Hello friends,
How are you on the first Friday of the year 2020?
Wondering what does this article behold? It beholds the greatest treasure on earth. Hahaha hahaha and the beholder of this treasure lies in the hands of you know who? …
You…
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Sorry T. Dench Patel is back, I thought for a second I was doing a script for a pirate in the seven seas…
Where was I, yes, I hope that 2020 has started off well for you.
Walk away but leave as the better person. This is what true leaders choose but here is the challenge.
A couple of days ago someone said to me, “Dench Patel, I should have done this but everyone else does it so why should I do it?” I responded, “Okay, so if everyone makes a huge mistake, feel like it’s the end of their lives and they decide to jump in a lake I guess you’d probably join them, right?” The person then shook their head and got what I meant but I wasn’t going to leave it there. Here’s the part you’re really overlooking.
Ninety-nine percent of people are doing what everyone else does. How one person reacts another person becomes a carrier of, it truly is a zombie world where ninety-nine percent of the world’s population is a carrier of a virus that lands onto another person, unless the zombie has been awakened. When you settle for less this is how the virus spreads, when you have no idea what you are doing on earth and how to be above yourself (this takes a lot) you are in the ninety-nine percent and the virus goes in a vicious circle, and when you don’t know your worth that’s when the virus keeps coming back and you transmit it onto someone else.
No, I’m not writing a zombie movie script here, let me show you the context.
You are a business professional; say in the sales department in a multinational insurance company and a call comes in from say … Richard Brunson. Firstly, if you haven’t been doing work on improving yourself or keeping current then you will be treating Richard like every other customer and that’s alright if you have been serving every other customer really good. If you have been giving excellent service, do your work honestly and transparently then there should be no concerns and nothing to hide. Know that customers know what you do, see what you do and choose to ignore a lot and know this, do not underestimate the level of intelligence your customers have from what they’re actually showing you because a lot of them are choosing this, there are a lot more people who know more than you, but they choose to be the better person. Why?
- They have their purpose (their why) clear.
- They don’t have time to waste on petty things or playing the who is wrong and right game. In fact, when you have your purpose running through your core; veins, system, blood, mind, body, soul and spirit you have limited time and energy on petty things. Energy and time are used in direct proportions; mainly around your purpose while limited energy is used in other aspects according to the schedule you’ve set out for yourself meaning to say that leaders run their business and don’t let their business run their lives.
You gain nothing from playing a small game, and you are really dependant on the service of so many people out there that there’s no time to see if they’re doing your work properly or not, that’s up to them and their bosses to look at. All leaders have their fair share of stories of the things that went wrong for them which wasn’t their fault, but it’s the knowing that that’s life and you just got to keep the focus in your arena, toil on with your mission and have faith for the best outcome in all areas because you can only control so much. Let the rest be.
- Leaders have had to run businesses themselves, so they understand what other business owners go through, that is why they choose well.
You just got to know better, in order to be the better person
The discussion also led to the benefits of what being the better person does for others. Here are the challenges that go with that. Being the better person firstly takes a lot of courage. You have to be fearless from judgement and do what ninety-nine percent are afraid to do, but when you have your “why” very clear, it makes it easier to be the better person. In order to get to your why you need to know your values and morals. Why?
Knowing your values, morals and why keeps you in alignment to who you truly are, so that you can speak and carry out your truth. When people witness this, they follow you, because that is what sets you apart from the rest.
For example, the other day I walked into a shop where people knew a bit of my background. With no judgement, I said hello to everyone and talked to someone behind the counter who I knew well. The person behind the counter said, “I should have introduced them to you then maybe they would have been inclined to come and speak to you.” I simply responded, “It doesn’t need an introduction to be spoken to. In fact, all the customers were speaking to me. They weren’t introduced to me.” It’s a question of the self. There is something with the self that needs to be addressed/dealt with and only then people will be courageous and fearless enough to be able to listen to their intuition.
Let me put this in an example. Say, there is a girl you like a lot, and you want to speak to her. You think ten times what she could be thinking, might say, might do, imagine yourself being rejected etc. These are all issues with the self, and say if you have been working on yourself and just go at it from a non-judgemental and fearless stance you’d get your answer and lose nothing because your level of self-confidence, worth, self-belief and even humour has been improved. We put a lot of importance on the influencing factors rather than just doing something which is good for us or that our intuition is directing us to do. T. Dench Patel, 3 January 2020, 16:27
Being the better person, this is what you do for others
- You inspire others
- You gain people’s trust and respect
- You influence people
- You help those who want to be helped
Being the better person, this is what you do for yourself
- You stay true to yourself, your truth, values and morals
- You raise the bar to self-control each time you practise being the better person.
- You have wisdom over your personal power
- You have self-respect
- You increase your self-worth each time you walk away from what you believe is someone else’s “game”.
- You take ownership of it; that which is aligned to you.
Alright friends, that’s all for today. Until the next time :).
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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