Changing right from the start or later pay for an expensive therapist, maybe even an expensive divorce! Oof! What if you have to pay for both? Most of all, is it worth having your life on the line?
Why would you want to live the pain, the heartache, the toxicity, the negativity, the destruction of dignity, the power game, i.e. basically the downward spiral? Only to get further down, emotional bankruptcy to the next stage, financial bankruptcy? Often when something has passed beyond the point of returning the chances are it can’t return, or it won’t return unless the person becomes their own hero.