I’ve chosen this topic because as we go on a journey of healing ourselves, moving forward and letting go, we’ve have some deep-rooted stories and thinking patterns that we’ve adopted from a very young age that we haven’t learnt to let go of or change the script.
In this video, you see a letter that Oprah Winfrey wrote to herself.
As I viewed this video, I thought of it as a healing process; almost like a note to the inner child, the young you. The young you where you never grew from a different experience when it came to happiness, self-worth, feeling cheated and all the feelings that you have along with specific patterns which you didn’t know were harming you or even being aware that they existed and manifested in ways that they sit in you camouflaging themselves.
Your inner child is basically another part of the person that lives inside you in the form of the subconscious mind. A lot of successful people, entrepreneurs and whoever want to change the negative feelings, patterns and thoughts that they have around say, money, men, working for yourself, parenting and I’m sure there are more beliefs out there for every individual begin with the subconscious mind.
Just take a few minutes to reflect on this.
- When you were a child that wanted to act silly, what did someone tell you?
- When you were a child who just wanted to do what you thought you should do, how did people look at you?
- When you were a child, were you punished for behaving the way a boy did?
- Was equality encouraged irrelevant of sex in the home space, with your extended family, community or school?
- How did people behave towards you or your family because of your race?
- How did people behave towards you or your family because of money?
These are just a few things out of many things that you might have picked up in your life, including a sentence a bully had said to you.
Because we don’t know any better as children, we take in all the things that adults know because they know more than us. We don’t think adults make mistakes, and if we do, then it’s our attitude that backfires and stops us from seeing what we can be taught.
The history we made up from our experiences from the age of 0 – 21 has formed patterns in us that we still use. Some might be to our benefit and some need to be replaced with new ways of thinking.
Now you must know that the patterns you have been working with have destroyed a lot of amazing things for you. I’m sure you have some sort of thoughts around that today. We all have said something similar to this at some point, “If only I trusted that person back then, why didn’t I think they had a good intention then? Especially now, when I look back at how their behaviour, language, actions were towards me. Why didn’t I have that ability? The knowing that the person meant well, then maybe today I would have been…”
Just like this story or something similar to it you, still could be running on the same pattern on much more bigger decisions as an adult. The script/pattern you got in your subconscious is there to protect you.
Start to detach from the script step by step forming new habits and beliefs
Re-parent your inner child
Now reflect on the following:
- Go back to the earliest memories you have as a child
- Think of all the good qualities you’ve had as a child
- See him/her playing and meet him/her halfway.
It’s almost like meditation and visualisation. When you meet your inner child play with him/her.
- Hug each other as you imagine this, be kind, speak politely, be compassionate and supportive.
- Tell him/her that they are loved, nurtured, safe, protected. Say the following words, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you,” to them.
- Tell your inner child that you appreciate and value them.
Really sit down and imagine talking to your inner child and comfort him/her and say to them in your imaginary state that you are now protecting them, they can feel safe, they can look to you to get guidance, and that there is nothing to fear. These a just a few of my lines but how much you have felt and need to say, say it and let it go and let your inner child be free from all of it.
If you cry through this process, then just let it out. When you feel heavy emotions coming up, pain, detach from it and release the energy from it. Say, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you.”
This is just the beginning, but the truth is working with your inner child would need you to go through this process several times until your inner child can let go and shine his/her full potential.
Take a look at this article
Have a look at this article too and start moving on, stepping out of your old shoes and step into your new shoes.
Quotes on the inner child
I think my inner child wants to take over the world – Mark Foster
Raising kids these days is hard. I’m the second to last child in my family. I think it’s tough; I have two kids, I see them and I feel like I see things in them; they awaken the inner child in you. – Gore Verbinski
You didn’t come here to earn your worth, it came with you – Sheri Dew
We nurture our creativity when we release our inner child. Let it run and roam free. It will take you on a brighter journey. – Serina Hartwell
Lastly, I’d like you to look at this page on my website. I believe it had everything to do with my inner child. Yes, it’s the script on the homepage. 😊
T. Dench Patel