Author Archives: TPatel

It’s often the case where the last person in the race becomes the legacy winner

Let’s face it, no one is interested in your sports team just whether you’re a winner or a loser – Unless you can change the world this is how the majority sees it, but remember one thing, the journey of life is a long race, and you might find that you have moments when you are air, fire, earth and water. If you don’t give up, you are the King/Queen. So, no sorting hat can tell you who you are, only you, so go be your own hero – T. Dench Patel, 10 February 2020, 16:50

The 99% keeps the system in its place, while the 1% work at breaking through the cage

It’s real, yes, the system… It works for those who are comfortable but not for those who are I’m-possible. What is the system? Doing the 9-5, allowing someone to tell you that you can’t do it again and again, over and again, not necessarily harmful, simply because the 99% still haven’t shaken off their fear, they still haven’t been properly able to believe in themselves without betraying themselves over and over and over again, until one day.

Are you looking for your purpose?

Dyslexia, partially disabled, normal (whatever that means to you) whatever it is, there is something you enjoy, there is something that your name and destiny have been stamped with, but it will first take courage to begin the journey before you see the rewards. – T. Dench Patel, 3 February 2021, 19:46

Speak up or clean up – Things get better if honest feedback is given then acted on

So, I come back to the 99% and the 1% again. Which one are you? Are you going to become the master of understanding people through their complaints or see it as constructive criticism essential for success or are you just going to wash it off by labelling them as people who have time for silly things, another phrase, negative people? Who’s talking? Ego or humility?

What contributes to having ultra self-expression?

Hello friends, how’s it going? Hope you had a fantastic weekend. You won’t believe how this article came about. See a couple of days ago I posted a video of me doing Zumba on https://www.instagram.com/tdenchpatel/ . I got quite a bit of messages and comments. I even got people asking for tips on how to…

How being in a relationship enduring domestic violence affected my writing when I wrote my first novel

So, my last tip is this, when writing, the questions to ask are, where is each sentence you’re writing coming from? Does that sentence contain unresolved anger, unresolved pain, unresolved bitterness, etc. that you thought you resolved? What is it meant to show or reveal? What is the root of it and when released in a book is it going to heal someone else, is it going to open up their wounds but most of all will you be the one to close it spiritually or will you be the one to teach someone the correct way to close it? Basically, what is their takeaway? – T. Dench Patel, 27 January 2021, 17:49

Emotional bankruptcy

To reach emotional bankruptcy a person would slowly be debiting their “trust account”. This person will always have emotional conflicts i.e., cannot share with others, express themselves to others, or process their emotions and repress them to such an extent that it manifests as an illness. Basically your “emotional account” could be healthy, abundant or sitting at a minus. How this may come out in a person’s relationship could be in a form of dishonesty, disrespect, blaming, ghosting, petty or betraying, threatening, blackmailing… basically decreasing the “trust” fund.

Are you the solution or are you part of the problem?

Then I was on an interview with a very interesting guy, named Gary when this actual sentence, i.e., Are you the solution or are you part of the problem? came up in my answer. He asked a question I answered. So, I was literally working on my books and I followed certain processes automatically or so to say intuitively. I ended up going into writing, healing and purpose. Something that I knew but didn’t know how deeply I sifted it out that it literally took the first two novels, i.e., The South African: True Colours and The South African: Roamer both based on true stories ten years in the making until I released them. I didn’t even know the depth of why until I was asked a question by Gary which you will soon come to know and have a chance to listen to. You’d need to wait for that interview to be released. Watch out on all my social media channels for that update, however, you will get a hint on this article.

“De la sartén al fuego”- translation “From the frying pan to the fire” but have you ever thought…?

You know, let’s face it…If you’re jumping from the fire to the frying pan the heat is supposed to be low right? … my frying pans were on high and that’s not how it works, the point is, it should go down considerably less … why not jump into the familiar, right, where all the pigs are sitting together in their blankets happy and merry? (pigs in blankets is a popular meal during Christmas). What now? First, I call you a pig, your significant other a devil, then I’m advising you to be calm and act like Dory, then I’m calling that one an angel… woooo… flounder is getting upset… hahah just playing, once upon a time I was a pig stitched up in a blanket, right now people are either like flounder, Dory but one thing for sure is that there is an angel to all of us as well as a devil and it depends which one is dominant.

Detach self-regard even when you know your inadequacies – Jordan Peterson

If you act in accordance with your highest values, sometimes that makes your day-to-day operations difficult, because you have to confront unpleasant truths. You’d have to discuss things that you’d rather avoid. It would be easier to act to decrease conflict in the moment, but it’s a very bad medium to long term strategy. You have to engage in a certain amount of conflict moment to moment if you are going to say and do the things that are necessary in order to set things right in the medium to long term and for an increasing large number of people and that’s also another guide to leadership, I would say. You need a broad scale vision.”