Yay! Friends,
I’m sure you have all been waiting for this article forever…
You’re probably saying, or you were probably saying… when is someone going to write about this? Yep, (as I put my collar right with a sharpie smile and a 😉 … see, I told you… I know what’s going on in your head.
I mean I was going to write about another topic tailing this one because they’re both linked in some way, but I figured this is the one coming out instinctively today.
How many of you are overseas reading this article while your family are back in their home country? How many of you are busy driving your business for the sake of driving it, just waiting for that day where you can have that life you’ve been dreaming of with your family and friends or even retiring early? Is it worth it, you know, chasing a phantom or not (neither you and I know how it’s going to turn out) in the worst possible way, through unethical ways, the fast way or with limiting beliefs and as soon as you off one fire another one is burning?
You know I have seen and heard of stories from so many people who gave up on a life or lives (people close to them) without intention or thinking the worst over something that isn’t/wasn’t going to kill them in the end – T. Dench Patel, 13 January 2020, 15:48
Can you imagine if you’re that person or the next person who has to go through this? You’re human, and one never expects this. Every important thing you’re going through especially the worst of times is actually a test. In life, some tests don’t have retakes. – T. Dench Patel, 13 January 2020, 15:53
You know or perhaps you already know my story of living abroad eighteen years, and it’s really coming to the conclusion, each time I came back to visit my family, my parents looked older, more grey hairs than the last visit and more fragile they were getting. This ate me up. Every time I fought a new battle I thought that was going to be it and me and my family will be having better days, we’ll reunite and as eighteen years go people grow up and it got right to the point where they couldn’t recognise the person I have become and I couldn’t recognise the people they have become. You must take technology into account. Eighteen years ago, there wasn’t the technology we have today. Sooo, luckily, I fought to the end, I mean to the very end, where there can be no more to be continued… without further delays and I got right to the ending. I basically hit the concrete, there were no more places to dig anymore, a complete dead end. I couldn’t afford to chase a phantom anymore at the cost of my parents getting old and with furthermore broken issues and misunderstandings with my siblings because we could no longer recognise each other.
This was God’s/Source/Universe’s perfect timing and plan. I really had no more energy left and I didn’t know where to begin. While everything fell apart unconditional love stood waiting for me like concrete… T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:13
Here I am, almost 11 months from that day to tell you that this was the regret I feared the most and prayed a lot that I don’t ever get to face it. There’s still a lot to do with my parents and family but the basic foundation we’ve worked on is really paying off, I know of others who have not been so lucky.
You know money comes and go, people don’t, especially the really good ones – T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:17
I have spent as much time as possible to do my best, and I spend every second of my time wisely (hey, I did end up chilling out some days lately watching a bit of some series. Not a TV person) but spending time sandpapering the past and seeing the new wood is really looking good. I thank all those who somewhere along the last twenty-four years brought me to this breaking point of understanding the value of time and life before it’s too late. Objects and money are replaceable, but life isn’t – T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:29
So, whatever you’re fighting, it’s worth keeping your own life or sparing someone else’s life for it so that you can live without regrets then take all the time you possibly can. Be the difference, make a difference – T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:32
Especially, if you’re a foreigner reading this article, I hope you get to see this clearly, understand that what you really desire is on the other side of what you’re settling for, especially if you’ve settled for something unsettling. If you’re ready to take a risk; by owing yourself honestly what you deserve to get to the desire that really is worth it, then you have pretty much settled for the best with the best course to follow for the best possible outcome – T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:41
If you’re not a foreigner the above still applies, but the reason why I’ve tagged that statement especially to foreigners is that the world can feel like an underworld, I have met tons of people offering themselves to me for nothing in return for the papers and others for money to get papers and I have known tons of people who took these options which turned out to be a mess; domestic violence, attracting drug addicts and blackmail cases in UK, Italy, France, Spain, America and South Africa. Sometimes arrange marriages play some part in that. Why have you put such a small price on your life? Come on, you’re better than that. The minute you see your value, everything else will elevate, risking for the right reasons really does pay off. That’s the kind of courage that earns you better rewards.
There are millions of ways to be free, but the best way is through being you. T. Dench Patel, 13 February 2020, 16:57
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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