Hello friends,
How are you today?
Many of you are back to work and just as many of you who are still on Christmas break. Hope all is well, and everything went well.
I was going to pick another topic, but I decided to flip a coin to see which one I should go with, and guess what? It ended up being the topic that just came up recently. Someone asked me to write about this topic and even told me why. I’ve given the topic this title because there are several things to discuss.
While I was being asked to write about awareness around this issue, I want to share something with you that you might not have thought of while raising your kids. The number one thing that I did not see when I was growing up which I can tell you now is that we were all learning how to manage our emotions, yes; temptation, anger, jealousy, lack, ego, pride, arrogance, attitude, false truth, desire, manipulation, lies, feelings, the know-how, the good side, the dark side and I am sure there is much more.
The twenties and even the thirties can be challenging, but I will stress it’s especially the twenties that your youngsters are going to be tested, they’re still learning about themselves and many are still learning about the adults they are going to become. I am writing this article for you so that you are aware, whether you are a parent or a young adult. I want to make it clear to you so that when you walk through life from now on you will be able to zoom in on your path, walk the path and not get distracted by yours or other’s temptation, anger, jealousy, lack, ego, pride, arrogance, attitude, false truth, desire, manipulation, lies, false beliefs etc. This, my friend, isn’t going to be easy, you and I both know that, but you are the key. You are the key to major changes in our world going forward for the better.
Why?
I will tell you why. What you understand today, a very tiny percent of generations ahead of you really know this. Since there are many people older than you who run businesses, do all sorts of jobs, have a set of beliefs, etc. you are going to find yourself around people older than you (your age or even younger) who still haven’t successfully managed or dealt with their feelings of temptation, anger, jealousy, lack, ego, pride, arrogance, attitude, truth, desire, manipulation, lies, provocation, false beliefs etc of their past. It’s going to come onto you strongly at times and you’re going to have to try very hard not to be tainted by that. A lot of self-control, discipline and willpower is required.
The game is small in your twenties
As a young adult, you’re prone to hanging around with people your age and sometimes a little older, it’s not so important then, who you are hanging around with and how your group of people think unless you’re around some seriously bad people. When your parents sense that you’re not in good company you often meet them with resistance. The truth is, no one knows how each of you will turn out, the present speaks volumes for most, but perhaps what your parents are telling you has some truth, experience and judgement to it.
Ego, pride, arrogance, provocation, anger, temptation, lack, attitude, desire, manipulation, lies, false beliefs, etc. are at their highest when you’re a young adult, the hormones are everywhere. Some of this comes with becoming the legal age; more freedom; legal drinking age, driving, entering clubs, recently graduated and of course getting a real job and earning real money to begin building your life. The one thing that I was so upset with myself for and wished I had a better knowledge of when I finally got it later in life was that I was hanging around a bunch of people who always wanted to be right, how can all the twenty to thirty-year-old age people who hang around with each other know any better unless they’re a few steps ahead; getting their knowledge from older and very intelligent people? Of course, some people don’t share knowledge. The truth is that a very small percentage really understand or make time to follow a role model. No, not your local street rapper, perhaps an entrepreneur or someone who has a history from starting from a point which society calls “loser” to an incredible entrepreneur, inventor, or someone who knows; knows what they’re talking about. Not just what they’re talking about but what they’ve done so far in the world to back that up.
A piece of advice
Yes, I understand that you’re working in a young vibrant team because you’re young. You have your duties, but you can’t seem to carry it out because others still have no idea who they are and what they’re becoming. Perhaps they don’t have a set of clear values and morals or some are slow learners while some are doing what they’re being paid to do without kissing the boss’ ass, showing or proving something. Pure, authentic workers, that’s it and perhaps even pure, authentic friends later on in life.
The truth
Many people are living under a mask, many people in life still don’t understand what individuality is, and there will be many people looking your way instead of looking at themselves. The road IS NOT going to be easy, people will provoke, try and make you jealous, be egocentric, have a lot of pride, be very tempted, create temptation, manipulate, come from a lot of lack, arrogance, attitude, pride, false beliefs, desires, and even false truths which will test you to question who you are and what you’re doing.
My suggestion
- Sit down, get a pen and some blank pages.
- Write down all of your morals on one page.
- Write down all of your values on one page.
- Write down a few affirmations of the person you really want to be
- Take fifteen minutes to read all the pages each day before you begin your day.
- Every six to eight months repeat this exercise.
This will help you to be focused, remind you who you truly are inside, and it will help you execute everything that is aligned with you and bring what you need that’s relevant to your journey.
When you put your head down and follow your truth some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
Do not fall for their demons.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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