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I believe when you’re going to read this article, you’re definitely going to end up having some epiphanies. Whether you’re a man or woman, I bet there was a time you had to ask your father or father figure for help or even return home.
When you think about mothers, whether your mum is a single mum, whether your mum is a working mum, whether your mum is a housewife a mum is a mum and what mummies usually do? They give motherly love, nurture, care and protection (two weekends ago) here’s what happened. Me, my mum and my sister decided to go for a walk before we left the gate one of my brother’s friends said it’s hot wear a cap, tell your mum and as we left the gate, he said, “Watch out for the dogs.” I thought, “Why watch out for the dogs? We usually do the walk in this area and there are hardly any dogs left loose,” so out of kindness the three of us shook our heads taking heed to his advice.
We walked our slow walk in the hot sun, dry sand and grass, he was right, it was pretty hot out there and then as we went around the block and came onto our street, we noticed two people working on their electric gate. It seemed as if the electric gate got jammed and the wiring had to be looked at. We kept walking and a big dog comes skipping out of the yard towards us. Worried that this one was one of the dangerous dogs, we tried walking fast, but he just kept curiously skipping towards us with a look of play. I thought his behaviour was weird not like the aggressive dogs I always hoped/hope won’t ever get loose from this one house yet for some reason I thought this was one of their dogs. The big brown baby dog followed my sister who kind of ran off in not so much of an alarm while I walked faster to ignore him, my mum stood still and picked up a stone. The dog was just looking playful and came towards my mum with his mouth a bit open. I went to fetch my mum and really wanted to touch the big brown baby dog. It looked well-groomed too, but I was scared, so I told my mum to drop the stone which she did, and come with me quickly but the big brown baby dog tried climbing on her and tried testing, it sensed that the person he planned to jump on wasn’t stable/strong enough to handle its weight and that’s when I really came to the rescue. My sister with a very worried face screamed in the direction of the two men doing the electrics, “Somebody help us!” The men doing the electrics turned to look at us and surprisingly saw their/his dog with us, he screamed, “Ah! Desmond, (not alarmingly) come here, but Desmond seemed like it’s the first time he’s ever left the house. We quickly walked on while Desmond got distracted by his owner and had to choose a side. When Desmond skipped over to his master, his master carried him like a big puppy, just like the way they carry some cubs at the lion park. As we walked on, we realised that the house with the aggressive dogs was next to the house Desmond came from. What happened there was a protective mother reaction, she was ready to sacrifice herself for us, but I wasn’t having any of it. My sister said the same thing, “She stood there to protect us.” My sister isn’t bad, she just gets frightened out of her skin (especially when it comes to dogs) and automatically goes on flight mode when she sees any loose dogs/dog, she would literally be gone before anyone even noticed.
Now a true father is a provider, I found this out since I returned home. I’ve made a connection with trusting that when you arrive on this planet you will be provided, as well as be cared for and nurtured, not necessarily the way you think it’s going to happen though. Now tying the experience of arriving home to regain strength, get renewed and rejuvenated to being away for eighteen years out there in the jungle world where during that time I was still provided for, cared, nurtured, and protected to some extent is nothing like what the meaning of a father means in a true home i.e. the home in which you are raised, the home in which you have a claim; a right. Please be aware that it’s only the recent work that we’ve done on a consistent level at home which has assisted us with peace, harmony and understanding in our home life for me to present this article to you. For many years the support was fractured because of several factors including South Africa’s history, the crime and violence that happened here before COVID, the numbers in domestic violence hasn’t helped society either.
You know what Oprah Winfrey says i.e. “The fact that you’re here on this planet makes you deserving,” but if you have a good father on earth you’ll see why the home you have built is the only place where you can possibly be at a higher level of self-entitlement than out there in a world where you really do have no control by far of what you cannot call your own. A lot of people who have had some rough experiences out there in the world at some point seek the refuge of their family to return to a place of more power, especially when all has been stripped from them, a place where you can feel entitled is highly necessary. Why? It brings back the belief that you’re truly are deserving before even self-love or self-worth can enter on a deeper level. Why? We live in a world where the rules are unfair and as one person you often can’t really win against it or the system.
The father, the lord, call it whatever you may, higher forces, the universe has provided you with the existence and what does a father do, what does a mother want, the kids to get a good education, the kids to build a strong foundation, the kids to go to the best schools, get outstanding results, to do well in life, so what does the universe, the lord, higher forces want for you, to always increase your standard. It’s the exact reflection of the universal father which provides and the mother who creates space for nurture, care, and protection so that growth can occur. All things living in life requires growth, even that tiny plant which will either survive the forces or not to become a tree. Mother earth provides the space, the food, the nurturing and if that foundation of the tree is strong it will withstand harsh weather and what does the universe, higher forces, the lord whatever you want to call it provides? Firstly it’s existence then the right requirements at the right time for the plant to keep moving to a new level of growth if it’s destined to survive it or to provide for example avocados if the maker and the possible farmer has helped it excel.
So, see, the maker, the father/farmer helps it grow and then maybe one day if it’s destined to, it will return abundance to many. – T. Dench Patel, 1 September 2020, 20:00
So, what it means to live in your father’s and mother’s home? The home within you is a place where your true father lives while your existence here on earth (mother earth) you have been given, in most cases an earthly mother and father. It means you are entitled, don’t get me wrong, not greedy, entitled to the piece of bread that everyone has a right to have. If you’re here on this planet you didn’t come here to starve, you have a right to the equal and exact share of things as long as you’re not begging, borrowing, stealing, killing, harming, hurting, being over-entitled and even under-entitled. No matter where you were born, you were still born on this planet. You damn well go and get your share! It is your entitlement! Soak up all that rain, before the tree next to you grows so tall that there won’t be any sunlight left for you, but remember the most important thing of all, it’s usually a father and mother that helps and provides without asking for nothing in return most of the time. – T. Dench Patel, 1 September 2020, 20:18
So, living in your father’s and mother’s house means abundance is unlimited, it depends on you where you leave the standard of growth at. – T. Dench Patel, 1 September 2020, 20:53
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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