Category Archives: T. Dench Patel’s Blogs

Intermittent fasting and meditation

Hindus and Buddhists fast to increase self-discipline (being hungry but not reacting), concentration and mindfulness, it’s also for purification. This article is incredibly good in terms of fasting and how it improves cognitive functions, longevity, better immune system, and weight control. This article is also very good in terms of its explanation on the three stages of fasting, i.e. the crisis stage of where the body uses it’s own resources to remove toxins from the body, then the fasting peak and lastly the normal fasting state.

The abundance mindset

When you bathe in short lived glory, no satisfaction or fulfilment, it’s not abundance it’s lack – T. Dench Patel, 12 October 2020, 17:01

Honouring, valuing the ego and having awareness around not letting it come in your way

What if I offer this? From the ego, take the motivation, then check into your external reality, (ouch! This will hurt the ego a little but it will recover), your internal reality will shift when you capture the external reality, then take the motivation and drive towards the new internal angle aiming it to the bullseye i.e. your reason why. – T. Dench Patel, 8 October 2020, 22:25

Love Royale Loyal

Here I was sitting and pondering on a topic on the list I’ve made to write a blog post,
But I’ve been staring at this blank, white page like a ghost.
This song, I wonder where you are has been playing for the last two days,
and if I know you, you’ll walk into my dreams like a blaze in the maze.

The frequency of words – Using empowering language

If you’re engaging with a person are you engaging with them because you’re truly interested in their answer or are you aiming for the weak spot to detonate? Just watch yourself to see where you’re stemming from when someone is responding to you. Are you deflecting what you’re reflecting or are you reflecting what you’re deflecting? – T. Dench Patel, 5 October 2020, 22:45 – T. Dench Patel, 5 October 2020, 22:45

Have you ever had that moment in your life where you just wanted to sleep almost all the time?

The sleep that the body demanded, like seriously I have never felt the body feeling so like it didn’t want to wake up, I don’t recall ever feeling like that. My body felt slumped that it dragged my entire self into a deep sleep even when the alarm clock sounded for me to wake up. I wouldn’t say it was depression because that came in later on (lucky I am pretty good at not getting in a very downstate, I often draw a line on it, especially on this topic). I was the queen of drawing lines, but somewhere from these four years prior to this point most of the lines rubbed off and that really stood out.

Let them go

…let people leave, it’s not personal. If they don’t want you, that doesn’t mean that you are at fault, it doesn’t mean you’re unworthy, it doesn’t mean anything. It simply means that what they want has changed (they want something else) or they’ve just chosen wrong and if that’s no longer you, don’t force it especially when someone has put a clear expiry date, without no more stories and drama. All they want is scot-free. – T. Dench Patel, 29 September 2020, 16:07

Is playing dumb the newest trend to being smart!? Why?

So I started to play stupid and I guess I ended up gunning myself down, because there was a catch twenty-two, if I stayed my smart self, I’d be gunned down by someone else and if I stayed stupid (didn’t see this one coming until it happened) I gunned myself down. – T. Dench Patel, 28 September 2020, 16:22

Rejection is leading you in the right direction

Rejection is merely showing you all the time that this isn’t what you’re deserving of, it’s best to let what rejects you leave because it would be living a lie and settling for something you’re saying you deserve when really that’s not the case.

It’s not personal when people move on. We focus so much on how it happened rather than why

The pressure is truly strong because people will say “Whose this person?” When really they should be saying, “Alright, that old person is now outdated, I trust that he/she is making the right decisions and therefore I trust that he/she is not coming from some sort of trauma,” and I myself will put my hand up at that.