Author Archives: TPatel

Changing right from the start or later pay for an expensive therapist, maybe even an expensive divorce! Oof! What if you have to pay for both? Most of all, is it worth having your life on the line?

Why would you want to live the pain, the heartache, the toxicity, the negativity, the destruction of dignity, the power game, i.e. basically the downward spiral? Only to get further down, emotional bankruptcy to the next stage, financial bankruptcy? Often when something has passed beyond the point of returning the chances are it can’t return, or it won’t return unless the person becomes their own hero.

Reasons why one parent can seem so incompetent when it comes to sharing kids. It really is a pity

The biggest knock one can ever have is finding out that one has placed all their self-worth in the hands of their husband, wife, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend. The biggest knock and shock after that is finding out that we were seeking love externally when we haven’t given ourselves the love that we really deserve from us (us the very person owning our body, mind and soul).

Why single, independent women travelling around the world get so little respect?

Simone is from New Zealand and by this time she knew all too well what it was like to be a single woman travelling around the world. She participated in some great paragliding competitions and joined paragliders in Peru, Greece, Cape Town man… I lost count, but she has pretty much been in places where I can’t even pronounce the name or even the country properly and just like myself Simone was certainly targeted in the workplace, by players (men), in gatherings, in environments (gosh I wished we knew better, then) where women like us i.e. who earned our own money, struggled to make it overseas, lived clean were seen as a threat.

Brown people and Black people. A topic everyone has been waiting for

Alright, so over the weekend I was present with this, “T. Dench Patel, you know we white people are so fed up, the finger points at us and it goes on and on about how racist we are. It makes me angry because when I went to India and not even going to India, I met Indians who are very spiritual and yet they follow the caste system. I wondered how can they say they are spiritual, yet they have strong “virtues” around the caste system? Also, brown-skinned people have racism with dark/black-skinned people.”

State of flow or “living in the zone”

When reaching the optimal state of flow the brain releases five chemicals, i.e. norepinephrine, dopamine, serotonin, anandamide, and endorphins according to The neurochemistry of flow states and that is when we can perform our best.

Now, can you understand why humans can become so addicted to drugs instead of achieving the higher state of consciousness through natural activities without disturbing the body’s natural compass, or mechanisms? Taking external substances messes with the brain and with the release of chemicals.

Changing the energy changes everything

That is why some people have mastered the law of attraction on our planet and they believe that circumstance or no circumstance, changing the inner GPS changes where you’ll be positioned in your life. This GPS can get you anywhere you want to be, but you have to know the mechanics of operating it from a higher place which I call higher intelligence. – T. Dench Patel, 10 November 2020, 16:40

What is the most expensive currency? Time vs how you make people feel vs money

Money is just an energy that is a great thing to have if you are doing good things/deeds, time and how you make others feel work in harmony. If you are not only serving yourself and using it to empower others, then that’s when you leave a mark on lives using all three i.e. time, money and how you make others feel. You pretty much left your legacy; the thing is how great do you want that legacy to be? Again, that depends on the individual. – T. Dench Patel, 9 November 2020, 23:02

Do we really have to represent our race or others from our country overseas? Why isn’t just being a representation of humanity enough?

A couple of days ago I was talking to a friend from Canada when she said this, “Here in Canada a lot of Canadians don’t trust Indians and Jamaicans because they lie so much. Our company lost so much money because of that.”

Having lived half my life in the eastern and western culture – Here’s another take on something

I basically started thinking about the differences in the western healthy ways compared to the eastern negative ways. Why in the eastern culture people seek forgiveness mostly when they’re in their retirement age, why do they only realise and accept their faults only at retirement?