Hello friends,
how’s your week going so far? Last week my week was “loco”. “Loco” in a good way, I tell you. It’s so hard to pick which day was the best or what the best part of the week was, however, how would you feel if you found a long-lost friend? I was trying to access my old email (some videos on some work I did in Spain for my Instagram account where I was on Cuarzo Producciones national channel in Spain when I lived there) and then I saw a friend’s email, but you know what was the most impressive, my friend has been dropping me a message every year since she stopped hearing from me, I reckon six/seven years, she dropped an email every year hoping that I will answer. Her surname changed over the years, so, I had to make sure that this was a legit email, because of the stalking and email bombardment I received from the previous partner. It was hard to tell whether the emails sent in the “break-up years” was made up, and yes! To my surprise my friend answered me straight away, it was like she never left, and I never left her life. She goes along the lines of, “It’s a Christmas wonder that you answered.” I was going to ask her if she baked cookies along with that message. ?
Let me tell you one thing, Germans make the best of friends, seriously. In some way, my newfound friend pack (even those that I thought left but they’ve never left to begin with) all have something German-like about them. For sure, this is something to celebrate, mum said that morning something in Gujarati that went like this, “Dukh na dara jai pachi sukh na dara ave” which translates to “Painful days go, and then happy days come”.
I for sure feel like my happy days are here to stay now. So now that I have my little family “woolfie” pack, then my friend “woolfie” pack, I feel like I’m going up in Maslow’s needs of hierarchy. This is a good sign, so now what happens when we’re in a pack? Don’t leave them for good, alright! Grow from a controlled distance, it’s the same concept when we meet our significant other, boundaries are essential and time when you can go a bit “loco” so that you don’t lose your authenticity, individuality and reputation, for example, if you’re good and known for making handbags, don’t lose it unless you are purposefully out to change it.
What happens when you’re a teenager or adolescent? You have your skateboarding group, your soccer group, your cricket group, your needlework group etc. and when there’s so much of free time, man, I remember some of the nonsense the boys would get up to, if you don’t believe me, just take a look at the racket the boys create when there’s a free period at school, just imagine what a free day looks like in their lives? The same can be said for the girls, depending what’s the dominating hormone, i.e., testosterone or estrogen.
When the hormones are everywhere and emotional intelligence is out the window, control over whose calm and the controlling, i.e., the noisier ones, tougher ones, the ones that play off being popular and cool …it all gets very shady. I mean when do we know it’s time to break free? This is a part of destiny and divine timing, and when it’s time to break free there’s massive pressure on how it’s going to be received. Every one of us has felt this in one way, shape or form. Self-made, this journey is no journey for the faint-hearted, and when dreams are big, we have to be bold – T. Dench Patel, 10 December 2020, 17:02
I mean let’s face it, sometimes one brother does something and I’d go “you” to both of them while the other one is innocent, and when the other one is not innocent then the other one gets put in the box… sooo just the same if one person in a family does something wrong or good the entire family becomes the black or the white sheep. Isn’t that unfair? Everyone gets put into the jar this whole boxing, you know, we’re either in the cookie, jam, marmalade, or the ash jar (if you’re in the ash jar consider yourself dead). So… you might as well leave the jar even if you’re a living dead life and go and make the life you damn well b****y dreaming of living. That’s better to take a shot at than waiting for something to happen! Go make it happen.
Have you ever thought why people are not leaving the “woolfie” pack to go and explore more about who they truly are from their core? Insecurity, doubt, fear, or perhaps they’ve just given up, but life eventually happens (and something or nothing happens without the intentions in place), i.e., what happens when you meet your significant other? It’s a new phase, not an end of one relationship or some significant relationships but more like a steppingstone (not like the old Hindu mentality or even Indian mentality in other religions) i.e., once the daughter is married she’s out! In some cases, condemned to ever return single or divorced. Sometimes we just have to be aware and make things happen, not forcefully but knowing when we’re sitting in the comfort zone for too long, or when a change needs to happen.
Leaving the “woolfie” pack doesn’t mean anything, in fact, maybe “leaving” isn’t the correct word. Going away to find answers, to live according to where your compass is directing you (the beat of your drum) means that you’re following your own individual path with your “woolfie” pack cheering you along the way in the background until you meet them next. So, see, you’ve never left, you just had to go and learn something or do something significant (you’re currently doing this by the way perhaps on a micro level while you’re with your “woolfie” pack). Someone wrote our soul mission contracts and if one believes in the law of attraction, then why would one not follow something they’ve asked the universe for in the first place?
So, I hope this article has left some food for thought? Was it tasty? Maybe I should have left you with some cake for a thought? ?
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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