Are you an insecure person?

Before you read this article, understand that you’re not the only one out there who is insecure. Do not be hard on yourself as you might not have all of the habits below. I’ve written it to bring you awareness, however, please read until the end.

An insecure person doesn’t ever feel safe, comfortable, genuine, or secure in their own skin. An insecure person adapts to everyone in a social event or when they’re in a large crowd, cannot stand their ground and stand firmly with the thought that it is okay for them to be who they are despite judgement. They find it hard to courageously stick to their direction or push back irrelevant which direction the rest of the crowd are going in or what others might say. An insecure person wants to have control of as much as possible because it makes them feel safe but won’t ever feel safe.

Confidence is quiet and insecurity is loud – unknown

Habits that insecure people have that works against them

1. Insecure people are always downplaying their worth. They always see themselves as inferior, and as long as they feel this way, they won’t ever see themselves on the top. They are afraid to be who they truly are because of the fear of judgement that follows them around.  
2. Insecure people project their insecurities onto others and make others question their self-worth. You will find that you doubt yourself a lot around insecure people.
3. In a romantic relationship, the insecure person will flood you with messages.
4. The insecure person talks and shows their accomplishments, to have the reassurance of their worth constantly.
5. The insecure person is in denial. They will deny all the good and bad and stay on their destructive pattern.
6. The insecure person lacks faith in their abilities or belief that they can get better and continue on the path of what they think they deserve with this belief instead of changing the belief that they can achieve anything they want. They’ve been living in their limiting beliefs for so long that they’ve lost confidence.
7. Insecure people try hard to hide their insecurities. One of the common ways to do this is by being arrogant, but deep down they’re afraid that their cover will be blown.
8. The insecure person will put down other people. The insecure person shows others their high standards and makes you feel like they’re better than you. This is the only way they feel safe.
9. The insecure person won’t ever think it’s good enough no matter how much effort someone has made.
10. The insecure person cannot cope with the fact that they’re NOT always right and can’t listen or take advice from someone who has another point of view and this is because of their need to feel safe.  
11. The insecure person is defensive when something is threatening their sense of self or their belief and won’t look at it as a chance to see a different angle. They see it as losing.
12. The insecure person puts their family last and pleasers everyone else outside that sphere. The insecure person lets others decide and then follows the rest of the crowd, but when it comes to significant decisions or problems in their life, they don’t feel safe managing it responsibly by themselves and try and pass or force their baggage onto other family members.
13. Insecure people’s talks are always about them, and therefore, they have difficulty connecting on a deep level with others. It’s me, not we. They don’t understand the social language and interaction.
14. Insecure people do not want to make waves and give and take the best part of them to the outside world and bring the leftovers home to their family to clean up or deal with. They haven’t learnt the art of being true to themselves. They find it difficult to say no to others.
15. Insecure people can’t leave the world where they’re always the victim. They don’t trust themselves or others.
16. They find it hard to see the good in themselves and others with the cover they’ve put up and therefore miss the best things in life because of their negativity.
17. The insecure person self-sabotages their romantic relationship because they don’t feel like they’re worthy of love. So they push people away and pull people towards them because of their fear of rejection.
18. Insecure people run away from situations or meeting new people and stick to what they know. Things that are alien to them they don’t trust or think it’s a waste of time.
19. The insecure person feels like people hate them all the time when it’s the world they’ve created in their own head.
20. Insecure people have difficulty communicating verbally and non-verbally and will even cover up their body by closing their body with a purse, jacket, sunglasses, books, handbag etc.
21. In tense situations, the insecure person will shrink, tightening their body and might even break out in a sweat.
22. Insecure people are afraid of being alone. They need people to make them feel safe.
23. The insecure person rarely makes eye contact when communicating.
24. They can’t feel secure about the belief they have in themselves and allow other people’s definition of them to give them their meaning. They can’t find it in themselves to provide themselves with a new and real sense of who they are.
25. With people who are close to them, it sometimes seems like the questions the insecure person ask are repetitive even if they got the answer to it was no the first time. They can’t accept a negative response or answer once and continue asking the same question. They believe in the worst.
26. Insecure people are very jealous once they’re clingy.

Here’s a link for additional information about insecure people. https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/signs-of-insecurity

Now with all this said about insecure people know that there’s a lot of insecure people out there and that doesn’t make you a bad person now that you are aware check out this article. Hope it will help you to get through this.

I’ll just quickly reiterate what the points but please click on the link to read the full detail under these points.

https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/signs-of-insecurity

1. Consider your vulnerability as beautify
2. Read your self-esteem file
3. Avoid people you feel insecure around
4. Surround yourself with supportive people
5. Know it’s invisible

Here’s a few more which I will reiterate from the article below but please read it in detail

1. Forgive your past
2. Accept all of yourself
3. Practice self-approval
4. Embrace non-comparison
5. Develop trust in the moment

https://zenhabits.net/insecurities/

T. Dench Patel

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