Hello friends,
If you’ve missed some of my posts because you’ve been away for the holidays, then I wish you a warm welcome back to this site and a very Happy New Year.
I hope you had a great time, relaxed, ate well, and caught up with the things and people you wanted to.
Okay, sit back and relax, while you take your time to read this article. There might be some truths that will resurface for you. Don’t take action straight away, let what’s being said in this article settle for a bit in you and then you will find the answer by yourself. I’m just giving you several viewpoints which I’ve picked up from the past when I’ve observed people and tested the theory myself in my young days.
Ready?
- Have you started a business a few years ago, and for a couple of years things went well and then everything went downhill?
- Have you tried to get your health on track and then after a couple of years you went downhill?
- Lastly, can you notice this pattern in your life; you are up for a couple of years; say three years to four years and then you go downhill, then the minute you go up again you’re sliding in some areas of your life again?
Are you cheating?
Yes, it’s a simple question. Are you cheating?
What do I mean?
So, here you are running your business, but you’re only doing the things you love to do. This is fine, but are you giving the things that you don’t like to do or the things you don’t have “time” for others to do; meaning your family and people close to you? Do you treat these people with respect or carry these things out with full responsibility and integrity; instead you only give full responsibility and some integrity to your business and then to the staff but not to those who are very close to you? So, are you cheating in various areas of your life?
Temporary success will continue in its pattern until you take full responsibility in all areas of your life and be grateful, very grateful for those that come into your life to assist you for nothing in return. Success works like this. Remember this main point here. The universe (if you believe in God then God or whatever you believe in) is watching, yes it’s watching everything you do; even when you take the one pence change which was supposed to end up in the hands of the customer who it belongs to.
It’s hard to be one hundred percent even with dealings when the reality is that everyone is faced with unfair situations. This is the movement/exchange of yours or someone else’s dealings in the universal sense. Karma, divine mistakes etc. You can’t control the unfair situations that are going to come in your direction but you can control every single choice you’re making and if you’re taking short cuts in life on someone else’s expense even the most tiniest ones (all tiny quantities from various people) they eventually add up.
When your dealings in life, especially with yourself, are true and you face most challenges in your personal and business world that you should by yourself (the majority of the time) the universe (God, call it whatever you want) is actually watching. For example, why do you think people keep saying, “Never give up?”
Would you go and tell a thief of time, money, an addict (no offence to someone who has an addiction but if you’ve recovered from addiction you will understand this), someone who still has their entire family still bailing them out all the time, and I am sure you can point out people in your life or even point a finger at yourself on what you’re/they’re cheating on the most… Will you be encouraging people who are not putting all their efforts at all to reaching their aims to never give up?
Of course, you won’t, but you will tell someone who is hardworking, honest, good, someone who keeps trying to never give up.
Are you handling all your affairs; yourself, others, family members, business, employees, customers and friends in a slightly different manner in the way you must with full responsibility, values, morals, the necessary boundaries, comply, keep your word but most of all are you nurturing the trust that these people have put in you?
Being a business owner is being a leader, and no good shortcuts will come back on you. Shortcuts do not help you identify where the problem lies, and perhaps you’re not interested in solving the problem, all you could be interested in is getting the most out of it in the quickest, shortest time and manner without evaluating any consequences.
The other day I shared my viewpoint with someone who enjoyed talking to me. They have some background of me and my family because they’ve known us and our family from the time my dad and mum got married. Even though they knew our background it wasn’t until an article was released about my bio in a community book did, they understand the detail. I left my home in South Africa when I just turned twenty-one years old. The final straw to leave South Africa came after I was held at gunpoint in my first full-time job. I left South Africa with £1300 that I earned on my own. That’s all that I had in my pocket and a job at a hotel which I was very scared of going to (in case it was a scam). I was going to be a waitress.
Now, I get it, the best possible position that any individual could have is to have a high standard foundation so that when they begin to go out into the world on their own their standards are high for their life, but when any person is twenty-one years old and don’t have any guidance from people who understand how can one earn the status as a high valued woman and a high valued life you go about learning from everything that is presented to you because you don’t know better. You just have to hope for the best that your morals and values are so clear that you don’t go in the wrong direction.
The person said, “Wow, so you’ve learnt all this because you had to leave to find out?” The answer was yes, this is true. Only when you have to do everything on your own (everything) and don’t have any expectations of/from anyone to help you or save you for nothing (because the world out there… if no one knows who you really are, believe me, there is a minority of people who will really want to help you for nothing). You are one of the lucky few if you meet someone who helps you for nothing and you might find yourself standing in your own way because you won’t comprehend that there is no catch to it.
When you have to do every little thing on your own and become successful that’s when you can do bigger things on your own. By doing things on your own you become self-reliant; reliant on your confidence, reliant on your self-esteem, reliant on yourself to be responsible, reliant on yourself to be wise, streetwise, and a whole lot of things that come with becoming fully independent and responsible for your life. This is called doing the work and not cheating.
When you don’t cheat in life, the Universe/God/ call it whatever you want sends you help. This is when you can accept help, this is when you can give help and receive help, this is when you learn who you exactly are and what you’re good at. This is living a true life without cheating.
To conclude, look at the areas of your life you are cheating in, talk to people, see if they are doing it because they’re helping you or because you’re forcing them to help you. If you’re forcing them, then it’s time to re-evaluate, and repair those relationships so that you’ve got the right people in your life doing what they really want to do instead of having people around you resenting you for something they don’t like doing for you but are forced to.
Furthermore, I’d like to share this article with you, True success or temporary success?
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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