a life constructed out of the box the greater the target you are is also likely to burn your competitors in some way if you’re not only competing with yourself and you’re releasing unfamiliar innovation which is being received successfully, not everyone will be happy for you.
The target already is on a person as they rise, they get more requests, more of almost everything and they also get attacked, and the more this happens the more they zoom into their values, purpose, whys and so would you believe it if I tell you that the person with the target on their back has to do much more work, continuously working on improving themselves because they are reaching or are in the 3% zone of 97% and have to be cautious of what the 97% are reflecting which is possibly theirs to own and not the 3% to carry.
So, that’s all from me today on this topic, but I am so looking forward to seeing you next week, otherwise, keep up with my daily feeds here https://www.instagram.com/tdenchpatel/ and I wish you a lovely rest of the week.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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