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This article is tailing this article over here. I recommend you read this one first if you haven’t read it yet Giving time is more expensive than giving money. Focusing on money more than time has brought many people some of the worst regrets.
Do you want to really know why love still, by far remains to be the most expensive thing in the world including the biggest healer?
Men, women and children have been born and then have died and whether you are the richest man, woman or child on this planet or the poorest man, woman or child on this planet love reaches all people. The amount of love that can lie in the poorest man, woman or child can be over one hundred percent than the richest man on the planet who might do nothing in the world to make a difference because risking love, giving love is the costliest feeling and act to hand out. It’s true, those who have nothing have nothing to lose. They have everything to gain yet love doesn’t ever appear in front of them at that moment? Because it’s a massive risk.
Love isn’t picky we’re picky
When high school sweethearts meet love for the first time, it’s destiny that picked them. It’s mainly predominant when love comes for the first time to pure hearts, but in general, many people never expect to end up with the person they’re with for life.
Love isn’t picky and we’re picky; it matters because people want to be sure that before they give some love they’re giving it to someone worthy of it, someone who understands that this piece of them they’re giving is exclusive almost like it’s the most expensive thing to give, act or hand out. Why do you have to earn love? People go through all sorts of things to earn love, to feel that feeling again, that connection and some will even do anything to feel love even if it lasts minutes or seconds and crave to want more. People even lose their purpose, direction and themselves in the name of love. Love is so big that in the act it creates a massive sense of pleasure that people will even become criminals of.
All this love does, the act, feel, touch and taste and the requirement of having it from certain selected people. I mean we’re even born into families because of love even if you have at least one parent looking after you by and through love, you’re raised through love and some people are abandoned in the name of love. It’s crazy right, what is everyone looking for and when they get it what is everyone running from?
People are afraid to love or afraid to reveal themselves to people they love
Love is so expensive that we are not willing to crack open our hearts and be vulnerable because we might feel stupid, make a fool of ourselves, and open ourselves up to pain and hurt. Most people feel this but there are just as many people who are labourers of love, they have linked love to so many positive things that they risk without thinking of what could become of them.
Love is expensive because we feel rejection, anger, extreme connection, vulnerable, open, good, happy, sad, generous, adventurous etc. and what can follow if you’re not a picky person is the corruption of self if you’re a good person who ends up with the wrong person. People lose their businesses in the name of love, their houses in divorce settlements in the name of love, people get blind in the name of love, people even lose their children in the name of love. Isn’t it tricky? So, see why people are so scared of falling in love? Why people are so choosy at love? Why people can even wait for years to end up with the right partner, husband and even remain single forever in the name of love?
You know one divorced woman told me, “If I have to choose again this time around, I’ll choose to go with a woman, but then again, that means still having to deal with what comes in having a relationship.” Love just brings along with it so many hormones that are released that it can make you crazy.
When love hits a person there are no exceptions
Love is love whether you’re the richest man on the planet it will find you and the chances of you finding it might even be very high. Being the richest or the poorest doesn’t guarantee that you will keep what you’ve found even if you’ve found something good, but you will certainly let go of something quickly if it was bad. Divorce, heartbreaks, death, cheating, no longer looking for the same thing happens to both the rich and poor. It finds you whether you want it or not and then you can certainly be happy ever after too. There are no guarantees when it comes to love, miss one appointment with love and it’s an argument, become less grateful at love and you lose it, step in the wrong direction and it’s gone, and so that is where the richest and the poorest cannot do anything, they could be sitting in the same boat but still can’t find their idea of love, they both could be lucky or unlucky in a series of bad relationships. Money helps to ease the bureaucracy that has become the reality of the world, you know paperwork; divorce settlements etc so you can cut yourself free. People love under conditions; they want love and they want so many other things with it to make them happy, whereas the poorest man and the richest man can continue working hard, surviving because of the motivation they get from love and understand that it is the woman who has much more to lose if she bore his children. So, see why love looks so complicated from the outside. Love is actually simple we all complicate it, our dependency on survival has complicated it.
Love is a healer
When people have been together for so long that they’ve have built trust and invested in themselves, their relationships, the good healthy patterns to direct their family in, and have so much love and concern for each other it’s a motivation, it’s love that is a healer. It’s motivation for a child to do well in school so that he/she can spend this summer with their dad/mum on a special trip if his/her mom/dad has separated or divorced. It’s motivation to continue working hard, take abuse in the job just so that at the end of the day your child has their school fees paid for at the beginning of the month, it’s motivation for a father to leave his child and wife to go an work abroad so that he can give them the life that he really thinks they deserve at his cost, by sacrificing himself. It’s motivation for a single mother to never give up on the dream of her son/daughter of not having a life that she had or turning out like her; without an education. It’s the love a child remembers when he/she sees their parents at their school play or play an important match, it’s motivation, it’s love that makes them score the goal to win the game if that’s what their parents really wanted to see. Love moves all sorts of mountains, so much that almost nothing is impossible without it. T. Dench Patel, 18 February 2020, 18:31
Unconditional love, domestic violence and toxic relationships
You know it takes a special person to stand by your side through thick and thin, and some people in your life are more “work” than others. The truth is that everyone deserves a chance and should be given that chance to change. Unconditional love is something else, it does not mean you must take abuse whether it’s an extended family member, immediate family member, partner etc. or not, there comes a time when you have to let go of the same person/people who you have given so many chances to change their patterns. Domestic violence starts with breaking a number of rules and boundaries making you accept more and more. It begins with one slap then when you think it’s over you get verbal abuse some more time passes then you get mind games. These people push boundaries, they select the time and how they will feel powerful slowly making you accept their behaviour. Because a year has gone from the last slap and a three-month break from taking on verbal and emotional abuse people tend to think that these people will change. There can be only so much time frame and investment you can give into working things out, but it takes two very willing people to fix it back to respectful grounds. Unconditional love isn’t accepting abuse, please understand this. Take a look at this article over here My number one tip for women who just came out of a relationship with domestic violence. There are some people who will keep dragging you down and they won’t stop at it. The sooner you find out the better and walk away. Keep this information to yourself as you have no idea how far this person can cross the line or if they already have done this before to another person.
To conclude, women especially really need to be careful because of the hormones that are released as they form romantic relationships. These hormones obscure them so far that they idolise the person. Please read this article, it may save your life Emotional intelligence – “Go with your heart but take your brain with you” – Quote by Jim Kwik.
There you go, a full analysis that I can think of today on Why love remains to be the most expensive thing in the world including the biggest healer.
Yours sincerely,
T. Dench Patel
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