Hello friends,
If you’ve been wondering what happened to my intros, it’s because of the title of this article. Yes, what creates the best version of yourself? Wouldn’t that be the greatest version of love? I have been trying different things and taking creative risks. That doesn’t mean between the lines I’m not asking, how was your weekend, the week or let’s have a cuppa together.
Okay let me ask you this and please we very honest with yourself when you answer it. If you have your significant other with you, let him/her do this exercise. They should not show you their answers.
- Take a pen and a page.
- Write the date when you read this on the page and my writer name T. Dench Patel
- Write the questions down (they’re only five valuable questions) and answer the first four questions honestly.
- Take five minutes to read each question and the answer to each of them.
- Now, wait (just for two minutes), breathe in deep and breathe out x 2.
- Then answer question four.
- Then take your time to read the last question and answer you put down.
- DO NOT answer the last question, leave a long blank space for that answer.
Put the page away in a safe place. Please, pull this page out in eight years’ time. Find me in eight years’ time and tell me all about it. When you read this article and do the below exercise please leave a comment on wherever you read this and type yes, as a confirmation to yourself and the universe that this has been done. That way I know that my job to transmit my message to you has been effective.
Here are the questions
- What do you think creates the best version of yourself? (1)
- What would be the greatest version of self-love to you for you? (2)
- How does that match up to what you see as your greatest version of success? (3)
- Would that be what the world needs, what your nearest and dearest need? (4)
- Now write your promise of self-love and that this best version of yourself is your best version of love. The promise that love means that you will bring out the best version of love out of your partner and others and give your best version of love to them and others wherever appropriate. (If your partner does this exercise this will be good, it will ensure that you do not become extensions of each other) The point of this last question is so that you both become the best versions of love together in each of your own rights within the relationship itself. (5) (Just write what comes up for you under this question)
- (DO NOT ANSWER THE BELOW QUESTION NOW. WHEN YOU DO READ THIS NOW DO NOT CHANGE THE ANSWERS FOR THE ABOVE QUESTIONS) (Beware the below question even when you’re going to read it is going to bring you some sort of epiphanies) The question below should be answered in eight year’s time.
Is this the best version of self-love you have now, that the world has now, your nearest and dearest have now, that your significant other has now and does that match with your answers for the first and second questions that you have answered from these five questions eight years ago? Does the love you give to yourself reflect in all that you do or almost everything that you do? (6)
- Now please put the paper away in a safe place where you don’t keep looking at it and make a note somewhere that eight years from the date you answered this you should look for this paper and answer question six.
I will wait for you while you do that…
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Ready, let’s continue…
On the 24 July 2020 at 9:06 in the morning, I felt like I wanted to challenge you. How much I know about you than you know about yourself.
I wrote this, you can take a look at the graphics on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube or Twitter.
What is the world without change? We have but created the negative and positive through change. What if loving oneself creates the best version of thyself? Wouldn’t that mean that the only change that occurs is one where we only bring out the best version in each other? Wouldn’t that be the best version of LOVE? Would that not be the best version to bring to the world?
On the 7 July 2020, at 13:43 I wrote this. You can take a look at the graphics on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube or Twitter. This message comes from this article The art of detachment for the living and the living dead.
Look, man has created many things, but they all come with an expiry date, but God has gifted us with something priceless. We can’t see it or even put it in a casing to keep on a shelf for later, we can’t even touch it. This gift even enables man to make the most expensive product or experience in this world. Do you know what this gift is? Answer – LOVE
Just think about that for a second, like the feeling LOVE, do you already know how expensive the feeling itself is? How many people get to keep and own that feeling? It’s a luxury I tell you. Look, even some of the richest men/women on earth couldn’t keep or own that feeling on all levels forever. See, some might say it’s a natural death when it comes to romance while it could lack in one area it’s still predominant in many other areas i.e. with your kids, parents, kids’ grandparents, etc. Your utmost passions come through though, why? Because of something within you that has so much love for that. That is why men/women can still be so incredibly resourceful and creative. It’s because of passion. Through my observation when it comes to romance, I observed that many, so many big names out there, so many people that lose sight of their passion (purpose), end up losing sight of each other because they do not believe in the worth of their passion. They’re not focusing on their own worth, but if you focus on self-love, you’ll see that it overpowers self-worth. Why because love always wins – T. Dench Patel, 29 July 2020, 16:28
Why I can tell you this? Because I am and back then I was a very passionate woman (passion can’t be measured it’s the same back then to now) who ended up in a relationship with domestic violence because my passion stated that I could live the highest outcome of self-love which exuded and exudes in society today for my love for people so that I could save others from some horrible experiences that they really don’t even have to try. It will be a waste of a couple of years of their lives when they can shoot straight up with a short cut to living the life they were brought here to live and deliver what they came here to deliver. Some shortcomings are not worth it, trust me!
Reassurance (if you want to call it self-worth then call it just that) comes from self-love, self-love delivers passion and purpose, if pure self-love is just about caring, loving and delivering passionately (purpose) then caring for others is selfless, and where there’s LOVE from PURE selflessness then love ultimately wins. T. Dench Patel, 29 July 2020, 16:45
If you have enough fuel for yourself not only can you boost but you can take others with. The change depends on whether you want to remain as a two-seater, a space-shuttle, a jet, a car, or become a plane. Neither is correct what’s correct is the mission – T. Dench Patel, 29 July 2020, 17:17 (BST)
The imbalance begins to happen when there are two people with just as much passion yet just as much responsibility, to begin with i.e. kids, grandparents, someone in the family that is sick, etc and when dreams get compromised it knocks self-belief and even self-worth. This creates demons that some people take control of while some don’t. That is why I see so many women making the sacrifice especially if they have to raise kids and do what they love doing until perhaps later on in life or never, some changing priorities (which I am not judging at all), and without doubt, some great men have/had extraordinary women backing them up through the foundation initially built on strong love, values, morals and beliefs that are always being faced, challenged, changing, and overcome/overcame together.
Which is why you should challenge all the time why you’re changing? Are you changing to become the highest version of love, through self-love so that you can always do more through that energy/vibration or are you becoming someone that is distancing from the selflessness of self-love i.e. are you heading in the direction of self-destruction? – T. Dench Patel, 29 July 2020, 17:04
How I’ve come to this article and more is through my observations when writing these two articles below.
Self-worth not net worth: The number one reason why you are where you are
Self-worth, not net worth – Why you are where you are – Part 2
Hmm, now after you’ve read this article, does this make you want to re-think your answers and do the exercise all over again? Sure why not, if you’re doing it, I rather you are pleased with the outcome eight years later.
It would be great to find out your epiphanies through this article. Tell me what’s come up for you? Drop us a comment.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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