Trust the process

Okay, so many people have hard times and if you are having a hard time right now then this article is most definitely for you. If not, then this should be enlightening. There’s a very big reason why you are going through all of this. Look, you sometimes think your story is the worst possible one out there until you hear some crazy stuff that hit your top forty of the most insane things that happen to people. Yeah! Mine is pretty insane. When I tell people the story it hits top forty on one dimension and that’s because people don’t know that particular world but there are things that I’ve heard that I’m getting less and less shocked about. You know what, there isn’t anyone that has got it worse or better, the turmoil one can handle is just about enough for them, therefore, it’s the same quantity for everyone. If that is what you can handle, then that is just as equal to another person.

Why is all this happening to you? Why? It’s not because you’re a bad human being or a good human being. You’re human, period. Yes, surely there are some really bad people out there, but they are not the target audience for this article unless they’re sitting in prison or out of prison reading this article and processing it if they really want to understand change for the better. People are connecting the word “Karma” to bad deeds. Nope, it’s not only the bad deeds you’re paying for. Karma is an end of a cycle and restoration of balance. We all are not perfect humans, we had to make a call at times and sure that call isn’t often an educated decision. Nothing is yours permanently and that includes your talents and superpowers. If used for the wrong reasons they are returned back to the universe or the higher being and if you’ve done a world of good then good karma will follow you. To grow you need to let go of the old and the things that are holding you back. The process which you won’t see in the present i.e. because the emotions and circumstances attached to them are leading you to the best possible outcome inline to you and your journey. Your divorce, getting broke after a number of failed attempts at business, finding your purpose, a certain job that you could do but can’t anymore because of an injury, a court dispute causing stress or whatever happening now could just be the beginning or the end. One can only fight so much until you have to let it go and move on.

What is not in your control is the part I refer to as trusting the process. The battle is such that at first, you fight because you got energy, the resources, the power then you realise it’s not as easy as you thought or the outcome isn’t what you’ve expected, you find more resources and fight more, beg and borrow. I hope you didn’t steal. Then you are tired and stressed. You take a break. Sometimes you can continue and sometimes you have to call it quits. You’ll be surprised how much you’ve learnt. Life learning; a skill that you realised you got when faced in a situation where you’re using what you’ve learnt during the hard times to prevent things or provide to others along with yourself as solutions. The diamond born after the volcano then left there dormant for a couple of years.

Processes aren’t easy to accept but to get to where you want to be you have to go through a journey. In order to create change in yourself and outside of you, looking through a lens from multiple angles is key. I don’t know of any successful person in this world who made it without change, without adapting to the process or even resisting. Like Bruce Lee said, “Be like water.” It’s hard because people want to be in control and as we all know… life never goes as planned. When you take things as they are, stay positive and work hard you flow with the process and learn along the way. Sometimes the plan needs a pause, a diversion or a slowdown. Certain things need to fall apart before they can come together. Maybe you need to change your mindset, the plan or even meet someone who will give you a piece of the answer to the puzzle. 

T. Dench Patel

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