Namaste Bhai Goodbye Madam

Namaste Bhai Goodbye Madam

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It still goes on and you must know all the Gujarati terms that go with that, Kaka, Kaki, Jethani (I am sure some of this is spelt wrong), this one I laugh at, “Wow” …. Every time I hear this word that describes a relationship “wow” I can’t help but imagine a big party in my head with balloons bursting everywhere in the background and me going “Wow!” (I am sure the spelling is different but the sound to me is just about the same, only with less excitement) Seriously, I don’t know how many cousin brothers and sisters I have around the world and who are supposed to be the closest ones. 😀 (Kidding).

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Drug, alcohol and other additions increase and spread quickly in developing countries

Drug, alcohol and other additions increase and spread quickly in developing countries but is it really about living in developing countries or is it about living in poverty or somewhere middle-class, even wealthy in both first world and developing countries?

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You know when we first went on lockdown worldwide last March 2020, I was setting the table for dinner when I saw a glimpse of the news on the television. I stopped setting the table and went closer to just see if I saw right. I then listened properly to what was going on in the news. What shocked me was the long, very very long queue of people in poor villages in India waiting to buy alcohol when alcohol sale reopened after a temporary lockdown. It hit me then, “Man, these people are really poor how come alcohol is so important for them that they will come either really early to be first or stand in a long queue in the heat?” This really hit me.

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It’s often the case where the last person in the race becomes the legacy winner

It’s often the case where the last person in the race becomes the legacy winner

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Let’s face it, no one is interested in your sports team just whether you’re a winner or a loser – Unless you can change the world this is how the majority sees it, but remember one thing, the journey of life is a long race, and you might find that you have moments when you are air, fire, earth and water. If you don’t give up, you are the King/Queen. So, no sorting hat can tell you who you are, only you, so go be your own hero – T. Dench Patel, 10 February 2020, 16:50

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The 99% keeps the system in its place, while the 1% works at breaking through the cage

The 99% keeps the system in its place, while the 1% work at breaking through the cage

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It’s real, yes, the system… It works for those who are comfortable but not for those who are I’m-possible. What is the system? Doing the 9-5, allowing someone to tell you that you can’t do it again and again, over and again, not necessarily harmful, simply because the 99% still haven’t shaken off their fear, they still haven’t been properly able to believe in themselves without betraying themselves over and over and over again, until one day.

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Speak up or clean up – Things get better if honest feedback is given then acted on

Speak up or clean up – Things get better if honest feedback is given then acted on

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So, I come back to the 99% and the 1% again. Which one are you? Are you going to become the master of understanding people through their complaints or see it as constructive criticism essential for success or are you just going to wash it off by labelling them as people who have time for silly things, another phrase, negative people? Who’s talking? Ego or humility?

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How being in a relationship enduring domestic violence affected my writing when I wrote my first novel

How being in a relationship enduring domestic violence affected my writing when I wrote my first novel

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So, my last tip is this, when writing, the questions to ask are, where is each sentence you’re writing coming from? Does that sentence contain unresolved anger, unresolved pain, unresolved bitterness, etc. that you thought you resolved? What is it meant to show or reveal? What is the root of it and when released in a book is it going to heal someone else, is it going to open up their wounds but most of all will you be the one to close it spiritually or will you be the one to teach someone the correct way to close it? Basically, what is their takeaway? – T. Dench Patel, 27 January 2021, 17:49

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Emotional bankruptcy

Emotional bankruptcy

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To reach emotional bankruptcy a person would slowly be debiting their “trust account”. This person will always have emotional conflicts i.e., cannot share with others, express themselves to others, or process their emotions and repress them to such an extent that it manifests as an illness. Basically your “emotional account” could be healthy, abundant or sitting at a minus. How this may come out in a person’s relationship could be in a form of dishonesty, disrespect, blaming, ghosting, petty or betraying, threatening, blackmailing… basically decreasing the “trust” fund.

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Are you the solution or are you part of the problem?

Are you the solution or are you part of the problem?

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Then I was on an interview with a very interesting guy, named Gary when this actual sentence, i.e., Are you the solution or are you part of the problem? came up in my answer. He asked a question I answered. So, I was literally working on my books and I followed certain processes automatically or so to say intuitively. I ended up going into writing, healing and purpose. Something that I knew but didn’t know how deeply I sifted it out that it literally took the first two novels, i.e., The South African: True Colours and The South African: Roamer both based on true stories ten years in the making until I released them. I didn’t even know the depth of why until I was asked a question by Gary which you will soon come to know and have a chance to listen to. You’d need to wait for that interview to be released. Watch out on all my social media channels for that update, however, you will get a hint on this article.

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