Hey friends,
Did you miss me? I sure missed you.
Maybe because I really like doing this and the more I do it, the more I want to do it even more.
How are you? I hope you’re slowly taking steps day by day to live the life you are meant to live. Slow is fine, as long as you move forward.
If you’ve been following my blog posts, you would have already read the article titled Who are you really hurting by saying no or yes.
If it is your first time here, welcome. I’ll leave the link to that article below.
https://tdenchpatel.com/who-are-you-really-hurting-by-saying-no-or-yes/
Take a look at my other articles too. There are several topics I’ve written about to take us to the title of this article.
I remember a time when I was thirteen years old to growing up as a young adult in South Africa. Africa a land where you can’t choose your own life entirely if you are rising from the sand. A lot of South Africans are currently rising from the sand. Right now, the world is so competitive that there are just too many, I mean it, too many people trying to rise from the sand.
Success takes work. I often used to say while rising from the sand, “Why didn’t I get it? I studied, I prepared, I this and I that…”
There is much more that is supposed to happen and let’s face it that when we’re teenagers we got all the hormonal stuff going on and we’re just coming out of what all our lives, most of the time is told to us, “No, you can’t do this. No, when you’re older you can do it your way, but you’re under my roof right now, don’t act so smart.”
There is a journey that goes with success depending on where you are and where you want to be. The bigger the dreams the harder you will have to work; spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally. The most successful people have balanced lives and strive to keep that balance. Think of it as a building. You need to lay down the foundation, make it strong, and then you begin building upwards; putting the necessary things in place so that the building is strong, stable and balanced.
At first, you’re struggling, maybe you don’t have enough money and maybe you’re taking a leap of faith. Maybe your parents paid a lot of money for your education and you’re feeling the pressure. In a world that’s become so competitive, unemployment is so high and tons of people are looking for financial freedom there are a lot of employers taking advantage of people and majority of the time they know most people’s circumstances.
You can’t just stick to your guns and wait for the right opportunity if you require experience, and just came out of Uni. There is a process when it comes “making it”. The meaning of “making it” is different for everyone but when you make it you want to grow more, while some might call this greed there are people who really strive to take their purpose and passion further with pleasure. This is a good spot to be in. This is where you can live on your terms and turn down what is truly not right for you.
Some people, at the beginning of their careers, have to stick to their guns and turn down opportunities no matter how much they need the money.
Like in the video below. Denzel Washington says that he was told to choose carefully his first few roles in movies as that would set the tone of what roles he’d get later on. That would determine his career.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnEf8z1aZns
Stick to your guns, if you don’t feel like you want to do it, don’t. Turn it down. You might be making the decision from self-worth, or setting the standards high, and in the case of artists, it is very intentional. There are just as many singers and want to be singers, writers and want to be writers, winemakers and want to be winemakers etc.… it’s saturated and only the hardest worker in the room who keeps honing their skill stays on top and most of all they really put that ego in its place.
There is no recipe for how things will turn out. From what I am taking onboard is that success is many little actions, the good ones all the time and when those little actions keep joining the dots that’s when you’re in alignment to receive the success which you’ve worked so hard for. T. Dench Patel, 27 November 2019, 22:31
I wish you all the luck in your endeavours, my dear friends. I can guarantee this. When you keep in alignment with who you truly are and you work your purpose with the truth at every single chance you get, you will make it, my friends, you will. You won’t know when, but the most successful people never gave up and that is when they’ve made it. That my friend is already success… T. Dench Patel, 27 November 2019, 22:37
T. Dench Patel
Thank you for the comments and support. Thank you for offering to donate if there was a donate button on here. I prefer not to take donations. You can support by either purchasing one of my books (Paperback or Kindle), The South African: True Colours, The South African: Roamer or my children’s book Light. These books can be found on Amazon mainly and other sites in your country.
The audiobook for The South African: True Colours is available on iTunes, Apple and Audible. The South African: Roamer and Light will be released soon.
Note: Do keep referring back to this site as much as possible, as I grow, a more profound perspective may form and so I will always come back to each of these articles to reevaluate them.
