The older you get the more you fear. Can you remember the very first time you felt fear? Did you freeze or did you confront your fears? We all are afraid of something and even multiple things. Maybe you’re afraid of the future, afraid to get into a relationship again, afraid to drive, afraid of making a certain decision, afraid to take on responsibility, afraid that your worst nightmare might come true, fear of losing control, fear of judgement, fear of failure etc.
Fear is one of the biggest reasons why people freeze or stop moving forward. The truth is that often what you fear doesn’t even come true. Over half of your fears are simply an illusion. It’s taking no action because of your fear or staying stuck that will decide your happiness, success and becoming fearless when listening to your intuition.
Awareness is important and taking small steps to face your fears on a daily basis is crucial. Fear can be negative and positive but if you really want to follow your intuition then practice on a daily basis. Watch your thoughts, be aware but you know what’s harder? Catching yourself on the small things you stop yourself with on a daily basis. When you listen to that voice, what it’s telling you, decide to change the dialogue and change the pattern fear has created is when you will start to feel like you’re moving forward. Taking small steps, handling the learnings and what you process out of it will allow you to stop standing in your own way and you will eventually start taking bigger steps i.e. crawl, walk slowly, speed walking and then running… This is a process. Strong foundations are built in this way. Overwhelm confuses you, it makes you like a big tangled knot.
Overwhelm is something you often don’t get to choose. If your husband died suddenly, your situation went from one extreme to the next you just have to get your hands dirty. Overwhelm can be like huge highs and lows taking you on an emotional rollercoaster. Your mind, your limited knowledge, your body isn’t prepared for this sort of overload and because you have no choice you just have to face it. At some point taking too much can come crashing down on you if you don’t get help.
There’s a lot to speak into vulnerability and fear. The world as we know it from child to adult is a harsh and beautiful place. We all have been paralysed at some point with fear of bad things happening to us, getting hurt, not being enough, cast out, change etc. This is the reason why the older most people get they close up. See mistakes are part of life. So why when we’re young we’re fearless and later on we learn from our mistakes then later in life we’re afraid of making mistakes. No one lives a perfect life and mistakes are learnings taking you forward. It’s the previous regret, old age, accidents (some huge ones), shame, guilt and effects on oneself and others that make one think more. You know, once bitten twice shy. What if we believe that now that the lesson has been learnt we’re about to embark on a more interesting journey? You approach fear with knowledge this time. Why stop where everyone else stops? You’re not everyone.
Facing your fear gives you freedom, something most people are seeking all the time. Whether you have all the money or not, all the education or not it’s taking action that fear challenges. Having fear is one thing and actually a good thing at times but if you truly seek freedom then you need to get out of your own way and free yourself from the prison of fear.
What does fear teach us?
- Fear shows us that we’re capable and strong enough.
- That we could divert the story in our heads.
- That we really want it enough and how much we really want something.
- It makes you feel alive.
- Helps you make better decisions.
- Fear is a motivator to do it better the next time.
Check out this link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OwgWkUIm9Gc
The reason why we feel fear is because we still remember the fear we felt with the bad things that happened but did they happen because we approached it fearlessly or because of a subtle fear we’ve ignored? – 15:15, 27 April 2019, T. Dench Patel
T. Dench Patel