Hello, amazing and awesome people.
Hope you’re doing well today. I wanted to write about this topic not only to help you but to keep it here in my blog posts as a reminder for you and I as we keep reaching for the stars with small steps and for others achieving their goals in bolder and bigger steps.
Along the road, we all face uncertainty when we’ve really decided to go and get what we deserve through living our purpose and our best possible life.
Why is it that you are not following your heart, why is it that you have not done what you said you’re going to do?
So, why are you not living your awesomeness?
You know, I don’t know how easy it is. All I can say is that when I went travelling, I got more reassurance about the fact that it’s okay to be who I am and it’s okay to do what I really wanted to do whether it was going to work out or not. Knowing that no one was there to pick up my pieces gave me freedom and, in some way, limited freedom. I already came from a society where Hindu girls are made to feel that they cannot live their awesomeness and a lot of people had a lot to say about me having my own mouth and me taking action on my life and dreams.
There is your ego and pride, and then there is the other person’s ego and pride. Who is keeping who in check now? My dear friend, keep yours in check so that you can live your awesomeness, but most of all, don’t forget why you’re doing what you’re doing. Don’t forget that reason WHY, and if your reason why pertains to helping others do not lose sight of that. That is what will keep you humble, and that is what give you humility.
Now know one thing, it’s those that never did do what you’re about to embark on that will give you all the reasons not to go ahead with it. Even if these people hold a high place in society or in your family, their ego will feed their pride, and their arrogance to make them an expert in all things; even what you’re about to embark on.
When you’re embarking on it, you will get all sorts of criticism and even made to feel that who do you think you are to try it or go and do it and also start selling it (if it’s something not difficult to set up). The bigger the dream, the bigger the resistance – Alfred Molina as “Doc Ock.” So, I’ll ask you again, why didn’t you pursue learning English if you’re a foreigner, why didn’t you pursue the career that you thought was aligned to you, why didn’t you go for that big dream?
Was it because resistance knew that you were onto something big?
You are the lucky one if you have passed this.
Keep your ego and pride in check because the more you will keep going up, the more you are going to be met with resistance. If you do not do what the critics want of you, you will be labelled as arrogant, someone who has a high ego and pride. Having more boldness, self-assurance and even happiness than an average person by living your awesomeness is going to make you doubt yourself a lot. I mean a lot.
If you’ve been doing your practices; meditation, prayers, affirmations, gratitude etc. just make sure that in there you make some time for a self-analysis/self-assessment; ensure you remind yourself who you truly are. Look at yourself properly and be real with yourself. When you know who you really are, what is not true about you can easily be shaken off – T. Dench Patel, 14 August 2019, 15:16
This article states the following:
“Our desire to avoid being seen as proud or arrogant has overwhelmed our desire to speak our truths or follow our highest potentials. To avoid the blow to our egos of being seen as proud or arrogant, we sacrifice the most precious callings we have. Our “humility” has, ironically, been turned to the purpose of protecting egos invested primarily in the opinions of other people.
In other words, our desire to avoid being seen as egotistical is a profoundly egotistical one. And our egotism — our self-comparison to others and our constant self-image maintenance — is the worst self-destructive behavior we can inflict on ourselves.
The irony of the accusation of arrogance is that it counts on the accused’s moral sense that arrogance is unwise. It succeeds by making the accused defensive of their own relative social ranking as a “nice, non-arrogant person.” That defensiveness keeps them where they are, and they don’t end up doing anything”
I might as well just copy the whole article here. It’s so well written and hasn’t missed anything. Please read the rest of the article.
This is the point that I am taking with me even though the whole article is valuable.
“Ironically, your single-minded, unilateral choice to act at the risk of being disliked is often the most humble choice you can make. And it will give you something far more important than the self-importance of ego: the satisfaction of self-efficacy (true self esteem) and truthful living. No one can give that to you, and no one can take that away.”
You know from my life’s lessons, and I’m sure I have more waiting for me, I’ve gathered that just be true to yourself and your mission. This WHY I keep going on about. I know it’s so cliché, but it’s true. Stick to that who you are, your reason why and how anyone else’s sees you in the world is not about you but them.
As long as you stay in check with you, and in my case, I will keep making an effort to keep in check with me and my mentors, I know that I will never know the answers. See you’re always realigning to the next thing, and at times it might be shaky till it falls into place. Only you know what you’re doing and why, and I genuinely hope that your why is so much more significant than just you.
Know as you keep moving up, you will be met with resistance and cheer. Just remember, that once upon a time it took a lot of work, struggle, sacrifice, rejection and even resistance to come to where you are today. By not letting others dictate who you are as a person is a great achievement, so, don’t go back to where resistance wants you to come from, just keep on your path.
Here are some more articles if you did want to look at different angles of ego, pride and humility.
T. Dench Patel