You know we often live our lives wanting to control so much that it scares us especially amid confusion, cloudy thoughts, the busy days or the moment things are not going right that we forget it really is hard to screw up the right thing. I mean many people that say, “It’s hard to screw up your destiny,” or “you can’t mess up the right one,” or “you can’t screw up what is meant to be.
I am sure there were many many South Africans who missed some really important meetings, especially when they had to close a deal, or were in the middle of discussing one online. While in many parts of the world load shedding doesn’t happen, it was my first time experiencing this sort of electricity cuts in my two years here. I have never had to worry about the electricity going down unless there was a really important reason and I have always paid my bills. It was when COVID hit that I thought about how South Africans are going to keep the economy running while implementing social distancing when we have load shedding as a national issue compared to (so far, I know no other) other countries that don’t have this sort of a problem.
With gaslighting, the victim often starts to believe they are the problem. The abuser is a master liar and will dodge all the truths about their destructive behaviour by lying. Gaslighters try and show others that they are worried about the victim subtly and inevitably make people, friends, family members, the social circle of the victim and their own groups believe that the victim is unstable, has medical conditions that are not even true, that the victim is the one who has the bigger problem or issue. The Gaslighter may also use this by making the victim feel that others feel the same about them even when they don’t.
Then one year later arrived and The day God, Universe, Source energy, Higher power call it what you want stopped time for everyone. Let’s face it, a lot of us were tired of “keeping up,” keeping the façade up, keeping the strength up (whatever that means) that is sold to us falsely; lying in bed for a little longer or for the time one needs was negatively looked at, or that one must be a human being that never shows weaknesses or tiredness. “What, you are not working, OMG!” what is “to work” supposed to mean?
Lily Elbert born in a Jewish family, had a wonderful family life until the Nazi’s arrived at their house. They were ordered to hand over all the jewellery and all their valuables were confiscated. When Lily was 4 or 5 years old her mother gave her a small gold pendant. Her brother knew how important it was to her that he hid the pendant in her mother’s shoe.
While so many people have fallen off their boats right now, just like the year 2008 it’s important to remind yourself heck ourselves not to push against the waves, just stop resisting this change, find your anchor, find a wooden board, somethings to paddle with (if you find other things to capture water, stay warm, catch fish with, great) get on it, stay dry, choose your wave and go if you have to, but just keep moving, just keep taking action until slowly things fall into place… And with faith… Soon enough someone will find you or you will find it, and that my friends, will just be the beginning… it would all be worth it! T. Dench Patel, 4 May 2021, 1606
Michelle Obama didn’t ask, “What are you gonna do?” “Who are you gonna be?” meaning how do you plan to embody everything that you are in your daily life and how will you respond to that. “Who are you gonna be,” is a serious question and some of you out there reading this article have no idea what this real world is like, what space it will hold for us, who might even be around us when we have no one but ourselves to rely on when something is very important to us, or if something is threatening how far we have come in life thus far, “Who are you gonna be?”