How are you this Sunday evening?
We’ve made it here together again.
I remember having a lot of topics to write about, but this one stands out. Alright, grab yourself a cup of coffee/tea and let’s sit down and talk. This topic is going to be digging out some intense things that you might not even know about.
Look, I don’t know what’s happened in your lives, I don’t know how you have had to do to keep things together inside of you, suppressing it so that the truth which you know is ugly to someone else (but not to yourself) is going to have massive consequences on you.
You know, two or three weeks ago someone asked me, “What does courage mean to you?” My answer was along these lines, “Courage is when you act with honesty and integrity wisely, even when there are massive consequences to yourself.” 23 October 2019, T. Dench Patel
Some of us reading this article and me writing it while reading it know how painful this has been and still is, and yet we keep doing it without being conscious ever since we were teenagers. I am sure there came a time in your life when you felt that if everyone is doing it, I am going to do it too, but how long did that attitude last until you found out that you were always a born leader who pretended to be another sheep in the crowd?
For me, it has taken decades to see who I always was clearly, and the person who I can always choose to be. It’s only when no one but you can be true to yourself when you’re out there in the real world. It’s only then that you realise the bulls**t that you have bought and listened to back in the days by people who didn’t act from self-belief; challenging the concepts the majority thought was what made you a good citizen of the world. When I hear Ellen DeGeneres story and how conserve the world was back then in their thinking, it’s hard to swallow that you were being judged as if you’ve committed a huge crime. At Ellen DeGeneres time, when she spoke about her girlfriend who died in an accident, I probably was being raised as a sheep in a very complexed time in our country’s history; i.e. during Apartheid.
In fact, in my book The South African: Roamer (book based on a true story) you get to read Saesha’s (MC) first-time reaction when she has a boss who is a lesbian.
You won’t know your ultimate dreams,
until you’re taken to adversity.
Your adversity leads you to your destiny.
Understand that you will have tons of challenges in life.
You have no choice but to take on those challenges like a warrior.
There will be so many battles that will come close to breaking your self-belief
that you’d feel like you are close to dying or even wanting to die.
You will feel like you can’t protect your dreams any longer,
and so, you might give up on your ultimate dreams temporarily.
It’s up to you to not give up on your ultimate dreams permanently.
You have to get up,
and be a stronger warrior each time,
and when you reach your dream, you will find yourself looking over your kingdom,
not just basking in your dream from all your battles both won and lost,
but you will be leading many warriors who look up to your scars
you can help them to become the king/queen or their own dreams.
17 November 2019
T. Dench Patel
I don’t know your current circumstances for staying in conviction with your truth. All the positive leaders of our world both dead and alive were either rejected, shamed, jobless, homeless, broke etc. and undoubtedly wanted to give up, felt dead, felt like they were going to die if they took one more hit. Which great leader doesn’t think at times like they just wanted to get off the face of this earth? One thing I am sure of and that is that they knew most of the time that they were fighting and are fighting for the ultimate game changer and that is to change that one perspective that mankind has made a false truth. These are the deathly phases of dark times when you have kept your word on being true to yourself.
Rising from the depths below to fulfilling your destiny is only meant for one person to take that place, and that is YOU in whatever that specific “category” of challenges are/were. And so… You rise from the depths eventually taking your rightful place, just like the stories they tell of Rama and Sita, Mandela, Michael. J. Fox, Malala Yousafzai … just to name a few.
To conclude, don’t worry if you don’t know the way,
The universe will guide you to it.
Just follow your intuition with courage, with honesty and integrity wisely, even when there are massive consequences to yourself.
Lastly, I want to leave you with this short video of Ellen DeGeneres.
T. Dench Patel