Hello friends,
how are you doing?
It’s Wednesday so quickly. Where are the days going?
Alright, let’s go make a hot drink, especially if you’re with me on this cold almost winter’s day with the crisp wind coming in now and again through the heat. The plants are chilled, and some trees are now bare, all the leaves are stripping off and are now yellow in colour.
It will be warm again in a few days’ time which is why I feel like our winter can feel like the United Kingdom’s spring or ever summer at times. Okay, what are we having? … what would you like? I am going to make a nice thick hot chocolate with one hundred percent organic cocoa? I love this feeling, I love the warm, thick, chocolaty drink… when it reaches my tongue, I close my eyes to savour it, it makes its way to my throat, sending warmth through my body and then I let out this heavy sigh… You know that warm feeling as you hold the nice hot drink around your fingers?
That’s when I know I’m relaxed. What about you? Fancy a hot chocolate?
Cool, I take that as a yes…
Alright, give me three minutes
…
Here we are, ready? Ready to feel that feeling. Let’s go on the count of three…
One
Two
Three
… … … hmmm
Alright, I’m ready to go. I was so in need of that, that I drank mine in one minute.
I am reactivated now.
Let’s get onto this topic. This morning as we had breakfast together as a family, I showed them a short clip of Nick Vujicic that came up on my Instagram feed. Nick was born with no arms and legs to Serbian immigrants from Yugoslavia. He was born in Australia. He is very influential because he lives the example of a life that holds no limits.
Before finding out that (just now) he was born to immigrants from Yugoslavia in Australia someone on the table asked curiously but non-judgementally if he came from a wealthy background.
At which I answered, “It doesn’t matter. If you wake up in the morning depressed, you’re poor, if you wake up feeling like your life is worth nothing, you’re poor, if you wake up thinking you don’t want to live anymore, you’re poor.” At which the person shook their head as a non-verbal response which translates to, “fair play, makes sense”.
If you look further than someone who started from nothing, no legs, no hands and if you look at some people in the world who have come from wealthy backgrounds and have committed suicide, can’t seem to make it to where they visualise themselves or end up in drugs and alcohol addictions it boils down to this.
- How do they, how do you get up in the morning?
- Are you clear about your mission, purpose, and why?
These are the two main questions and the second question is the reason why and how you get up in the morning.
I can see why wealthy people put money to work and not to rest. I can see why wealthy people keep educating themselves. I can see why the minute you stop; you have quit on yourself. The why has to remain constant and if you can amplify it, it’s all the better.
You know, it’s interesting, the word friends came up three times today. So, this morning when I was looking at my Instagram feed Jennifer Aniston also came up, an article on my bed had the word friend in big massive letters and in bold. Something made me look at the latest news, something I don’t really make part of my routine, but I typed in the Google search engine “Jennifer Aniston latest” and looked at an article that related to what I am writing about right now.
One article quotes her words as follows (please don’t take this article as a piece of gossip there’s something valuable I want to outline),
- “I believe in therapy; I think it’s an incredible tool in educating the self on the self. I feel very strong. I’m really proud of how I’ve conducted myself.”
- “I’ve worked with this therapist for a long time, and her major focus is that you get one day of being a victim—and that’s it. Then we take responsibility for our own input. To live in a victim place is pointing a finger at someone else as if you have no control. Relationships are two people; everyone is accountable. A lot goes into a relationship coming together, and a lot goes into a relationship falling apart. She’d say, ‘Even if it’s 98 percent is the other person’s fault, 2 percent is yours, and that’s what we’re going to focus on.’ You can only clean up your side of the street.”
With this article Why some very wealthy people are still poor? It stands out that continuous work at self-improvement, reinvention, reading books, expanding, keep expanding or you become outdated, you can even become outdated in your relationship, everything you want to realise is going to take constant hard work; investing in the self, investing in your relationships, investing in business, invest, invest, invest. This applies to every person on the planet if you want to live a fulfilled life. No matter whose fault it is, just focus on cleaning your side of the street – possibly inspired by Jennifer Aniston T. Dench Patel, 27 May 2020, 20:32
I think it’s simply coming clean with yourself and discard everything that is being said in the external world. Your answer lies inside you and the article on the link above I really found that there’s exceptional bravery with regards to this woman, purely because her successes and some massive painful truths have shown straight out in public, as quoted in the article “There are many stages of grief,” she said. “It’s sad, something coming to an end. It cracks you open, in a way—cracks you open to feeling. When you try to avoid the pain, it creates greater pain. I’m a human being, having a human experience in front of the world. I wish it weren’t in front of the world. I try really hard to rise above it.”
It’s hard to rise above things when the opinions of the external world most of the time are not true and are selected. It restrains the person, puts them in a box that one really struggles to rise above. – T. Dench Patel, 27 May 2020, 20:40 Hence why I understand why she doesn’t look at the media (I saw her interview with Oprah Winfrey some time back).
You can remain poor forever whether you are wealthy or poor materially if you haven’t had the awakening to your soul purpose, mission and how to conduct yourself in life to fulfil just that. – T. Dench Patel, 27 May 2020, 20:43
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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