Hello friends,
we all have different lives on this planet, “all things don’t go well for everybody,” said by my mother this afternoon during lunch. True, we have people on this planet who have been adopted, have a wonderful life but feel they have a lot that is unresolved, people like my mother who thought the bravest thing to do over forty-five years ago was to ask for a divorce and the next marriage might just be all that she’s got at a second chance, people like myself that is when you read The South African: True Colours and The South African: Roamer you’ll see clearly what I mean, people whose parents had done everything for them and today, the only way they see an exit out of difficulties is through suicide, we have mums raising children on their own, we have fathers who are good but feel they haven’t been given a fair chance, we have all endued something, isn’t that right?
Yesterday, I posted a quote that was said by my mother during breakfast last week. Take a look at that post on whichever platform you’re using that is Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube (if you want to see the motion graphics) but you can also access the picture of that post under the news page on this website. The quote she said was, “If the first button in a shirt is put wrong then every button will be put wrong.” – Mahendra Purohit
So, what do we have to do if we want to look and be presentable? We need to go back and undo the wrong buttons and start all over again.
How long will this take? This depends on how much work you’re willing to do to get it done properly this time.
It’s true you know, nothing about how you grow up and the experiences that you face has or comes with a manual. There are parents asking where they’ve gone wrong with their kids, they have given them everything. That there could be exactly the reason, or not. Look we can keep blaming politics, the culture, the country, the time we’ve been born and raised in, but the thing is that is the past. It’s all the past. So, if one thing went wrong and from there another and another… then there is something that hasn’t been dealt with, processed and released properly from the beginning. This is true for every person on this planet.
When I wrote my books The South African: True Colours and The South African: Roamer and had to read some chapters over definitely fifty times for sure, I began to see somethings clearly, and to have found myself in situations where I couldn’t understand why my value or worth seemed so low to others wasn’t obvious until I had breakthroughs on the spiritual front that made me realise that value, worth and the subconscious believe around that came from a patriarchal culture, Bollywood films, and through many other girls living in the same dynamic in segregated South Africa during Apartheid, also coming from just under the middle-class mark. I go travelling in the world, and guess what? The majority of the cases are women who stand out in numbers when it comes to domestic violence and if we were to cut that down how much do you want to bet? That a big quantity of cases comes from patriarchal societies. How much do you want to bet? ?
Ending domestic violence against women/facts and figures – UN women.org
World Health Organization – Fact sheet – Violence against women
I just have to ask why women, why is a woman made to be so replaceable? This cuts through clearly in the world of cinema, both Bollywood and Hollywood. Let me ask you if you’ve been following Bollywood movies or Hollywood movies, do you know of at least ten movie series where women have been playing the lead role and secondly, did their movies become blockbusters? Sorry I can only think of Underworld, Twilight and that Kill Bill was awesome. If you still don’t believe me then the 00 films confirm this, perhaps even the Potter, Hobbits or Bourne franchises? (Sorry a bit of a tangent there).
This article came to me this morning despite the list of titles that I already have that I wanted to write about. It came to me, while I was writing in my gratitude journal, I remembered how lucky I am to have had an unlucky ruling in England around my residency and domestic violence case. However it occurred or if I was still being stalked remains a mystery, but by far remains a blessing.
If I have never returned home to the country I left roughly eighteen years I would have probably not been this lucky, to unravel where everything has started and to clear myself off of that energy so that I could have a new beginning and a second chance at life so that I could write the best articles that came up which you have been reading, to have the opportunity to learn a more profound sense of family or living both in the physical and spiritual realms of my existence. Making sense of the past, reflecting now even more than ever intentionally on the future. How do I want my future self to look, even my future, the future I’d like to see for many other women and men on some aspects in this world?
To be able to live, understand and even help heal my home, the past and all those involved is what I refer to resolving and untangling the old beliefs that were set of you (me) and to re-live new and better experiences. To cut off what no longer serves anyone including yourself (me). This as much as it is uncomfortable, I recommend “Do it!” especially if you know that your life isn’t in danger. We have been living in a world where we have been running from the past, ourselves and from those concerned within our past so as to bring peace, closure and resolution. Almost like what’s done is done, here’s what I’ve learnt and if you’ve learnt something, great, here’s what we shouldn’t do again (a collective process), here’s to burying it, and now bless it and let’s start over. – T. Dench Patel, 27 July 2020, 16:16
Want a new beginning? Resolve and untangle the roots of the past even if it’s seriously uncomfortable comes along with that first button of a shirt being put wrong (the quote you read at the beginning of this article), ask yourself, do you want your children or anyone directly affected by your influence to re-live the pattern you’ve lived? This is about cutting off patterns that not only cause harm to you but to others witnessing and being part of the fabric. This will ultimately affect how they end up cutting up their patterns. – T. Dench Patel, 27 July 2020, 16:23
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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