Yearly Archives: 2021

Educate children on what they’re getting into way before they begin to select their career

So why would it fail until you make it? Speaking from experience… when you see the coolness of it before even feeling how much work it would take to get there because you see your future self in the uniform and not the duty, or you’re seeing the illusion rather than the real reason why. – T. Dench Patel, 17 February 2021, 16:50 You

Namaste Bhai Goodbye Madam

It still goes on and you must know all the Gujarati terms that go with that, Kaka, Kaki, Jethani (I am sure some of this is spelt wrong), this one I laugh at, “Wow” …. Every time I hear this word that describes a relationship “wow” I can’t help but imagine a big party in my head with balloons bursting everywhere in the background and me going “Wow!” (I am sure the spelling is different but the sound to me is just about the same, only with less excitement) Seriously, I don’t know how many cousin brothers and sisters I have around the world and who are supposed to be the closest ones. 😀 (Kidding).

Drug, alcohol and other additions increase and spread quickly in developing countries but is it really about living in developing countries or is it about living in poverty or somewhere middle-class, even wealthy in both first world and developing countries?

You know when we first went on lockdown worldwide last March 2020, I was setting the table for dinner when I saw a glimpse of the news on the television. I stopped setting the table and went closer to just see if I saw right. I then listened properly to what was going on in the news. What shocked me was the long, very very long queue of people in poor villages in India waiting to buy alcohol when alcohol sale reopened after a temporary lockdown. It hit me then, “Man, these people are really poor how come alcohol is so important for them that they will come either really early to be first or stand in a long queue in the heat?” This really hit me.

It’s often the case where the last person in the race becomes the legacy winner

Let’s face it, no one is interested in your sports team just whether you’re a winner or a loser – Unless you can change the world this is how the majority sees it, but remember one thing, the journey of life is a long race, and you might find that you have moments when you are air, fire, earth and water. If you don’t give up, you are the King/Queen. So, no sorting hat can tell you who you are, only you, so go be your own hero – T. Dench Patel, 10 February 2020, 16:50

The 99% keeps the system in its place, while the 1% work at breaking through the cage

It’s real, yes, the system… It works for those who are comfortable but not for those who are I’m-possible. What is the system? Doing the 9-5, allowing someone to tell you that you can’t do it again and again, over and again, not necessarily harmful, simply because the 99% still haven’t shaken off their fear, they still haven’t been properly able to believe in themselves without betraying themselves over and over and over again, until one day.

Are you looking for your purpose?

Dyslexia, partially disabled, normal (whatever that means to you) whatever it is, there is something you enjoy, there is something that your name and destiny have been stamped with, but it will first take courage to begin the journey before you see the rewards. – T. Dench Patel, 3 February 2021, 19:46

Speak up or clean up – Things get better if honest feedback is given then acted on

So, I come back to the 99% and the 1% again. Which one are you? Are you going to become the master of understanding people through their complaints or see it as constructive criticism essential for success or are you just going to wash it off by labelling them as people who have time for silly things, another phrase, negative people? Who’s talking? Ego or humility?

What contributes to having ultra self-expression?

Hello friends, how’s it going? Hope you had a fantastic weekend. You won’t believe how this article came about. See a couple of days ago I posted a video of me doing Zumba on https://www.instagram.com/tdenchpatel/ . I got quite a bit of messages and comments. I even got people asking for tips on how to…

How being in a relationship enduring domestic violence affected my writing when I wrote my first novel

So, my last tip is this, when writing, the questions to ask are, where is each sentence you’re writing coming from? Does that sentence contain unresolved anger, unresolved pain, unresolved bitterness, etc. that you thought you resolved? What is it meant to show or reveal? What is the root of it and when released in a book is it going to heal someone else, is it going to open up their wounds but most of all will you be the one to close it spiritually or will you be the one to teach someone the correct way to close it? Basically, what is their takeaway? – T. Dench Patel, 27 January 2021, 17:49

Emotional bankruptcy

To reach emotional bankruptcy a person would slowly be debiting their “trust account”. This person will always have emotional conflicts i.e., cannot share with others, express themselves to others, or process their emotions and repress them to such an extent that it manifests as an illness. Basically your “emotional account” could be healthy, abundant or sitting at a minus. How this may come out in a person’s relationship could be in a form of dishonesty, disrespect, blaming, ghosting, petty or betraying, threatening, blackmailing… basically decreasing the “trust” fund.