Hello friends,
hope you are well today.
I thought this was a great topic to go into considering several people are having difficulty right now during Coronavirus and having to be indoors most of the time with yourself, or your partner, or an entire family. There’s a lot of people having difficulty changing the self-talk and if you stay too long in a negative, victim, miserable, unhappy and all types of mindsets that are weighing you down more towards the negative end of the spectrum then it’s definitely time to take a reality check.
Even though there could be many of you out there who are jobless, got a salary cut, hours have been cut from your current full-time job and you feel like you want to get out of the rat race, maybe the situation you have been forced to live in has or is becoming co-dependent, moving from being co-dependent to co-existing and practising unconditional love is helping you to move things along then this article might be what you need in terms of getting another element nailed in.
This video is an even bigger eye-opener. The video is by Brendon Burchard, author of High-performance habits and several other books.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5n919vsIFg
He talks about five things that a person can be responsible for to be happy and summarises them.
– Aim – Look at the opposite that is those who have no aim in life.
– Attitudes – Look at the opposite that is those who have not controlled their attitude in their life and so they have taken on an imbued the negative emotional attitude of those around them.
– Intentions – Look at those who cannot control their attention during a day, how much they accomplish.
– Affections – Look at those people who have no affection for other people and do not control their emotions at all in positive ways.
– Actions – Look at those who are not directing their actions intentionally, what happens is that they always end up derailed in their life, they end up lost somewhere, they end up frustrated, they end up irresponsible for not only their own lives but often for the lives of those who they are entrusted to care for.
Right now, in these times there are many people in your situation, millions…if not billions.
They all are managing their situations in their own way, everyone that is showing a happy face on social media has got something going on in the background. It’s like a wave, it comes and goes until someone doesn’t speak up and say, “Hey, I’m going through this,” no one will put their hand up with them. That’s because showing a perfect world is not relatable to them. You have no hands going up if you don’t demonstrate truth. You only attract the opposite. So, your final outcome will be true to what you put out? – T. Dench Patel, 11 June 2020, 16:19 People want to be understood, and when you can admit to your own hardships, be responsible for it, the hands start going up, and then all you can feel is true compassion, truly, because you can see how many people are hurting just like you. That’s when the mask is pulled off, that’s when the real work can begin and that’s when you can take full responsibility for what is yours to own. Right now, it’s easy to lose sight of personal responsibility with the Coronavirus and the challenges that families, partners, and all other relationships are facing.
With regards to Brendon Burchard’s video. This is what I really liked, agreed with and learnt.
“When we are more personally responsible for our own lives life blooms.”
I can relate to this one and remember the time where I started life with one thousand three hundred pounds. Two years after that, I felt really confident and good about all my survival skills. I felt some serious magic there.
“The time you want to have a map is before you enter the woods. The world’s a big thicket of crazy throngs of people who have all their wants and their wills and if you don’t have your own direction, if you have not set your own life agenda, they will set one for you.”
“The ability to be fully present is really just guiding one’s attention to this moment by giving ourselves alertness and attention and awareness to the very now that we are experiencing, right. That’s power when you are more attentive to your life to the moment you are experiencing it is amazing but attention also applies to what are we’re paying attention to overall in our life and most of us are being guided again by the aims of others so we are taken from our own attention of what we should be focusing on and stripped away into the distractions of the world. Most people’s attentions are not, they’re not paying attention to what they should be paying attention to based on their goals, desires, their dreams or their demands and responsibilities of life, they’re paying attention to the distraction that showed up.”
This article on this link is pretty good https://www.thelawofattraction.com/personal-responsibility/
It goes into the signs that you might be avoiding personal responsibility in detail. In short, they are:
– Victim mentality
– Blaming others
– Making excuses
– Complaining
It also explains in detail with the point below how accepting responsibility can change your life
– Achieve your life goals
– Increase self-awareness
– Increase happiness
– Take control of your life
– Become self-accountable
It also goes into detail into the six important reminders for taking personal responsibility.
– Stop blaming others
– Stop the constant complaining
– Be mindful & live in the present moment
– Get clear & set intentions
– See challenges instead of problems
Hope this helps you point out areas in your life where you are lacking personal responsibility. Below, I have left a few more resources as a guide.
The power of personal responsibility
This article is also very good. Personal responsibility
In the article above you can find in detail these eight qualities of someone who has a sense of personal responsibility. These are the points it goes into.
– Strong communication skills
– Ability to create boundaries
– Humility
– Ability to control impulses
– Courage
– Persistence
– Be your authentic self
– Be organized
Feel free to comment.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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