Hey friends,
How are you doing? I really wanted to write something good even if it came to me late in the day. I took the dog a walk and hoped the topic would reach me, and then I said I have to be willing. I have to be willing to be inspired a little more.
You have to be willing is what has come up on this page…
You know I haven’t lived yet; I don’t think anyone has lived yet; I even say that to my 78-year-old dad now. There are different things he has done, there are different things I’ve done, and there are different things my mum has done in her life.
I am really starting to get it; the more abundance that enters your life, the harder you have to be willing to be down to earth all the time, genuinely, all the time. Drop the ego and be humble.
Money doesn’t save a marriage, a relationship, money can buy a cup of coffee when you’re heartbroken and really need to go out. I can genuinely say I’ve been there, a time where I couldn’t even afford a cup of coffee to go out and get away from my own broken heart just for a couple of hours. I remember I was twenty-nine years old then. Money helps, it helps a lot, but it doesn’t solve everything. Money doesn’t buy the willingness, but money can hire a coach to help you with the inner struggles, and that again requires your willingness. 19:59, 10 November 2019, T. Dench Patel
You have to be willing, even if you don’t feel like it, you have to be willing to go the extra mile.
Let’s face it; we’re all human, we’re not Superman. Energy gets depleted. No one is inspired all the time, no one is motivated all the time, yet it won’t kill any of us to be willing to go the extra mile but beware how much you push yourself, or you’ll end up with anxiety. The truth is it’s tiring, isn’t it? It’s tiring trying to save your marriage; when one person is doing most of the work, it’s tiring to try and find the way to turn around a pattern that you’ve created in some areas of your life that were meant to be doing you good but it’s ending up doing harm, it’s tiring when actions, in the end, speak louder than words and you feel like you’re always making the effort. Then finally one asks when is it’s enough? What is the line from being willing and forcing? Isn’t? It’s tiring that what you see at home, you see at work, you see most of the time around you, on T.V that it almost seems impossible to be different and go that extra mile.
Did you notice the number of times I used the word tiring? People are tired, but hard work pays off. What you work hard on will work out in the end – 10 November 2019, 18:53, T. Dench Patel
There’s another thing that I truly believe in, and that is, put your head down, follow your truth and do the work by putting in your best. Know when you should stop and let go… and then what’s meant to stay will stay and what’s meant to leave will leave.
Think about the forces of nature. Can you hold a wave together? Is it in your hands to be able to keep a rock together? So, can you always keep yourself together? Nope, because you cannot control external forces. You cannot control any outcome, you can just try your best, but you have to be willing to try and be willing to let go where necessary. 10 November 2019, 20:16, T. Dench Patel
You know what’s hard to be willing to forgive. I like how Iyanla Vanzant puts it here in her video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJadDYPbQhc
“You must learn to separate what you think from what you’ve been told to think. “
“You have to check out and think about what you think you can and cannot do.”
There are a few more things I’ve learnt from the video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V0DSD0lvvo
To conclude, when it came to my relationship; the one with domestic violence, I blamed myself for years that I didn’t put in more energy to turn it around, put in more effort etc. I blamed myself for handing over the hard-earned power, which I worked on both spiritually and realistically over the years so easily that I was so close to losing my life. I went over things all the time beating myself over how I should have made it work, maybe if I had the willingness to do this more and that more…
Lucky for me, it became evident when I was being stalked that nothing I would have done more of or less of would help the person I was with or my relationship to change course, because he never had the intention to change his course and neither did he have the willingness to change himself.
I have forgiven that part of my past; I and that person, still, saying that I cannot disclose the rest as only myself and the British Police are aware of the nature of the person we’re dealing with.
So, you have to be willing to love yourself more…
You have to be willing to change your thought patterns to be able to bring you more happiness…
You have to be willing to open up to intuition…
You have to be willing to give things a go…
You have to be willing to trust again…
You have to be willing to make it happen…
You have to be willing to let go…
and I will leave you to continue with the rest.
T. Dench Patel
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