Happy New Year, 2020 is here (I’m thinking synchronicities here) … just saying. No coincidences in life and it’s 01/01/2020. You must be at the right time and right place mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally to be able to access this article. To continue moving in alignment you have to be awake, fully awakened and aware of increasing standards that you intuitively feel, to fulfil some major steppingstones in your life.
Can you believe it? I just glanced at the clock and it’s 14:14…woooo….
Okay, ever since December 2014 I have been slowly increasing my standards in every aspect of my life. We all have crises, right? I don’t know anyone who didn’t have some really damn right ugly years in their lifespan. In December 2014, I was right at the bottom, like if you can dig a hole further from the ground I was in the damn pothole. Coming out of the pothole was one thing, then growing like a flower with a strong foundation from the ground up was another thing. I basically got out of the pothole to replant myself in a more flourishing environment. There’s an irony in the image, turns out, in the end, I became the flourishing butterfly who had a home in a budding flower tree whom I grew up with and who knew we’d flourish together. Sorry, this message is so personal and the theory of this is truly for another time because there are so many aha moments from it.
Here are the general habits that most people often change when increasing their standards:
- Physical appearance
- General quality of life
- Personal growth
So, now I am going to let you know what you’re in for when you are satisfied with your standards in the list up there. Times can be challenging and if you’re still going forward even with the obstacles that come up in your life, there is a possibility that one or two places could get a hard knock. This shouldn’t stop you from toiling on with what you have been doing to keep elevating your standards. Remember one important rule in life always, focus… come on… this one is important. Don’t let a few knocks in one or two areas of your life be the reason why all your standards go down in other areas of your life. Sounds familiar? In other words, don’t let what hit you or knocked you make you feel defeated, so defeated, that you feed that area more and not the other areas of your life which you have worked on thus far. Understandably, somethings can take away all the time you have for growth in other areas because of the type of challenges you have to deal with. Don’t give it up, just re-analyse it and make a new strategy especially if you are seeing that the old strategy no longer works.
With regards to increasing standards, I have come to a new level. If you have read my blog posts or checked out my Facebook, Insta, or YouTube account you’d be able to see the level of low I’ve been in. I didn’t just bounce back as I once thought I would, it took a lot of work in many areas of my life to increase my standards. Now that I’m in a familiar environment and to some extent, I can see what standards I had as a child or growing up in a Gujarati community right up to a young adult I’ve unconsciously let go of or circumstantially had to let go of. Now I have the privilege to re-evaluate these standards, learn from them whether they will be a temporary or lasting impact and practise them for the life I am about to go and live. Let’s see how this plays out. All I can say is that when you’re away from some things which you now know not everyone in the world can access you really want to have the opportunity to go back to it, re-evaluate it, look at it from a fresh perspective, learn about it and even practise it because there’s some wisdom there.
So, another thing that has come up and I’m fine-tuning is the present moment, like further than before. Now, no longer a lone ranger, I get to assess the present moment and myself when I’m with people even to the extent that I am assessing the sentences forming in my head before they leave my mouth. This is truly a gift for me. I’ve learnt so much from this that my standards are increasing on a much profound level. Small habits which thankfully I get to see while I live in a collective environment as opposed to doing things strictly when I lived solo. It feels as if I’m in some kind of experiment which I believe I will be taking a lot from for the coming years.
This morning alone, I realised that I should just jump up from bed and not grab the phone, or even look at it and guess what, there I was at 8 am cleaning the pool, finished my exercises, meditation, affirmations, prayer (couldn’t fit in visualisation), continued with the plan I had in mind for today, not only that, I realised how powerful I am, today I got it, I really got it, that my positivity and effort to make my environment healthy affects other people’s state of mind, and you know what… it’s really worth it to make that extra effort. Happiness was floating through the air, we all were breathing fun, love, laughter, joy and all the good stuff. Believe me, what you think is a lot of work actually turns out being fun and often doesn’t take a lot of time then we imagine it takes. In fact, it leaves you so satisfied once it’s done. I found out today, we procrastinate but if we took one day just to conquer all things we procrastinate on from the moment we get up, we will see it did not take up as much time as we thought. It’s the procrastination that is making the work pile up, but our minds make things bigger (yep, the work and time in doing it seem bigger) than it really is.
Raising your standards gives you a better quality of life, and if you have kids, having them around high standards and being consistent at it teaches them tolerance that when they grow up and leave home, or hear some of their friends’ stories they appreciate home and they build a home of high standards for themselves wherever they go be it spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally. At least the basis of that foundation is built strong within them so that they can begin building their very own standards.
To end, I thought I’ll drop this article by Tony Robbins.
T. Dench Patel