Hey friends,
How are you doing today?
The more I am speaking to people the more I find how bored some people are of Christmas. I can’t imagine but I have been standing on the sidelines at times watching the Christmas spirit and sometimes even celebrating it myself. Is it overrated? I mean shouldn’t we be thinking about the poor and charities throughout the year and not only during Christmas? Who am I to say that? Still, something is better than nothing. I guess my personal opinion on this is that I believe that if being good is built in your being, then Christmas is every day … to such an extent that when Christmas does come it’s a bit of a normal day, with extra special goodies, adventures and guests; like a birthday, or anniversary or something.
So, are you being good to yourself? Or Are you a liability in this world?
Let’s see, where to begin…
Alright, think about the moment you’re born and growing up. A lot of people have to watch over you because you come into this world not knowing what is a balcony, an electric switch, a flight of stairs or what could happen the moment the front door opens and you see the pool. You don’t know yet that you are actually a risk, burden to resources, economy, time etc. Negative but a true reality, and you go to school after that to learn to become an asset and at this point, most parents dream of their kids becoming someone they imagine in their dreams and as reality unfolds there is so much uncertainty in the journey that your parents might even end up brutally disappointed that you have become a liability even after they’ve given you everything they thought was right for your journey. Having a child comes with no instructions/manual/guidelines.
To be an asset you have to be responsible for your own life one hundred percent.
Being an asset, in my opinion, is always self-improving, making a difference in the world for the better, and taking responsibility of every decision, action, thought and word that comes out of you. We tend to forget this living life.
When is it that you begin to become a liability?
Blame, yes, when you begin to blame all your problems and misfortunes on someone else then this is where liability grows, expands… and it depends on how much you get away with your blaming that will increase the liability you become in society.
That’s when we have to begin to send people to jail for breaking rules and boundaries because of the responsibility they refuse to take.
We all go through misfortunes in life and everyone’s got the same weight as others because everyone’s life experience was and is different so the weight they have you might not begin to understand and vice versa. It’s just the way it is. The difference between you and others is when you continue being a forward thinker and that my friend is the distinction. Holding the card of positivity in life is a seriously good card to have, it’s like having an Ace. T. Dench Patel, 18 December 2019 22:22
Risk
There is a risk to every action even if you’re doing nothing in the middle of nowhere. Some risks are higher the more you choose them; going drinking with your buddies more and more often, leaving your woman with more responsibilities each time while you go and do “business”. Risks are a funny thing and most risks whether you do less or more of become huge risks over time. Seriously, they end up breaking up families, creating alcoholics and drug addicts, suicides, illness… anything. All it starts off with one little action and from there you can get sucked in slowly or straight away. So, the question is where are you using your time? Is your time a lot of minutes in a day on waste or on productivity?
Time is tricky because when you begin to fall more in the liability category you can spend many years in procrastination and this is why some people remain alcoholics, drug addicts, lazy etc for so long because instant gratification isn’t going to get you to your dreams, putting in the work is going to get you to your dreams. T. Dench Patel, 18 December 2019, 22:37
Bad habits
Are you causing a lot of problems and embarrassment? If this is a yes you are going to alienate people around you. How much bad blood will you create just to keep your bad habits and how long do you think you will be able to get away with it? Karma will find you whether you’re homeless or in jail – T. Dench Patel, 18 December 2019, 23:09
According to this article here are a few tips:
“Assets” tends to pick people who are assets and watch who around them are a liability. Some of the people who want to find themselves or employ assets for their company look at the following:
- Are they nice and do they have good intentions?
- Do they pass the blunt conversation test?
- Are they thoroughly vetted?
- Are you people-pleasing?
- Would you refer them to your mum?
Living your life as a liability comes with major regrets. To remain an asset be a forward thinker, proactive, intentional, diligent and continue competing with yourself.
I understand that if you’re at the bottom and down under right now, reading this it’s easy to say that this is just some typed out words (they’re not just words, they truly come from my heart) I know you’ve somehow processed it and in time it will show up in your life. Keep holding onto the Ace card.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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