How are we all doing?
Not working too hard, I hope and not letting the kids give you more grey hairs. 😊 It’s mid-week again, and I was wondering about a really good topic, but you know what topic came to me this time. Before writing I usually take some time to educate myself sometimes. By educating myself, I get aha moments that intuitively tells me “This is something people need to know about.”
While doing that something caught my attention. The title of this video, “A time of my life that I will never get back: Jesy Nelson: Odd one out.”
I was like, wow! The title of this video really caught my attention. The name stood out. I said, “Wait, I know this name. From where?” “Isn’t she that girl that I feel her power comes right through what she’s wearing, right through her skin? This talented girl/woman that is such an amazing role model to so many young girls out there.” What struck me the most when I started watching the video was, “I would not ever have thought that this amazing girl/woman was people’s perception of the word fat.” If she only knew that there are tons of people listening to Little Mix’s music, love them and can’t imagine or begin to believe that people out there are bullying one person from this group for something an “educated” person won’t even look at.
Now let me tell you what I saw the first time I watched the video of Reggaeton Lento, which is a song which was a collaboration with CNCO and Little Mix. I do my Zumba with this song. I saw four powerful ladies that were breaking the realms of the music industry, ideals of the music industry, an example of the way women should empower each other and Jesy didn’t look fat she looked different. She could easily pass for Spanish in that video if she didn’t sing in English that is and if you were Spanish with a body, voice, English and confidence like that, you’re a star. I didn’t follow Little Mix; they have enough followers already. They weren’t losing out by not having me as a follower purely because all my colleagues who had daughters in my jobs over the last seven years were all fans of Little Mix. I heard my colleagues just praise the girls so much that I became a follower of listening to them about this special girl band named Little Mix.
And when they sang the “Mama song,” that’s it, they won me over even without listening to their music. I think that song was called Wings. Jesy Nelson was/is part of that too. So many young girls and many others who were/are their fans, don’t know the full impact they’ve made to the lives of those who followed/follow them. They have made such a positive impact taking them to a very unique position in return. Jesy Nelson and anyone in a boat similar to this, if you ever read this article, hold onto the positive thoughts and don’t let the negative thoughts infiltrate, negative people give out negative vibes, and rubbish…
“Apologies Little Mix,” but I used to get confused with you ladies and 5th Harmony. These girls/women are changing the dynamics and breaking “boxes” giving so many girls the belief that they can become who they want even when judgement will keep making its way to everyone in this world who wants to go for their dreams.
You know what’s good about the third world country ways? People in third world countries have too many important things to worry about especially their own life (there’s a lot of ways I don’t agree with) because in a dog eat dog world you have to get hard skin. Not everyone is like this, but most people take life this way because they have to be their own heroes. So, what I notice is they don’t take what people say to them personally because of the amount of envy and competition they face around them daily. Yep, I hear you, who wants to live like that, hey?
I guess it was growing up here for me that helped me to make it overseas. Life in South Africa made me tough and resilient to handle many adversities. Still, I understand when it comes to mental health, and to remind you of that; I’ve taken emotional abuse which included financial abuse for a long time which made it even worse when I really wanted to leave the person.
It took a lot of talks with the police, every time they were called out for a new incident that took place over the internet. In these last years, I became stronger, and the talks with the police helped to get things in perspective, to gain clarity and lucky with time (space is required) to make the mind stronger again. If you keep getting hit with things so much that you can’t even breathe you start making that the truth and then you live with a false truth. 13 November 2019, 15:27, T. Dench Patel
When you read my book The South African: True Colours, you will come to see how a thin girl was bullied for being thin and how this affected the character called Shalini in the book.
To conclude, I really felt Jesy’s pain and bless her, for all the work she had and currently puts in to get back to her old self. So many people can relate to this.
Take a look at Jesy Nelson’s videos here on the trolling.
Jesy Nelson is on another interview here talking about the cyberbullying around her appearance.
Beware, this video might affect you a lot. I just saw the first few minutes and thought if this is the beginning of it what’s is the rest of the video going to be like.
To conclude, when so many people criticise you, this is a reflection of the education these people have received in their life. There is constructive criticism, and then there is the critic that people would stop listening to. Because no one looks to this person anymore they suddenly appear faceless destroying someone who is at least trying for their dreams. It’s easy to believe that everyone out there means well.
This is T. Dench Patel, hoping that this article helps to strengthen our youth and face up to bullying. Oh! One last thing, check out my book Light on Amazon in your respective country. It’s up for an Amazing sorry Amazon competition and is dedicated to fighting bullying. Your reviews on Amazon will help this book win the competition.
T. Dench Patel